We are fine with being nude in front of each other although we don't walk around the house naked being naked has never diminished our desire for one another. Even after 14 years bf still gropes me or I catch him staring at my body while I am naked and I do the same to him sometimes it turns into more and sometimes it doesn't We also try and teach our children that there is nothing wrong with the human body and even though it can be sexual being naked doesn't equate sex. They have seen us changing or showering and with nursing the little one my eldest is quite familiar with seeing breast.
Nudity with your significant other, good or bad?
06/27/2011
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I totally understand and agree with you.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
The quote said "You shouldn't [be naked in front of your husband]. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch." That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. He won't "buy you lunch?" Maybe this woman's
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The quote said "You shouldn't [be naked in front of your husband]. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch." That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. He won't "buy you lunch?" Maybe this woman's husband is just a jerk.
I don't walk around naked much, but only because we have children (I wish that had been one of the good reasons in the poll for not doing so.)
I was raised with a lot of shame for the naked body, and overcame it around the time I started having sex. After a false start as a kid, when I had no body shame and was given a really difficult time about it by my parents. I realized the shame was bullshit, and rejected it along with a lot of my parent's persona hyper-conservative ways. (Weird, as my father has liberal politics, and is a bit of a Libertine in his sexual behavior, but tried to raise me to almost be afraid of sex. I guess that what a lot of dads do. My mother on the other hand....I truly believe she never liked sex, and didn't want me to like it either.)
My Man LOVES to see me naked, I can't get dressed for bed, even if I think he's asleep, without getting fondled. "Hey, don't bother putting that nightgown on....." We've been together decades and he loves to see me naked, as I love to see him naked..... and he still buys me lunch often. less
I don't walk around naked much, but only because we have children (I wish that had been one of the good reasons in the poll for not doing so.)
I was raised with a lot of shame for the naked body, and overcame it around the time I started having sex. After a false start as a kid, when I had no body shame and was given a really difficult time about it by my parents. I realized the shame was bullshit, and rejected it along with a lot of my parent's persona hyper-conservative ways. (Weird, as my father has liberal politics, and is a bit of a Libertine in his sexual behavior, but tried to raise me to almost be afraid of sex. I guess that what a lot of dads do. My mother on the other hand....I truly believe she never liked sex, and didn't want me to like it either.)
My Man LOVES to see me naked, I can't get dressed for bed, even if I think he's asleep, without getting fondled. "Hey, don't bother putting that nightgown on....." We've been together decades and he loves to see me naked, as I love to see him naked..... and he still buys me lunch often. less
Except our kids ARE all grown 'n gone from home and yes, it's still fun to walk around naked or partially naked....except we are apartment managers and you never know when there will be a knock on the door....yay for peepholes! lol
...and yes, he still buys me lunch too, maybe even more often now.
06/27/2011
"I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive."
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach.
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach.
06/27/2011
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Does this woman speak for ALL of France, or only herself? My guess would be the latter.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
"I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive."
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in ... more
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in ... more
"I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive."
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach. less
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach. less
06/27/2011
I am 100% comfortable being naked with my partner, but I don't care to be naked 24/7. I do sleep naked, whether there will be sex or not, and I do like to walk around the house in skimpy clothes. I am very comfortable being naked, I just don't choose to be naked all the time - just whenever I feel like it.
06/27/2011
we're comfortable being naked but we try to limit
06/27/2011
While we aren't naked all the time as we have 4 kids, if we are in our room (private shower and bath) the bathroom door is never closed....well most of the time haha. We lay with eachother naked and commonly change in front of eachother. We are very comfortable with eachother and with our own bodies.
06/27/2011
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Maybe it's one of those really weird paradox situations where nudity in front of strangers isn't as intimate as nudity in front of someone you're actively having sex with?
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
"I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive."
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in ... more
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in ... more
"I am hoping with my heart of hearts what this woman was trying to say is that she wants to keep some of the mystery alive."
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach. less
It sounds so curt in English that I'm sure it was a literal translation of something commonly said in French.
I agree with the idea of leaving something to the imagination, I'm just very surprised that French women are so adamant about nudity with their partners. I haven't gotten very far into the book, but the prevailing attitude — Arielle Dombasle's is not alone — is to never let your lover see you naked unless séduction is underway. It seems weird since this is the same nation where women go topless at the beach. less
Insterestingly enough, French men are also depicted as glorious horny bastards who will tear a woman's clothes off for a glimpse of her naked body to sate his deviant thoughts. Or maybe I've just read too much Penthouse Letters.
06/27/2011
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Ah, my "commonly said" referred only to Dombasle's "he won't buy me lunch" comment. It sounds almost insane in English, the way, "it costs an arm and a leg" would sound very strange translated to French.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
Does this woman speak for ALL of France, or only herself? My guess would be the latter.
I'm taking Elaine Sciolino's word that no-nudity-in-the-bedro om is 'the norm' among French women. Her interviewees are not a scientific cross-sample of all of female France, but she is the former Paris Bureau Chief of the New York Times. She has some credibility.
Actually, Sciolino was on your side of the fence, thinking that Dombasle's attitude towards being naked was the by-product of an aging sex symbol realizing she was past her physical prime. The author was surprised when other interviewees answered in the same way.
06/27/2011
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"glorious horny bastards who will tear a woman's clothes off for a glimpse of her naked body to sate [their] deviant thoughts"
Originally posted by
Ansley
Maybe it's one of those really weird paradox situations where nudity in front of strangers isn't as intimate as nudity in front of someone you're actively having sex with?
Insterestingly enough, French men are also depicted as ... more
Insterestingly enough, French men are also depicted as ... more
Maybe it's one of those really weird paradox situations where nudity in front of strangers isn't as intimate as nudity in front of someone you're actively having sex with?
Insterestingly enough, French men are also depicted as glorious horny bastards who will tear a woman's clothes off for a glimpse of her naked body to sate his deviant thoughts. Or maybe I've just read too much Penthouse Letters. less
Insterestingly enough, French men are also depicted as glorious horny bastards who will tear a woman's clothes off for a glimpse of her naked body to sate his deviant thoughts. Or maybe I've just read too much Penthouse Letters. less
Doesn't this apply men globally?
06/27/2011
We are comfortable but we have to limit it because we are not living together.
06/27/2011
We spend most of our time naked. It's really convenient, because I like to randomly fondle his penis
06/27/2011
My wife likes the apartment warmer than I do, so if it were up to me I'd be naked all the time when at home. That said, we have found that limiting our nudity at least a little bit helps keep a bit more of a spark - I just love watching my wife dry off after a shower, even if there's no sex on the horizon, and if she were naked all the time then I probably wouldn't appreciate gazing at her quite so much.
06/28/2011
We're naked pretty much every waking hour that we're home and our sex is still hot as hell. We've been together for 10 years and I don't think it's ever been ordinary.
06/28/2011
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"if she were naked all the time then I probably wouldn't appreciate gazing at her quite so much."
Originally posted by
Bonesdance
My wife likes the apartment warmer than I do, so if it were up to me I'd be naked all the time when at home. That said, we have found that limiting our nudity at least a little bit helps keep a bit more of a spark - I just love watching my wife
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My wife likes the apartment warmer than I do, so if it were up to me I'd be naked all the time when at home. That said, we have found that limiting our nudity at least a little bit helps keep a bit more of a spark - I just love watching my wife dry off after a shower, even if there's no sex on the horizon, and if she were naked all the time then I probably wouldn't appreciate gazing at her quite so much.
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I believe this is my husband's POV. He gets to see it all the time, no work involved, so...
06/28/2011
We sleep naked but I really prefer to be wearing something around the house; lingerie, short shorts, workout clothes. My partner will lounge in boxers, I enjoy seeing his aroused manhood, even when sex will be "later".
06/28/2011
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at..."
I find that a frightening perspective. How is my body violent? It is the social constructs around it that are perceived that way. As a nudist I find it laughable. It is all about context.
I find that I often wear more clothes leading up to sex, because sexy lingerie is way more interesting than nudity. having outfits specifically for sex still keeps the mystery and excitement alive.
I find that a frightening perspective. How is my body violent? It is the social constructs around it that are perceived that way. As a nudist I find it laughable. It is all about context.
I find that I often wear more clothes leading up to sex, because sexy lingerie is way more interesting than nudity. having outfits specifically for sex still keeps the mystery and excitement alive.
06/28/2011
My fiancee and I are naked a lot around each other. I've never really taken the time to think about it though.
06/28/2011
Right now, it's a "no." I love being naked and am almost always naked at home alone, but I have never been nude before man except during intimate moments at night. I thought being so comfortable with being nude when alone would mean I wouldn't care when with a partner, but once my guy and I hooked up, all those old hatreds and fears of the things I dislike of me (too much fat/jiggle, tan-less skin, old scars, etc) rose up loud and clear.
I would really like to be as comfortable around him as I am on a daily basis, but I'm just not there yet. I think that being nude ALL the time might dull the sensation seeing a loved one naked can create, but I do not think it's an end to my man's lunch buying, as the original poster's quote suggested. =)
I would really like to be as comfortable around him as I am on a daily basis, but I'm just not there yet. I think that being nude ALL the time might dull the sensation seeing a loved one naked can create, but I do not think it's an end to my man's lunch buying, as the original poster's quote suggested. =)
07/02/2011
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we have astanding rule if its our own home we stay nakied
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable
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A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable with him, and that I enjoy the freedom of being in my natural state.
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
07/02/2011
We're both comfortable being naked and tend to be that way around one another when the kids are asleep and we have the house to ourselves.
07/03/2011
I think being comfortable naked together is a wonderful thing. We do casual nudity around each other and we both feel more comfortable naked as a result because nudity doesn't automatically equal sex.
10/24/2011
I would hope anyone would be comfy being naked with their significant other....they would not be considered significant otherwise, right?!!!!
10/24/2011
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Very comfortable naked together.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable
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A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable with him, and that I enjoy the freedom of being in my natural state.
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
10/25/2011
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WOW...glad I am NOT married to that woman. Too much DRAMA in her thought process. Even the good old Bible says "cleave unto your mate"...in short, become "as one". That means shyness and shame have NO place in the marital household. Also, the amount of WORK it would take to stay hidden? If we needed to that to keep each other interested, it would be sad indeed.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable
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A few days ago when the subject of our being naked (other than during sex) came up, my husband told me, "being naked is becoming ordinary, it's no longer special," which he considers a bad thing. My opinion is that I'm comfortable with him, and that I enjoy the freedom of being in my natural state.
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
Then I started reading, La Seduction: How the French Play the Game of Life and came across this interesting quote:
"Nudity is extremely violent to gaze at... I would never walk naked in front of my husband. Never, never, never... I'm nude when I'm alone, and I'm nude when I'm in his arms, but never in a sort of casually stupid gesture of the morning or whatever. Never." – Arielle Dombasle, actress, singer, performer
Bear in mind this is a woman who has performed, top-less, at the Crazy Horse in Paris. She went on to say:
"You shouldn't {be naked in front of your husband}. Otherwise he won't buy you lunch."
In other words, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I'm familiar with the saying, but I always judged it as something that applied to non-committed relationships, not marriage (or civil-unions, or any other long-term commitment). Now I'm beginning to wonder...
What about you and your significant other — outside of sex are you naked in front of each other? less
Oh..and her words "VIOLENT TO GAZE AT"? Holy Molly, is her world dysfunctional or what? After 32 years of happy (and often naked, including in the SHOWER together, LOVE, and indeed, continued LUST), I find her entire statement repulsive, and insulting.
I hope SHE is happy (and her spouse...whoever that may be) is likewise cool with her concepts. As for us...we are just FINE seeing each other, with or without cloths. THANK YOU.
10/25/2011
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(Mr. Bignuf answering) FUNNY you say that. I enjoyed your post, because it just made me realize, Naked, does NOT automatically say "we are having sex" now. It does act as a turn on, somewhat, but not 100% signal of anything. HOWEVER....if she walks into the room, or calls me into the bedroom and has Lingerie on. BINGO...that means ONE, and ONLY one thing. PLAYTIME. .
Originally posted by
MaryExy
Personally, I don't think I'd walk around naked if I were alone in the house, let alone with a partner in the house. I like clothes to keep me warm, though.
I like being able to associate nudity with sex. If a partner and I walked ... more
I like being able to associate nudity with sex. If a partner and I walked ... more
Personally, I don't think I'd walk around naked if I were alone in the house, let alone with a partner in the house. I like clothes to keep me warm, though.
I like being able to associate nudity with sex. If a partner and I walked around naked all the time, I think I would get tired of always subconsciously saying, "Naked is supposed to mean sex!" Plus, being naked all the time would remove the thrill of lingerie to me. I mean, why cover it up with clothing (regardless of how skimpy it is) when he normally sees everything uncovered? That feels wrong to me... less
I like being able to associate nudity with sex. If a partner and I walked around naked all the time, I think I would get tired of always subconsciously saying, "Naked is supposed to mean sex!" Plus, being naked all the time would remove the thrill of lingerie to me. I mean, why cover it up with clothing (regardless of how skimpy it is) when he normally sees everything uncovered? That feels wrong to me... less
Thus, nudity in no way REMOVES the thrill of lingerie, it, in fact, makes lingerie MORE special in our household. It becomes the CLEAR and UNAMBIGUOUS "turn on" signal!
10/25/2011
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Of course...we are NOT into the "French" think of walking around nude in front of our kids. SO...after we had our daughter, CLOTHS were indeed worn around the house, and once she moved out...well, naked is more "in" again around here!
Originally posted by
married with children
we limit it because we have young kids at home. If we did not, I would want to see her naked all the time.
10/25/2011
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Mr. Bignuf responds. AGREED. Well said, but it only happens when it is REALLY warm out and the curtains are drawn. She can just as likely be wearing FUZZY JAMMIES with FEET, if it is cold...and that is okay too, as she is STILL sexy to me.
Originally posted by
DexterStratton
To me, it's all about her comfort level. Personally, I could look at her naked 24/7.
10/25/2011
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BINGO...exactly how I feel. Nice to know I'm not alone on that one!
Originally posted by
Ms. Spice
nudity itself doesn't have to be sexual. lingerie makes it sexy though
10/25/2011
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After 32 years it has not diminished one iota for us either. Thankfully.
Originally posted by
newfoundlust
We can't due to having teenagers around. I personally think nudity is natural and comfortable, yet I am hardwired as a guy that nudity is arousing, I love seeing my wife nude, and that is after 25 years. I don't think that more nudity would
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We can't due to having teenagers around. I personally think nudity is natural and comfortable, yet I am hardwired as a guy that nudity is arousing, I love seeing my wife nude, and that is after 25 years. I don't think that more nudity would cause that to diminish.
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10/25/2011