My GF's premature orgasms. What to do?

Set alerts

Updates

CrazyMike

I have amazing relationships with my new GF, full of love and sex, but there is a but... almost every time we have sex, she cums faster then I do, and once she gets off, she loses any interest, and the show is over.

How can this even be possible? I mean, it has always been harder to reach a peak for women than for men, hasn’t it? But, apparently, my girl is different.

Almost every time I gotta finish myself off because she doesn’t want to proceed after she has cum. I don’t have anything against masturbation, but I feel awkward, unsatisfied and kinda stupid because of this situation.

And I don’t know what to do. Should I learn to get off faster, or should she try to last longer? What is the solution? Any advice will be appreciated!

01/06/2020

All promotions

Bailed

CrazyMike.

You should be happy that she cums before you. Get her off a few more times.

Your experience is the first time I've heard of women losing interest after orgasm. Women I've known are getting warmed up with their first orgasm. My fiancee's record is 12 in one afternoon of mystical sex, all with my tongue on her clit.

After my fiancee has had a few or more orgasms, her vaginal contractions demand hard, rough, nasty, hair pulling, ass slapping, dirty talking banging. My fiancee has to be banged hard after she cums.

The biological inequity is women in their sexual primes do not have limits on the number of orgasms they can experience.

01/06/2020

Croc

sensation as it is. Hard to say if you are in the luck.
If I were you, I'd ask her to help you get off - handjobs, blowjobs, sumata, anal... and do it regularly.

Or look for other fish, seriously.
When a girl polls about her bf who behaves like your SO, ladies advice to dump the guy who doesn't 'reciprocate, satisfy your needs, fulfill his end of relationships' ...and other phrases they use

01/06/2020

Perspicace mais érotique

Quote:

Originally posted by CrazyMike

Wow, that's amazing. You must be doing something right!! Not to get too much into your personal sex life but is that just from vaginal sex? or do you first focus your attention on her needs (oral sex or play with toys,etc)?

When I first read this, I thought well maybe she is young and a bit immature so she is not considering his needs as much as she should. But I don't like assuming things about people so I will just say this: with my husband, I am not happy unless I know that he has enjoyed the experience as much as I have. If I cum first (which is the case sometimes), I want to continue because I love the feeling and I enjoy him cumming almost as much as he does. My question to you: have you had a conversation with her about this? have you brought up this concern to her?

Also, if you are focusing on her needs first (in ways other than vaginal sex) to make her cum early on--maybe you should switch it up and start with vaginal sex since you know she loses interest after she cums. If she is cumming quickly with just vaginal sex--then I guess my best advice is to have that conversation with her to share your concerns and try to figure out a solution. Flattery works wonders with women so tell her that you would rather be inside her for your orgasm (and describe how wonderful it is to be with her instead) than to masturbate and you were hoping to figure something out to make that happen. Maybe suggest that you feel a bit rejected when she doesn't want to finish with you because she has been satisfied already.

In my experience, the best way to work out issues like this is communication and honesty. Good luck!!

01/06/2020

Leil@

(EdenFantasys)

Indeed, trouble reaching orgasm is a more common thing for the majority of women. But there is a small percentage that experiences premature orgasms, and looks like your girlfriend is one of them. Of course, there is a solution, as well as with premature ejaculating, it is not the end of the world.

I agree with Perspicace mais érotique, you should have an open conversation with your GF about this issue. Don't you think that she may consider her quick orgasms as a problem too and feel ashamed, guilty and frustrated that you weren't able to finish also?

After orgasm, the genitalia of some women, especially the clitoris, can get overstimulated and very sensitive, and it could be uncomfortable and even painful to continue having sex. So this may be a possible reason why your GF doesn't want to proceed after she has climaxed.

Try to figure out what are the triggers for her orgasms (maybe these are certain positions, or type of sexual act, or intensity of your moves, etc.) and try to avoid them.

Also, I think, things that work for treating premature ejaculation can work in your case as well. Try edging, Kegel exercises, slowing down the tempo of intercourse, etc.

But at first, you should openly talk with your GF. Wish you luck!

01/09/2020

CrazyMike

That is what I've bee trying to do to be a great lover - putting my woman's pleasure first. And it always has been a bit of work to make a girl cum.

But this time things are different. We have different types of sex, sometimes with toys, sometimes not, and it isn't always that she orgasming before me, but most of the times it is.

I didn't think about it from the point of view that it might be a problem for her too, and she lost her enthusiasm for further intercourse because she feels discomfort...And I think it might be true...she just doesn't trust me enough to speak openly about her concerns.

So I guess I should initiate a conversation by myself and try to gain her trust.

01/10/2020

orgasmicfarmer

My partner of 26 years is very similar. She cums fast. That said, she has always been aware of my sexual needs and never stops till I'm done/happy. Frankly, I think your partner should, too. I'd certainly talk to her, but I wouldn't shy away from outright saying you're not entirely happy.

01/10/2020

Total posts: 7 Unique posters: 6

Make a post