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Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
I want sex multiple time a day, as many times as I can get him to give it to me...

But lately my man simply confuses me on the entire matter of sex ...

sometimes he wants it 5 times a day and other times we go for weeks without doing it...


Now he has decided that we should be celibate... after almost 3 years of having sex... what should I do?

P.S. We dont live together, but we see eachother a couple times a week
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Self pleasure
Try to convince him to change his mind
ladychristie
1  (10%)
Other/comment
Ilovelingerie , slynch , martb40 , unfulfilled , Ciao. , Modern^Spank^Anthem , leelee , potstickers , Bethy Cassatt
9  (90%)
Total votes: 10
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02/22/2012
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Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
I want sex multiple time a day, as many times as I can get him to give it to me...

But lately my man simply confuses me on the entire matter of sex ...

sometimes he wants it 5 times a day and other times we go for weeks without doing ... more
I would also like to add that his reason for not having sex is because he is afraid of me getting pregnant.


I would be able to be satisfied with just touching and oral... and he is happy to do so, to me... but I am not aloud to touch him (sexually) or anywhere even close to his penis nor am I aloud to kiss him anywhere besides his lips or on the cheak.
02/22/2012
Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
Me and J went through something similar, we used vcf effectively for over a year. He had no self control so even though he'd say we weren't going to have sex it never lasted long. Then not even a year after he moved in with me I got pregnant right after I made an appointment with my ob to get those implants so I couldn't get pregnant.
02/22/2012
Contributor: martb40 martb40
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
I want sex multiple time a day, as many times as I can get him to give it to me...

But lately my man simply confuses me on the entire matter of sex ...

sometimes he wants it 5 times a day and other times we go for weeks without doing ... more
If he doesn't want to have sex with you then it's time to trade him in for a different model. Obviously he doesn't want the same things that you do and you need to take care of you. He obviously doesn't give a crap for how you feel.
02/22/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
There are other options to not getting pregnant besides no sex. Condoms, birth control, pulling out, etc.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
Has your man expressed any reasons other than pregnancy as to why he doesn't want you touching him and why he no longer wants to have sex. There are plenty of ways to ensure mutual pleasure without sex and plenty of ways to have sex without pregnancy, so it seems to me that there might be something else going on there.

Periods of really wanting and then not wanting sex are pretty normal, but a decision to just not have sex at all is something that may be because of larger issues.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Ciao.
Has your man expressed any reasons other than pregnancy as to why he doesn't want you touching him and why he no longer wants to have sex. There are plenty of ways to ensure mutual pleasure without sex and plenty of ways to have sex without ... more
He hasn't said any other reasons... I know he is still attracted to me, and I also know he gets just as horny as me, that is clearly visable when we are making out lol, so sexual appeal isn't the problem... and he's always talking about having sex!
02/22/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by unfulfilled
There are other options to not getting pregnant besides no sex. Condoms, birth control, pulling out, etc.
Well he used to pull out... but anymore, its harder for him to want to...
I mean three years of not letting it out
(besides durring anal, which isn't something we do often)
I would be fine with him letting it out on my stomach or something, but he hasn't ever beem into that idea... I don't think he likes seeing it or something.


BC isn't something I am into, I don't want to take any chances on messing up my body... and I'm not super into condoms, but I would be willing to use them if he would be.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by martb40
If he doesn't want to have sex with you then it's time to trade him in for a different model. Obviously he doesn't want the same things that you do and you need to take care of you. He obviously doesn't give a crap for how you feel.
I couldn't leave him, I wouldn' last a day without him in my life... I just want some sort of compromise.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by ladychristie
Me and J went through something similar, we used vcf effectively for over a year. He had no self control so even though he'd say we weren't going to have sex it never lasted long. Then not even a year after he moved in with me I got pregnant ... more
Ya his control has never been good in the past either, but he seems more serious this time... and my body is very lonely.
02/22/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
wow
02/22/2012
Contributor: leelee leelee
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
I couldn't leave him, I wouldn' last a day without him in my life... I just want some sort of compromise.
Since you don't want to leave him than try to compromise.
02/23/2012
Contributor: Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
Talk to him, really. Why does he want to go cellibate? Is it for religious, personal, or is he having medical problems and can not continue. You need to talk with him, and if you wish to continue pleasuring yourself, you have to know how he feels about that.
06/24/2012
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
There are non hormonal birth control options. Do your research. I selected a non-hormonal IUD for me, but there are plenty of options to try.
06/24/2012