My wife and I are perhaps older than many here as we are about 50. Last night we had a delightful evening lovemaking session, but neither of us reached orgasm. After about 1 hour we decided to curl up and go to sleep. I commented to my wife after she whispered how nice that had felt that it was amazing that we had learned that making love did not necessarily require either of us reaching orgasm. She agreed, and we commented that it was an interesting thing to realize. Just wondered how many other folks have realized, especially guys, that you can truly make love with your partner without worrying about either of you necessarily reaching orgasm. Instead, simply enjoying the experience, the closeness, and the physical pleasure without pressure is an amazing thing.
Making Love without Orgasm Being the Goal
06/12/2011
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I think that may indeed be part of being older. Youngsters always go for a a touchdown. Older players may realize that a couple good plays in the quarter are enough to make your jersey number proud. So long as it works for you...it is all good.
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newfoundlust
My wife and I are perhaps older than many here as we are about 50. Last night we had a delightful evening lovemaking session, but neither of us reached orgasm. After about 1 hour we decided to curl up and go to sleep. I commented to my wife after
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My wife and I are perhaps older than many here as we are about 50. Last night we had a delightful evening lovemaking session, but neither of us reached orgasm. After about 1 hour we decided to curl up and go to sleep. I commented to my wife after she whispered how nice that had felt that it was amazing that we had learned that making love did not necessarily require either of us reaching orgasm. She agreed, and we commented that it was an interesting thing to realize. Just wondered how many other folks have realized, especially guys, that you can truly make love with your partner without worrying about either of you necessarily reaching orgasm. Instead, simply enjoying the experience, the closeness, and the physical pleasure without pressure is an amazing thing.
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06/13/2011
Whatever floats your boat as they say. I think as long as both parties as satisfied and look forward to the next time, you did something right!
06/16/2011
This is something me and my husband do, he has ED so we are looking to focus on having a fulfilling sexual experience that doesn't have to involve an erection or ejaculation. We are researching the concept of orgasms without ejaculation to see if that can help him feel more satisfied.
06/16/2011
My husband and I are nearly 40.
We do this often. We sometimes will begin in the morning (I can not come when there are time constraints of any sort, so if either of us have to work I can't finish anyway) making love until we HAVE to get up. Then, when we reconnect in the afternoon, spend time giving a bit of oral attention to each other, while we change out of work clothes, and maybe make love a little more before making supper. Then we end our evening back in the sack spending hours fooling around; depending on how satisfied we are we may or may not orgasm at all.
It is just as intimate and satisfying being that close to each other.
We do this often. We sometimes will begin in the morning (I can not come when there are time constraints of any sort, so if either of us have to work I can't finish anyway) making love until we HAVE to get up. Then, when we reconnect in the afternoon, spend time giving a bit of oral attention to each other, while we change out of work clothes, and maybe make love a little more before making supper. Then we end our evening back in the sack spending hours fooling around; depending on how satisfied we are we may or may not orgasm at all.
It is just as intimate and satisfying being that close to each other.
06/16/2011
Double post again. Sorry.
06/16/2011
It took a while but M got to the point where he realized I didn't need to orgasm to have a satisfying lovemaking session. I've only orgasmed with him once (maybe) and he was terribly worried about that, but all his worrying and pushing me to endure more stimulation was actually making things worse. We're much happier now that we're working on it slowly but not making it a necessity.
06/16/2011
My husband and I are newly weds and we do this. It nice just to be physical and not haave a nut being the ultimate goal. We are in our 30s btw
02/25/2012
OKAY--I get it and we are like that, but what happens if the guy can't orgasm for several weeks at a time? What would your response be--interested in guy's responses. Thanks.
02/25/2012
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