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Ladies, do you ever feel shy or not confident enough to fully spread your leg?

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Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
Often times when having sexy time with my wife, I have to nudge her legs fully open to please her in the best ways possible. She tells me she sometimes doesn't feel confident enough to just spread them right away. Eventually she knows a fun time is in front of her so she doesn't argue much.

When she is really turned on or drunk, the legs could not be wider.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I sometimes feel this way
16  (38%)
I always am shy about spreading my legs
5  (12%)
I always spread my legs as wide as I can. I need my partner to be able to do their thing without obstruction.
21  (50%)
Total votes: 42
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03/27/2013
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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Are you newlyweds?

I've been married to my husband for almost twenty years, so I definitely will not be shy spreading my legs!
03/27/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've been with my man for 3 years now, and sometimes I still feel a little shy, but only for a second!
03/27/2013
Contributor: Silverwinds Silverwinds
Yup. I'm insecure in certain situations, and in others I think I'm the sexiest thing alive. In that situation I get shy. Luckily my boyfriend thinks its cute!
03/27/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
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I mostly only have a problem when I feel like I'm sitting at an angle that's unflattering to my tummy. I don't really care so much about displaying my ladybits, because my partner and I both think that as enjoyable as they are, genitals are not pretty. My tummy, on the other hand, is a bit of a sore point, especially because my partner is much slimmer than I am (and of course, he wants to gain some weight. I say that we should just remove some fat from me and inject it in him, but apparently it doesn't work that way).
03/27/2013
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Are you newlyweds?

I've been married to my husband for almost twenty years, so I definitely will not be shy spreading my legs!
Same here - after 20+ years, I am not very shy
03/27/2013
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I'm not shy spreading my legs for sex, but for oral sex...I'm kind of shy.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife isn't shy about 'spreading'. However we often start with a massage where her legs are not fully open. It's not reluctance - it's part of the buildup.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Sera26 Sera26
Quote:
Originally posted by MissCandyland
I'm not shy spreading my legs for sex, but for oral sex...I'm kind of shy.
I totally agree with this.
03/28/2013
Contributor: woodsdragon woodsdragon
I had an ex who found it funny to make fun of me down there...not because I actually smelled just because he thought it was funny to make fun of me. He didn't realize how much it hurt/effected me until well it was too late. I love my husband but it really has taken me awhile to get over the impact of the teasing. Every now and then I still get a bit self-conscious
03/28/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by Sera26
I totally agree with this.
i agree
03/28/2013
Contributor: Gleb Gleb
Yes, I sometimes feel this way
03/28/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We been together long enough, I'm not shy to "spread'em wide" for him!
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Are you newlyweds?

I've been married to my husband for almost twenty years, so I definitely will not be shy spreading my legs!
been spreading her legs for over 20 years. there are still times when she is a little shy about it. after a bit of foreplay, they are wide open for business.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Msmueller Msmueller
no matter how comfortable I am with a person its a issue of being that volnerable
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bubba29
Often times when having sexy time with my wife, I have to nudge her legs fully open to please her in the best ways possible. She tells me she sometimes doesn't feel confident enough to just spread them right away. Eventually she knows a fun ... more
Wow. Interesting. How long have you been married? I cannot imagine being shy in front of my hubby at this point in our lives, or even when we were pretty newly wed. You need to make sure she knows that you love everything about her. Build her confidence by making sure she understands she has "no flaws" in your eyes.

The only time I recall being shy at all was when we were first married and my hubby, after about half an hour of giving me oral bliss, asked me to "turn around and get on all fours", thinking that he was going to "take me" doggy style. However, his plan was to continue using his talented tongue and lips on me...including my sensitive tush. Just being there, in that position, with him looking at my rear and like a bowl of candy, made me momentarily embarrassed, but his next words of "I so adore seeing you this way, it brings me such pleasure and I hope to return the same to you", just put that all aside. I still hear those words in my ears. Now, I would think nothing of it...but then, it made a world of difference.

Let her know, in any position, she is your most precious beauty. Sure cannot hurt.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Msmueller
no matter how comfortable I am with a person its a issue of being that volnerable
That may be the key. With my hubby, I don't ever feel vulnerable. I feel safe. I feel relaxed. I feel as if, in any position, he is admiring me totally with his eyes and soul.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bubba29
been spreading her legs for over 20 years. there are still times when she is a little shy about it. after a bit of foreplay, they are wide open for business.
After 20 years? Interesting. Have you ever had a heart to heart talk about why she might have any "shy" left in her? Ask if she would like you to do anything different.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by woodsdragon
I had an ex who found it funny to make fun of me down there...not because I actually smelled just because he thought it was funny to make fun of me. He didn't realize how much it hurt/effected me until well it was too late. I love my husband ... more
How terribly sorry to hear that. I never had a lover "tease me" like that. My hubby, in fact, has always made it a point to express his love for every single inch of me.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by MissCandyland
I'm not shy spreading my legs for sex, but for oral sex...I'm kind of shy.
If I want oral, or if he is offering, I usually relax and let him spread me as wide as I can possibly go. Usually propping one leg on something to make myself even more "available" to him.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by surreptitious
I mostly only have a problem when I feel like I'm sitting at an angle that's unflattering to my tummy. I don't really care so much about displaying my ladybits, because my partner and I both think that as enjoyable as they are, genitals ... more
Too funny. Nope. Doesn't work that way...however, obviously he thinks you are very desirable, whatever your shape, so just relax. Guys love confidence a heck of a lot more then a flat tummy.
03/28/2013
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
Quote:
Originally posted by MissCandyland
I'm not shy spreading my legs for sex, but for oral sex...I'm kind of shy.
Agreed.
03/28/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I'm not too shy about spreading my legs. Mainly because I tend to take a shower before bed. If I haven't freshened up since my shower that morning, and it's 10pm, I'll be running for the shower. Otherwise, I'm confident and will spread my legs wide.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
Not shy about it anymore. I used to be when we first got together though.
03/28/2013
Contributor: The Vixen The Vixen
I'm definitely not shy at all about spreading my legs for my partner. I might have been a little more shy the first couple times, but I don't remember being that way.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Hazeleyes2012 Hazeleyes2012
Whatever it takes .,,, usually not a problem....
03/29/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Sometimes.
03/29/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Nope, not shy about it.
03/29/2013
Contributor: kaylajoy89 kaylajoy89
i'm no longer shy about my body. he's seen it a million times
03/29/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Sometimes, I guess.
04/03/2013