Lack of sensitivity in men

Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
So, my SO has sensitivity issues, as in he doesn't have much in his penis. Things feel okay for him but not to the point where it's really enjoyable. We would both love to be able to do something about this. So, do any of you have any suggestions for increasing sensitivity?
01/15/2011
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Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
HMMMM. I have seen the opposite of this problem come about more often, but I am wondering if maybe a cock ring could do the trick? Is he into prostate play? That may help, or if you got him a fliphole or something maybe, or is this more of a medical issue?
01/15/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
HMMMM. I have seen the opposite of this problem come about more often, but I am wondering if maybe a cock ring could do the trick? Is he into prostate play? That may help, or if you got him a fliphole or something maybe, or is this more of a medical ... more
I'm willing to try a cock ring. I'm not sure if he is. I'll try talking to him about it. He isn't really into prostate play. I did just buy him a more inexpensive masturbation sleeve so he could get a feel for them and see if it was something he would be interested in exploring further. He did get a bit of enjoyment out of it. I have no idea if it could be a medical issue. He claims that he has always been this way. It makes me so sad. I just want him to enjoy sex as much as I do. He's an amazing lover and I feel like this issue is prohibiting me from really returning the favor.
01/16/2011
Contributor: Vaccinium Vaccinium
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Originally posted by BadassFatass
I'm willing to try a cock ring. I'm not sure if he is. I'll try talking to him about it. He isn't really into prostate play. I did just buy him a more inexpensive masturbation sleeve so he could get a feel for them and see if it was ... more
First off, I've got to tell you that when I read the title of this, I thought it was going to be about men being insensitive jerks. I was pleased to see that wasn't the case.

I've personally never had the chronic problem your SO has, but every man has times when sensitivity is an issue. It could be a medical issue, but it could also be psychological. Regardless of which it is, he should speak to a physician about it. He's a man, so he'll probably hedge at that suggestion, but if there is something that can be fixed, then there's no good reason not to. If it is a medical issue, there is a drug called ViaPal-hGH that increases penile sensitivity and, consequently, the likelihood of an orgasm. If it is psychological, it is going to have to be something the two of you will have to work on together.
01/16/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by Vaccinium
First off, I've got to tell you that when I read the title of this, I thought it was going to be about men being insensitive jerks. I was pleased to see that wasn't the case.

I've personally never had the chronic problem your SO ... more
Hm, I'll definitely have encourage him to talk to his doctor...or better yet get a new doctor and then talk about it. His doctor is a quack, in my eyes. I'm not sure if it could be psychological. He does have problems with depression and anxiety but to my knowledge didn't start having these issues until his 20s. Whereas, he claims that he has never been all that sensitive.

Thanks for the advice. I'll have a chat with him.
01/16/2011
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
It's quite possibly his masturbation techniques. (I'd recommend a sex therapist over a regular doctor, by the way.) A lot of guys are really tight and particular about their masturbation technique, and it leaves them to not be nearly as sensitive when other techniques are applied. The best way to fix it would be to have your SO start to slowly masturbate less forcefully - by using a looser grip and everything. We can all accustome our bodies to a certain sensation, and we raise our "sensation point" to where things under that sensation don't feel nearly as good.

It also could have something to do with age and his penis not filling with as much blood, but if he's never been all that sensitive, that doesn't seem to fit.

Basically, I'd try scaling back the strength of his grip during masturbation and seeing if that helps. He may not orgasm the first couple attempts, but it's more to get the body responding to lighter touches.

I'm also not a licensed sex therapist or anything though, but those can get expensive and fast. x.x Most regular doctors will probably just prescribe medication though.
01/16/2011
Contributor: liilii080 liilii080
I thought cock rings were supposed to help with that, but if that doesn't work, a doctor can test his hormone levels and maybe suggest some creams and techniques that could help. Good luck to you both.
01/16/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by Kayla
It's quite possibly his masturbation techniques. (I'd recommend a sex therapist over a regular doctor, by the way.) A lot of guys are really tight and particular about their masturbation technique, and it leaves them to not be nearly as ... more
A sex therapist might be a good idea but I highly doubt that we can afford one at the current time. I will talk to him about his masturbation technique though. Maybe that will help. I'm still trying to persuade him to talk to his doctor.
01/17/2011
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by liilii080
I thought cock rings were supposed to help with that, but if that doesn't work, a doctor can test his hormone levels and maybe suggest some creams and techniques that could help. Good luck to you both.
Thanks! I hope we get this sorted out somehow.
01/17/2011