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Is it a sin to write erotica / daydream erotica?

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Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
I was talking with a friend earlier while walking about our religions, and I found out we kinda believe differently. For instance, she believes that Jehovah Witnesses believe differently, but I found I believe SIMILAR to them.
I do believe that Jesus spilt is blood for our sins, and what not. But we got into the deadly sins.

I came out and asked her, "Is what I write sinning?" I write erotica.
She looked at me and said, "Yes."
I am never included in these sexual fantasies I write about, nor when I daydream is it with anyone other then my husband (maybe when I wasn't married it was different, but nowadays I catch myself daydreaming sexually about my husband). When I daydream, it's about the couple I'm currently writing about.

To you, is that actually sin? Is it really sin to daydream and write sexually, even when it's not YOU involved? And I thought of no place better to ask is right here in a sexual community!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, it's a sin to daydream sexually.
1
No, it's not a sin to daydream sexually.
36
Yes, it's a sin to write erotica.
3
No, it's not a sin to write erotica.
41
Total votes: 81 (44 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I'd be burning in hell if daydreaming about sex was a sin. I don't think writing or daydreaming about sexual acts is a sin. You're not committing adultery, it's a creative outlet that you either enjoy or get paid to do.
07/11/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
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Originally posted by unfulfilled
I'd be burning in hell if daydreaming about sex was a sin. I don't think writing or daydreaming about sexual acts is a sin. You're not committing adultery, it's a creative outlet that you either enjoy or get paid to do.
See, that's what I thought. I also thought my daydreaming (which more then half the time leads to masturbation) and me writing such things were a way to get rid of some sexual frustration.I even find that after finishing a story I tend to jump my husband's bones!
07/11/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
I don't believe there's anything wrong with it but to most major religions yes it would probably be a sin, especially if it ends in masturbation
07/11/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Bex1331
I don't believe there's anything wrong with it but to most major religions yes it would probably be a sin, especially if it ends in masturbation
I agree with this. I believe in God, Heaven and Hell, but do I think I'm going to Hell because I read the stuff, have sex out of wedlock or use toys? No.
07/11/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
A preacher and I were once talking about something similar. He basically said, "Woman, in the old ways, the traditional ways, you bet your arse you'd be burnin' in the firey pits of hell. But in the Lord's eyes and in the original words of the Lord, you are to honour and cherish your man, so if you are thinkin' about your man, and your man is fine with you pleasing yourself, the Good Lord himself will welcome you at the gates for being a good woman."

I don't really think religion should play a part in ones sex life fantasies or reality. But that is just my opinion. I think if reading/writing erotica is a sin, then so should Harry Potter or other magic and fantasy novels to write them or read them should be a sin as you cannot let a witch live. It says so in the bible.
07/11/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
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Originally posted by Woman China
A preacher and I were once talking about something similar. He basically said, "Woman, in the old ways, the traditional ways, you bet your arse you'd be burnin' in the firey pits of hell. But in the Lord's eyes and in the original ... more
Technically, according to the bible, it is a sin. But I agree with Woman China.. according to the bible Harry Potter or any writings about magic are a sin.

But the erotic writing, it would be considered lusting. The Bible pretty much says Do it with your husband when he wants it, but don't masturbate or lust. You're writings would be considered lusting, biblically speaking.
07/11/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
No. Otherwise, I wouldn't have a sex life.
07/11/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Where does it say that thinking about sex is a sin in the Bible? The word "Lust" had a different meaning in the Old Hebrew language the Bible was written in than it does in current usage.

IMO, a sin is doing something to intentionally harm an other person with no good coming from it. For instance, giving someone who asks creative criticism isn't a sin, but attacking someone for something that couldn't help them may be. Physical harm is always harm, therefor always a sin.

If G*d created the heavens and the earth, trillions of suns and gadrillions of planets and all the beings on ALL these planets etc. WHY would He care what one person, sitting in their bedroom is thinking about? I think people make themselves out to be much more important than they are if they think minor things like stray or even intentional thoughts "offend G*d." Or how or where people touch themselves or touch others with permission. Does G*d really care where you touch yourself? I think not.

I think G*d has better things to worry about; Wars, Murder, Financial Crimes, Rape, Child Molestation, Genocide...

While we're on the subject; WHERE is that in the Bible, may I ask is Child Molestation and Rape? Is the fact that molesting a child or raping a woman is NOT specifically mentioned as a sin in the Bible mean it isn't? I would say not. It's certainly a sin. WHY were crimes that target the weak left out of the OT? The Bible was... edited by people who had an agenda. A control agenda. If you can control people's sexuality and how the poor spend what little money they have... you can control them.

But, I think He Who Created Everything has better things to do than to worry about someone writing a steamy story. WHY would HE care?
07/11/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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This is pretty lame advice, but what I do when I'm uncertain about something is I pray. Instead of bumbling around and reading some edited book that was written by humans (who have faults) I'd rather go directly to the source. If you talk to God and feel like it's okay, your friend has no place to judge you. What's her response to "I talked to God about it. It's okay."? "No! I have more imput on your place in heaven than God! D< "

Sorry that I don't have more of a quotable response. I have come to trust the bible less over the years and God more. I'd be a terrible Catholic.
07/11/2012
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Needs an other I guess. I don't think it is a sin to daydream sexually about your spouse at all.
I'd say 'it depends' on writing erotica too. I really love Ryuson's answer though- don't look to men to figure out what God thinks about it! Go to the source, ask and ye shall receive, knock and it shall be opened unto you.
07/11/2012
Contributor: underHim underHim
I think if stuff like this is going to send us to hell, almost all people whether they admit it or not are probably going to hell.
07/11/2012
Contributor: bh253 bh253
I don't think it is a sin.
07/11/2012
Contributor: authorzero authorzero
I'm not a Christian, so I'm not the most qualified to answer, but I can't see how this would be a sin.
07/11/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Definitely not, since sins are harmful to other people or yourself
07/20/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by Kitten has left the site
I was talking with a friend earlier while walking about our religions, and I found out we kinda believe differently. For instance, she believes that Jehovah Witnesses believe differently, but I found I believe SIMILAR to them.
I do believe that ... more
Well, it's not a sin for me.
07/20/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by Kitten has left the site
I was talking with a friend earlier while walking about our religions, and I found out we kinda believe differently. For instance, she believes that Jehovah Witnesses believe differently, but I found I believe SIMILAR to them.
I do believe that ... more
Yes, it's definitely a sin.
07/20/2012
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
I find most religions don't care as long as you don't lust after someone who you are not with
07/20/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
I believe that if there is a god it wouldn't give us things to enjoy and then tell us we can't do them. What kind of sadist would do that?
08/17/2012
Contributor: bella8933 bella8933
Oh who cares?

Geesh, I was raised in a religious environment and ... what a crock of cramp that was.

Sorry, but I think religion is for sheep and people that don't have enough common sense to deal with their issues so they let other people tell them what to do.

Grow a backbone I say.
08/17/2012
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
I dont think sin exists ... theres right and wrong but consensual sexual things are not wrong
05/01/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
Wow. Neither would've crossed my mind to be sins.
05/02/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
I've learned over my many years of living that I can let other people decide what is right or wrong for me and what they believe is as though its fact or I can decide for myself.

I've lived too many years believing and living as others would want me to, it time for me to make my own choices now whether they be right or wrong, its how I feel about them that counts most.

I make mistakes all the time, but isn't that what life is all about? And growing from those mistakes?
05/02/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
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Originally posted by Hummingbird
I've learned over my many years of living that I can let other people decide what is right or wrong for me and what they believe is as though its fact or I can decide for myself.

I've lived too many years believing and living as others ... more
Love you!
05/02/2013