Hi everyone. My boyfriend is one of those men who has intercourse for 30 minutes to 2 hours. I of course, reap the discomfort after and have limited sex to once a week because of it. Any suggestions for intercourse that lasts a long time?
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11/01/2011
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I have a similar situation. Personally, I recommend using lube, a lot of it, and pausing frequently to reapply. That, and consider options other than intercourse. There are so many ways to have sex. You could always finish with oral or manual sex, or start with oral or manual and only move to intercourse once he's already close.
Most of my experiences actually end in manual sex for him to finish him off, or me penetrating him with my fingers because he gets off much easier from anal than penile stimulation.
Most of my experiences actually end in manual sex for him to finish him off, or me penetrating him with my fingers because he gets off much easier from anal than penile stimulation.
11/01/2011
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AndroAngel,
Originally posted by
AndroAngel
I have a similar situation. Personally, I recommend using lube, a lot of it, and pausing frequently to reapply. That, and consider options other than intercourse. There are so many ways to have sex. You could always finish with oral or manual sex, or
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I have a similar situation. Personally, I recommend using lube, a lot of it, and pausing frequently to reapply. That, and consider options other than intercourse. There are so many ways to have sex. You could always finish with oral or manual sex, or start with oral or manual and only move to intercourse once he's already close.
Most of my experiences actually end in manual sex for him to finish him off, or me penetrating him with my fingers because he gets off much easier from anal than penile stimulation. less
Most of my experiences actually end in manual sex for him to finish him off, or me penetrating him with my fingers because he gets off much easier from anal than penile stimulation. less
I like to use lube but he is often against it, insisting that nature is better. Because he's well endowed I end up with a double whammy in the end.
I will try intercourse once he's almost ready to cum. That might work out well.
11/01/2011
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To be honest, that's hardly fair on his part. Nature doesn't always do it's job, hormones, hydration, etc can effect how much lubrication your body produces and the female body generally only self-lubricates for a certain amount of time, then you start to lose lubrication and chafe. Stimulating the A-spot might help produce more natural lubrication, but still, lube is your friend.
Originally posted by
Heartthrob
AndroAngel,
I like to use lube but he is often against it, insisting that nature is better. Because he's well endowed I end up with a double whammy in the end.
I will try intercourse once he's almost ready to cum. That might work out well.
I like to use lube but he is often against it, insisting that nature is better. Because he's well endowed I end up with a double whammy in the end.
I will try intercourse once he's almost ready to cum. That might work out well.
Anyway, I wish you luck and I hope your situation turns out more pleasurable for both of you.
11/01/2011
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If you're sore afterwards, that should be pretty obvious proof that he's wrong.
Originally posted by
Heartthrob
AndroAngel,
I like to use lube but he is often against it, insisting that nature is better. Because he's well endowed I end up with a double whammy in the end.
I will try intercourse once he's almost ready to cum. That might work out well.
I like to use lube but he is often against it, insisting that nature is better. Because he's well endowed I end up with a double whammy in the end.
I will try intercourse once he's almost ready to cum. That might work out well.
11/01/2011
Try explaining it to him. If he loves you then he will listen. Maybe you can do more foreplay to satisfy his needs, which are clearly pretty demanding. I hope it works out for you!
11/01/2011
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Yeah, I'm going to talk to him about it. He's convinced that it's his size that hurts me instead of the length of time of intercourse. I, on the other hand, know that it's a combination. He also proceeds to tell me that if we have sex more often, it won't take so long but I know better from past experience.
Originally posted by
Ace <3
Try explaining it to him. If he loves you then he will listen. Maybe you can do more foreplay to satisfy his needs, which are clearly pretty demanding. I hope it works out for you!
I've requested lube in the past and sometimes he wears it but never reapplies. In fact, when I once asked him to reapply he refused. I'll need to discuss that with him.
11/01/2011
Make lube non-optional, just like condoms.
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the day(s) proceed... "how you feeling? Still sore?" He does not want me to be sore and wants to wait to play until I'm no longer sore. I hope you can sit down and talk with your boyfriend about this, I think your needs are totally being glossed over here.
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the day(s) proceed... "how you feeling? Still sore?" He does not want me to be sore and wants to wait to play until I'm no longer sore. I hope you can sit down and talk with your boyfriend about this, I think your needs are totally being glossed over here.
11/01/2011
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Yes I agree. Lately, he's been more concerned with his needs, yet he asks me how I feel and if I am still sore but I swear he grins when I say I am. This is new and unlike him so I'm not sure what is going on.
Originally posted by
indiglo
Make lube non-optional, just like condoms.
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the ... more
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the ... more
Make lube non-optional, just like condoms.
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the day(s) proceed... "how you feeling? Still sore?" He does not want me to be sore and wants to wait to play until I'm no longer sore. I hope you can sit down and talk with your boyfriend about this, I think your needs are totally being glossed over here. less
He should be concerned about why you're sore instead of telling you why you're sore, or why you shouldn't be. I get sore sometimes too (when we go on and on) but my man will ask as the day(s) proceed... "how you feeling? Still sore?" He does not want me to be sore and wants to wait to play until I'm no longer sore. I hope you can sit down and talk with your boyfriend about this, I think your needs are totally being glossed over here. less
11/01/2011
Lube generously.
11/01/2011
I think you should absolutely voice when you are uncomfortable and your sexual needs need to be addressed. If he doesn't show the concern you need, but you want to continue having sex then lubricate your vaginal area. If my man refused to lubricate after I asked him to, I would probably refuse to continue. But, like I said, if he won't do it, you can always stop and lube yourself.
11/01/2011
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Yeah, I totally agree. Lube it up yourself, or just stop having sex. If it hurts it hurts, and the fact that he doesn't care or thinks it's funny means he has serious problems. I would not have sex with a man that treated me that way.
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
I think you should absolutely voice when you are uncomfortable and your sexual needs need to be addressed. If he doesn't show the concern you need, but you want to continue having sex then lubricate your vaginal area. If my man refused to
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I think you should absolutely voice when you are uncomfortable and your sexual needs need to be addressed. If he doesn't show the concern you need, but you want to continue having sex then lubricate your vaginal area. If my man refused to lubricate after I asked him to, I would probably refuse to continue. But, like I said, if he won't do it, you can always stop and lube yourself.
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11/01/2011
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Have to be honest, I wouldn't either.. He'd probably leave with his feelings hurt
Originally posted by
indiglo
Yeah, I totally agree. Lube it up yourself, or just stop having sex. If it hurts it hurts, and the fact that he doesn't care or thinks it's funny means he has serious problems. I would not have sex with a man that treated me that way.
11/01/2011
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Better than my vagina hurt!
Originally posted by
AngelvMaynard
Have to be honest, I wouldn't either.. He'd probably leave with his feelings hurt
(That may only be funny to me because of how late it is. LOL)
11/02/2011
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No, that's just funny.
Originally posted by
indiglo
Better than my vagina hurt!
(That may only be funny to me because of how late it is. LOL)
(That may only be funny to me because of how late it is. LOL)
11/02/2011
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Thanks everyone. We talked about it and used lots of lube and finished with a hand job. It all worked out great!
Originally posted by
EJ
No, that's just funny.
11/08/2011
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Glad things worked out. Sounds like a good solution.
Originally posted by
Heartthrob
Thanks everyone. We talked about it and used lots of lube and finished with a hand job. It all worked out great!
11/10/2011
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lots of different positions. that's what we do. My boyfriend is also one who lasts forever it seems and we have started to switch it up alot..
Originally posted by
Heartthrob
Hi everyone. My boyfriend is one of those men who has intercourse for 30 minutes to 2 hours. I of course, reap the discomfort after and have limited sex to once a week because of it. Any suggestions for intercourse that lasts a long time?
11/10/2011
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