Use baby steps and slowly introduce new toys and ideas to him. Don't spring things or new sex techniques in the bedroom but talk about them beforehand. I think it would be fun to introduce a person to all the different ways to have sex if they were just having plain old vanilla sex beforehand. less

Thank you I will talk to him about things first. I've brought up a few things, and just talking about them has been getting him excited so I do think he is very open.

I hadn't looked at it as being fun, lol. Maybe because I'm such a submissive type and it's not in my nature to be the teacher. Perhaps this could be a fun way to widen my horizons as well.

It's funny you said "plain old vanilla sex" because my blog is called "VanillaFreeSex". Starting that blog back up and coming back to eden has reawakened my non-vanilla side. less

I agree, trying a new role for yourself can be a huge fun! Every cloud has a silver lining. Despite your partner is not very experienced in kinky stuff, you can enjoy by opening the whole new world to him, and I think you both will benefit from it.

If you are unsure of letting him tie you up, I think it makes sense to talk over every single detail: how exactly you'd like to be tied up, what things are categorically unwelcome, what he is allowed to do and what he isn't. To know boundaries is essential when it comes to a power play. less

I'm finding out that my partner is inexperienced with any kinds of kink. He's never tied someone up. His first experience with a cock ring was a present from me. I'm guessing I'm the first person he has used a vibe on.

With starting back up with sex toy reviewing it is opening the lines of communication and I'm finding out things he is wanting or at least willing to try. Such as nipple clamps.

I'm finding myself a little hesitant to let someone so inexperienced tie me up.

I'm also flabbergasted that someone his age is so new to experimenting less

I think it really depends on the environment you grew up in. I grew up in a fairly strict religious environment and my family would probably be really disturbed and upset by the things that I do with my husband in the bedroom (which would probably be considered mild sex play to others). He introduced me to experimenting with different things early in the marriage and I was very hesitant at first because of my upbringing (I felt like I was doing something wrong). There are probably a lot of people out there that have "vanilla" sex because of how they were raised. less

You are spot on. The environment, values, family experiences and any sort of trauma suffered shape our psychosexual behavior. Women are often given a "Madonna/Whore complex and feel sex is dirty after having a child. Men are taught that anything involving ass play is "gay" and women who express themselves sexually are not classy. This dates back to the religious views of the puritans and has shaped many things about our culture. less