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jr2012
some people have lower sex drives, and it's something that could definitely change over the course of your life.
My questions is, are YOU unsatisfied with the way things are? If the frequency of sex is okay with you, I would advise not to
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some people have lower sex drives, and it's something that could definitely change over the course of your life.
My questions is, are YOU unsatisfied with the way things are? If the frequency of sex is okay with you, I would advise not to get too caught up in how often other people have sex, or expectations of what is normal.
If you are unhappy, you really should talk to her about it. Your lady may even have another issue that none of us could guess (body image issues? performance issues? simply stressed?). My S.O. (male) has a super low sex drive, and I had to talk to him about my frustrations. Basically he just didn't realize that I wanted more, and he barely recognized the weeks and months going past since the last time we had sex (meanwhile I could tell him the day and time of every sex session recently!). We negotiated an amount of sex that is okay for the both of us...very unsexy but it has helped our sex life a lot.
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Yes, we should talk about sex more, and no,,I am not happy with our frequency, she knows that.
I would guess nearly every woman suffers with body image issues, heck, even I do, and I am not out of shape for my age, actually probably better than average. As far as comparing our frequency to others, I do get jealous of hearing so many people having sex more often than us. It gets to me because of my history in my previous marriage where we nearly never had sex, in fact did not consummate our wedding for 8 years, so I am sensitive about not having a good sex life.
The clock is ticking on me, and us, I just mostly want to be as happy with our love life as possible, given our age. I am not trying to compete with 20 year olds, just want a little more.
I am thinking I will venture to suggest that each of us take the initiative to make plans forms ex at least once a week, so at the minimum, that would be twice a week, and double what we typically enjoy these days. I love my wife dearly, and she me, we deserve the best we can be for each other.