In the course of your sexually active life...

Contributor: eri86 eri86
what is the most important thing you have learned and wish to pass on to others?
05/29/2013
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Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Communication is key! Talk to your partner...talk about your history, your fantasies, your likes, your dislikes. It'll make everything so much better.
05/29/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
Relax, don't be so self-conscious, learn to explore the edges of your comfort zone and do not be afraid to try new things!
05/29/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
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Originally posted by eri86
what is the most important thing you have learned and wish to pass on to others?
Sexually? Hmm.... That's a hard one since every person varies so much. I guess the one thing I would hope to pass on to everyone would be: don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Oh, and one more. In fact this is one I've told the boys: Never pressure someone else into doing anything sexually. No means NO and should only ever be said one single time. I think they've caught on. Lol. I've also told them they never have to do something just because someone else wants them to. Those, I'd say, are two very important things to pass on, IMO.
05/29/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by K101
Sexually? Hmm.... That's a hard one since every person varies so much. I guess the one thing I would hope to pass on to everyone would be: don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Oh, and one more. In fact this is one I've told the ... more
I agree that " No means NO "! However, at least for me, I would disagree with the statement "don't do anything you are not comfortable with".

How else are you going to find out if something may be fun that you had never previously considered?

From that perspective I absolutely agree with js250's recommendation "Relax, don't be so self-conscious, learn to explore the edges of your comfort zone and do not be afraid to try new things!"
05/29/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
No two bodies work exactly the same. Be patient with yourself and with your partner if things aren't working the way you had hoped they would, and don't be afraid to express what feels good and what's not working for you. Communication is key.
05/29/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Don't be afraid to try new things. You might find you really like them if you give it a chance.
05/29/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
Communication is key! Talk to your partner...talk about your history, your fantasies, your likes, your dislikes. It'll make everything so much better.
i agree
05/29/2013
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by eri86
what is the most important thing you have learned and wish to pass on to others?
Remembering to look at things from your partner's point of view. What do THEY need, how can you make THEM more comfortable with your sexual relationship, real important stuff, not to be too self centered, it takes two to tango, and if you are both on board with each other, the tango gets better.
05/29/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
When your partner is truly devoted to finding a way to please you, let them. You deserve pleasure too, even if it takes a bit longer.
05/29/2013
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
don't worry about what other people think of you. Follow your bliss and let them think what they want. I was concerned with my number because of what other people think. You can be a slut and be a virgin and you can have 80 partners and had pure love with all of them. Do what you think is right for you
05/29/2013
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
My weight is only an issue in my head. Even if I weren't freakishly flexible, there are ways to overcome and even enhance any body type.

Also: Lube isn't only for when something isn't as wet as you would like it to be, and can even make things INSANELY more fun.
05/29/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Relax and have fun. Try to ignore your insecurities as best you can, everyone has them
03/06/2014
Contributor: guard083 guard083
I've learned after being with someone so long to relax and don't be afraid to explore and try new things together. Always try to keep your sex life interesting. If you both want to try something then do it.
08/14/2014
Contributor: Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Sex is so much better when you really love and trust your partner. Sure the first time with someone new can be exciting, but after that it is a bit empty.

The other thing is be comfortable with yourself. If someone loves you, it won't matter what you weigh, wear, etc. They will accept you, if they don't accept you move on. I wasted a lot of years with someone who ran me down and made me feel bad about myself to make himself feel better. Everyone is amazing in their own way and no one deserves to be treated badly. It is better to be alone than be mistreated.

I am so blessed to have my husband. He makes me feel so special. He compliments me all of the time. I wish I had married him first.
08/14/2014
Contributor: Confusedxfreak Confusedxfreak
Communication and being open with each other is the most rewarding. You don't want to be left holding in yourself not being able to express your thoughts and desires.
08/24/2014
Contributor: toysforall toysforall
COMMUNICATION. This has served us very well throughout our years together. If something doesn't feel good, or feels great, or you're just not comfortable with it, you have to feel ok letting the other person know. Otherwise, there's just no fun in it!
09/22/2014