If you started dating/seeing a guy and then found out he was really.. small would you end it?

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Sex'и'Violence

This thread is largely an addition of one started by KDlips a while back.

The thread asks the question- "ladies how do you tell a guy he has a baby penis?" Now in this thread there were a number of responses and fairly even split regarding how a situation like this would/should be dealt with. Rationally, telling a guy this is likened to telling a woman her boobs are too saggy or that her vagina is too lose.

What got me thinking was a reading a couple replies saying that size doesn't actually matter, and that you should just encourage him and let him get you off in other ways because if you really love the guy, the size of his penis shouldn't be a make or break. True enough- but say you don't really love the guy. You think he's fun and you're starting to have feelings for him. But on your first/second date when things are getting hot and heavy for the first time you find your would-be lover to be severely lacking in the size department- say something like this. Can you look past it, or do you break it off?

Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):

I stay with him and....

Sex'и'Violence , Shellz31 , ThoughtsAblaze , Sunshineamine , jc123 , JessCee , anonymouse58 , amandaco2011 , Coralbell , Wild Orchid , darthkitt3n , KinkyKrissy , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , kokopelli , indiglo , Noira Celestia , shySEXXaddict , G.L. Morrison , bayosgirl , pasdechat , icyqueen

I break it off and....

Antipova , MaryExy , Rossie , MJ1337 , Ansley , Ms. Spice , wetone123

try to make things work out in other ways

Sex'и'Violence , Shellz31 , ThoughtsAblaze , dezzydezire , jc123 , JessCee , anonymouse58 , amandaco2011 , Rage Demon , Coralbell , Wild Orchid , darthkitt3n , KinkyKrissy , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , kokopelli , lanky , Sinfully , zracer , indiglo , Noira Celestia , shySEXXaddict , G.L. Morrison , bayosgirl , srval69 , pasdechat , icyqueen

I keep my options open. Me and my friends could use the laugh (at his expense)

Sex'и'Violence , Beck

stay friends with the guy- but I don't think of him in that way any more.

MJ1337 , Ansley , Ms. Spice , Sinfully

can't talk to him or look him in the face any more without chuckling a little.

Total votes: 60 (35 voters)

Poll is closed

07/12/2011

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Antipova

It depends where the relationship already was (friends? relatively new acquaintance from the busstop or internet dating site?)

In any case, I'd be polite and I wouldn't laugh about it later. And I should say, too, that the vast majority of penises are big enough for me. There is a natural cutoff, though---if a guy could not thrust in and out without being outside on the outstroke, like the wikipedia link you posted---that would be too small for me. I wouldn't be able to have a relationship where penetrative sex wasn't an option. That's the most reliable and most enjoyable way for me to have an orgasm, and I think "trying to make things work out in other ways" wouldn't work out, despite intentions. PIV sex has too many mental connotations for me--- if it wasn't a fun and easy experience for both parties, it would really dampen my mood, and my feelings about the relationship.

So, if we were already friends? We'd stay friends, I would hope. If we didn't already know each other? Either we'd become friends or we'd drift off, no harm done. I've had both of these scenarios happen for other sexual incompatibilities (like baseline libido) and nobody's feelings have gotten hurt... I would hope this hypothetical situation could go the same way.

I do tend to have sex quite early on in a new relationship, though, so I don't think I would ever find myself in an "I really like this guy but now it turns out it won't work!" situation.

07/12/2011

jc123

Part of it would depend on his attitude. If he was willing to find a way to make things work in other ways, I'd try to stick it out. If he was offended and wouldn't even have a conversation about how we were going to adapt, I'd be out of there.

07/12/2011

MaryExy

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Originally posted by Antipova

Ditto. Something like the wiki-one would simply be too small... My favorite activities are PIV sex and blowjobs (hopefully anal, too, once I try it). Something that severely limits what I can do in those activities would be a problem... When it's super early in a relationship, like the first couple of dates, I'm not too set on having a romantic relationship anyway...

07/12/2011

Rossie

If it's in the early stage of dating, I'll break it off.

07/12/2011

amandaco2011

It depends on what he can do with it.

07/13/2011

Coralbell

It depends how much I liked him, and whether he had a smaller than average penis or actually had a micropenis that didn't work for penetration at all. I'm actually not huge on PIV sex though since I can't orgasm from it, so it wouldn't be a big deal for me to skip that and focus on other activities. Hopefully he'd be open to using toys. The biggest problem for me would be that I wouldn't find it very visually attractive.

07/13/2011

Eucaly

If it's too small for penetration, non-penetrative sex is going to be a lot more fun because of the emphasis on it. Also, giving blow jobs would be incredibly easy. That guy would get blow jobs constantly.

07/13/2011

MJ1337

I had a similar experience. I didn't think I was a size-person but it was like... wow. Ended up breaking things off. I didn't want to sleep with him or have anything sexual with him towards the end.

07/13/2011

Taylor

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Originally posted by jc123

I agree with this. I feel like you can work around a lot of things if you are willing to try different things, but both parties would need to be willing to make it work

07/13/2011

P'Gell

I can't see how this thread isn't going to run into a boat load of trouble.

I'll stay out, thanks.

07/13/2011

Wild Orchid

If he wouldn't make a problem out of it we wouldn't have a problem. Not being afraid of dildos and strap ons is a requirement for me anyway, no matter what size or type your genitalia are. I don't have strong emotional or erotic feelings towards PIV. Pressure on the g-spot feels great but I still need my fetish for mental arousal. Anal on me would be more of an issue but that too can be managed with toys and fingers - even better since I have a very fussy ass. And if he had the same fetish I have then we could have extremely satisfying sex life and the small dick wouldn't be able to thwart that.

07/13/2011

KinkyKrissy

The thing I've noticed with some smaller guys, is that if they realize they're smaller, they have to up their game. Some of them are better at oral and other foreplay so I guess it kind of depends on the guy and how small exactly. It's not just what you have, it's how you use it. Another bonus is it's even easier to deep throat them so that can help some people withe extremely bad gag reflexes.

07/13/2011

lanky

Quote:

Originally posted by P'Gell

I can't see how this thread isn't going to run into a boat load of trouble.

I'll stay out, thanks.

yea this seems like it could be bad

07/14/2011

Sinfully

Id try and make things work in other ways but I don't know...

07/14/2011

Noira Celestia

I wouldn't matter to me or affect my view of the relationship at all.

07/14/2011

bayosgirl

I clicked "stay with him"...then I clicked the link..yikes! THAT small? I was thinking 4 or 5 inches. I don't know.

08/13/2011

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