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Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Ime sure most of Eden has read one of my past few posts so most of you know how my husband is no longer able to have sex for a while

In the mean time....

Putting up with eacher(ime just as bad) in bed all day he likes his shall we say sexuall stimulation.


I tried the other day to give him a handjob and after about 45 minutes he was just like ok dont wory and well I sorta felt bad leaving him with blue balls. I attemped(my history with givng blowjobs isnt that good) to give him oral but that throw up in your mouth taste and alsmot throwing up on him ruined it. It was about two hours till he was able to cum. Even before a "qukie" was a half hour

Needless to say we both agreeded it sucked. The house was to me him and a good friend who weve had threesomes in the past with. I loved playing with myself while she gave him a blowjob. I love him alot and well we can get bored when were alone....theres only so much tv to watch.

I love masterbation and was doing it at least if not twice a day before, and I feel realy bad doing it without him so I dont. But wele be sitting there and its fair to say ile get that puppy dog face till I let him watch me masterbate(witch I love) and I feel bad cause hele watch me for an hour or two masterbate and he can lick me a little and I love it when he sucks on my finger. But anyway I feel cause ile have a few orgasms and he wont have one.

Any tips, tricks, or toys to buy. What would you suggest.
08/09/2010
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Contributor: Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
I don't mean to get too personal, but you never quite mentioned why he can't have sex? Sorry, I didn't see any other post. Maybe it is possible, if you are careful.
You could try a masturbater like the fleshlight.
Maybe he might be willing to try prostate stimulation?
Maybe if you played with yourself while giving him bj/handjob he might be more mentally turned on?
What about a vibe or something that might give him a little more stimulation?
08/10/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Is it possible that you could ride him (very carefully) cowgirl style?

If not you might want to try mutual masturbation in the 69 position. A mild vibration on his perineum and testicle might kick things up a notch for him. And you might want to check out the book "The Multi Orgasmic Man" because it teaches men how to enjoy sexual pleasure without coming, AND without getting blue balls.

If you mean *totally* non-sexual things, you could try reading to each other or even playing a game or something.
08/10/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
If it were me, I'd first try Sybarite's suggestion of the masturbators...but instead of going with a fleshlight, get a few less expensive ones - the tube by doc johnson, the maven, and the tenga eggs (which I've used in my own relationship) all get very good reviews and would offer up some variety for him, and it might surprise him if every week or two you were able to pull out something new. Good luck!
08/10/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The Peach Pai feels really good and doesn't cost too much.

Sounds like you're still able to be non-sexually intimate and close, good.
08/10/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
I don't mean to get too personal, but you never quite mentioned why he can't have sex? Sorry, I didn't see any other post. Maybe it is possible, if you are careful.
You could try a masturbater like the fleshlight.
Maybe he might be ... more
Oh, sorry I know theres been a little bit of chatter, and a few posts about it lately.

Basicly he has returned early from iraq with with the following injuries. His left leg was amputated at the knee. Left arm from the shoulder down was amputated. Broken right wrist(witch will heal) and three broken ribs(witch wil heel over time). Also no heering in his left ear. He has been given honrable discharge with the United States Marine Corps. He is lucky to be alive, anyway
08/10/2010
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Maybe he just isn't interested in having sex right now.

But I would try, if he really wants to, putting a video and stimulating him then.
08/11/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
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Originally posted by deltalima
Maybe he just isn't interested in having sex right now.

But I would try, if he really wants to, putting a video and stimulating him then.
"Maybe he just isn't interested in having sex right now"

LOL, he talks alot....and wants to realy bad hes said it hiself. If he had his way he would swing from ceiling fans from room to room, lol.
08/12/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
Wow, he has sure been a lot. Maybe his head is interested in it, but it doesn't sound like his body is in any shape right now! I say get some type of toy to play with him with
08/12/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
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Originally posted by twistedheartsx
Wow, he has sure been a lot. Maybe his head is interested in it, but it doesn't sound like his body is in any shape right now! I say get some type of toy to play with him with
Been through* I need sleep!
08/12/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Quote:
Originally posted by twistedheartsx
Wow, he has sure been a lot. Maybe his head is interested in it, but it doesn't sound like his body is in any shape right now! I say get some type of toy to play with him with
LOL, ive thought the same as hes not in the mood.....he still acts like he has 2 legs and arms. He wants to get back to normal and is always talking about sex. Begging me to masterbate while he watches, cause he knows well lets say i suck at bjs
08/12/2010
Contributor: usmcwife99 usmcwife99
Quote:
Originally posted by Tori Rebel
If it were me, I'd first try Sybarite's suggestion of the masturbators...but instead of going with a fleshlight, get a few less expensive ones - the tube by doc johnson, the maven, and the tenga eggs (which I've used in my own ... more
Thank you for mentioning tenga eggs. I heard a little bit about them before. I decided to get some yesterday. A pack of 6 with 6 different types. We used the "wavy" (compeltly random as I grabbed the first one I saw out of the pack of six) and well.......he liked it....
08/16/2010