This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
How would you react upon learning that your partner used the services of a pro in the past?
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I would almost consider it a rite of passage of sorts.
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i would wonder if they learned anything they could teach me, afterall a PRO is supposed to be better than us normal folk
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If it was during the relationship, then I would be upset. If it wasn't, then it isn't my concern. We all have our pasts, some good, some bad.
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It depends on who it was. If it was my current, I'd be shocked! Guys from my past, not so much...
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My ex-husband did (Army, on leave, Mardi Gras, des driver, buddies paid ... ). I was more curious than anything else, but he said she did 'nothing for him'.
After being married to him, I don't think man, woman, beast, or death could do anything for him anyway.
After being married to him, I don't think man, woman, beast, or death could do anything for him anyway.
12/11/2010
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, but I'd be more concerned about possible diseases.
12/11/2010
haha i would be like.. sweet.. good for you... ya i would't care. but like mistress kay said i might want a std testing. but i want that alot of the time or use a condom becuse i'm REALLY scared of stds
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I agree. If it happened before we met, it would make me wonder about them a bit, but overall wouldn't bother me.
Originally posted by
Sir
If it was during the relationship, then I would be upset. If it wasn't, then it isn't my concern. We all have our pasts, some good, some bad.
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To be honest this poll needed an other catagory. I found out my husband used the services of a pro...in payment for a ride home he got a bj. I wasn't upset that it happened but that he lied about it. We weren't married and he has since payed for sex and prefers it because he doesn't necessarily want a relationship. Our agreement is that whatever he spends on sex I get an equal amount to spend on sex. That equates to sex toys for me. So if I use household money to purchase sex toys then he gets an equal amount to use as he sees fit.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
It makes him happy and generally a sex worker the quality he seeks out is clean and practices safer sex. I get to watch sometimes which is great for me, so it's all win/win.
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I did not know that Pro meant sex worker, lol. I kept reading and looking for some indice as to what it meant.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
To be honest this poll needed an other catagory. I found out my husband used the services of a pro...in payment for a ride home he got a bj. I wasn't upset that it happened but that he lied about it. We weren't married and he has since payed
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To be honest this poll needed an other catagory. I found out my husband used the services of a pro...in payment for a ride home he got a bj. I wasn't upset that it happened but that he lied about it. We weren't married and he has since payed for sex and prefers it because he doesn't necessarily want a relationship. Our agreement is that whatever he spends on sex I get an equal amount to spend on sex. That equates to sex toys for me. So if I use household money to purchase sex toys then he gets an equal amount to use as he sees fit.
It makes him happy and generally a sex worker the quality he seeks out is clean and practices safer sex. I get to watch sometimes which is great for me, so it's all win/win. less
It makes him happy and generally a sex worker the quality he seeks out is clean and practices safer sex. I get to watch sometimes which is great for me, so it's all win/win. less
My partner never has, but if he did before the relationship it would be ok. I would be really hurt if he did it while we were in a relationship. I would feel confused as to why it would have been done, I would want to understand why he would have done that. I would wonder if I pushed him there or if he was just curious or if he was inconsiderate. I would have a lot of questions!
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I would be fine with it...a lil grossed out but fine with it. Now if it happened WHILE we were together...different story
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Disease would be my biggest concern. Otherwise, I don't really care.
Originally posted by
Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care,
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I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, but I'd be more concerned about possible diseases.
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Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care,
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I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, but I'd be more concerned about possible diseases.
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It would bother me, honestly.
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It would kinda bother me... But I wouldn't end the relationship or judge too harshly based solely on it. But it better not happen during the relationship at all. (And they'd have to get tested for communicable diseases to make me feel safe.)
I think the reason I would try to understand is that I know a former 'working' girl and she's totally normal and awesome. So, ya know, to each his own.
I think the reason I would try to understand is that I know a former 'working' girl and she's totally normal and awesome. So, ya know, to each his own.
12/11/2010
I can't imagine ending a committed relationship over anything that happened in the past. If you love someone, you love them, and tearing apart your lives seems like overkill. So unless you find out about a violent criminal past or something, the past is the past.
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Yep, that'd be my concern too.
Originally posted by
Kayla
I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care,
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I'd be none-of-the-above. I wouldn't really care all that much, but my concern is over diseases. If I found out that he had used a pro in the past, I would want an STD test (assuming we hadn't done one) ASAP. Morally, I wouldn't care, but I'd be more concerned about possible diseases.
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As long as they're clean and not currently engaged with prostitutes, then I really don't mind. I personally would never get a prostitute. It just seems awkward...
12/12/2010
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Really depends on a lot of factors- too much to explain right now. I'm going to bed. I really should not stay up so late on the forums, it makes me bitchy.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
12/12/2010
uh, my hubby used to be an escort long ago, so it would hardly bother me at all! What happened in the past just doesn't count today.
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As long as he was careful and didn't pick up any STDs I wouldn't have a problem with him having done that in the past.
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It wouldn't really bother me. It's often a question I ask innocently in the beginning when I get to know a guy. I'm nosy.
If I was involved with the guy, I would have checked him out before hand to make sure he was totally clean so no issue here.
If I was involved with the guy, I would have checked him out before hand to make sure he was totally clean so no issue here.
12/12/2010
So long as it was before we were together, I wouldn't really care.
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It is in the past so it wouldn't bother me at all.
12/12/2010
But I guess at this point I would mostly be upset that I had been lied too. So I guess its hard for me to give an honest answer to the question alone.
02/07/2011
It would bother me.
02/07/2011
Provided they're still disease-free and don't plan to do it when I'm in a relationship with them, I don't mind.
02/08/2011
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hmmm. That's a tough question. It would really bother me, but i'm not sure how i would react to it.
Originally posted by
celibacysucks
This happened to me, and recently to a friend. It opened up a lot of discussions and I am curious how other's feel about it.
02/10/2011
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agreed! id be super pissed off, upset, hurt, and in return for the stupid spilling about it he can forget bout sex for a few weeks *i like to have it a few times a week so id be suffering*. =/
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*HisMrs*
It would bother me.
my husband would not do that to me im sure
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