How to ask my guy to play with my clit

Contributor: StephieBoo02 StephieBoo02
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months and I'm shy about how to ask him to play with my clit, because that is how I orgasm. I sometimes play with myself first before he goes on top and that sometimes gets me close to orgasm.
10/31/2011
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
There are a couple of things you can do and I guarantee you he will think it's hotter than the sun if you did.

You can guide his hands to your clit and put pressure on his finger where you want it and softly say something like "that feels really good, don't stop". You can rub the area yourself while he's on top or in whatever position you're in at the time.

You can pillow talk about it afterwards. "That was really great, I loved it when you touched me with your hands."

Or you can simply sit down and explain that women orgasm in a variety of different ways, you happen to be able to orgasm clitorally instead of vaginally and that it's no disrespect to him but that's just the way it is.

Dr. T. Ken Taylor has discovered that the nerves responsible for female orgasm divide in a variety of ways when we're very little girls. Some women get all the sensation in their vagina and they don't enjoy clitoral stimulation and some women like a little bit of both, while still there are women who can only orgasm via clitoral stimulation.

Be open, be honest and you'll be surprised at what you receive in return!
10/31/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
Is there a reason why you can't ask him upfront? I find that it is best to be frank with issues dealing with sex. Tell him what you want! You can also try showing him what to do and guide his hand to your clit when you play. He'll get the idea.
10/31/2011
Contributor: StephieBoo02 StephieBoo02
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Originally posted by Rarity
Is there a reason why you can't ask him upfront? I find that it is best to be frank with issues dealing with sex. Tell him what you want! You can also try showing him what to do and guide his hand to your clit when you play. He'll get the idea.
Thanks all! I will try something, maybe just showing him with my hand
10/31/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
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Originally posted by StephieBoo02
Thanks all! I will try something, maybe just showing him with my hand
If you like girl-on-top, you can stimulate yourself that way too! What I really enjoy doing is grinding against my boyfriend and rubbing my clit on him, hands free.

I hope you two can work this out! x
10/31/2011
Contributor: Ace <3 Ace <3
I definitely agree with the first post. My girlfriend enjoys it when I take her hand and do it because she finds that really hot. From there she gets the idea and goes with it.
10/31/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
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Originally posted by Ansley
There are a couple of things you can do and I guarantee you he will think it's hotter than the sun if you did.

You can guide his hands to your clit and put pressure on his finger where you want it and softly say something like "that ... more
This is fantastic advice! The first couple times I usually play with myself, and then once I just asked my boyfriend if he wanted to learn how to play with it, and then I demonstrated exactly what I liked. He tried, and I kind of guided his hand until he got it.
11/01/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by Ansley
There are a couple of things you can do and I guarantee you he will think it's hotter than the sun if you did.

You can guide his hands to your clit and put pressure on his finger where you want it and softly say something like "that ... more
Great advice. I'd try something Stormy listed here, you're bound to have something work out for you. Good luck!
11/01/2011