How open are you with your sexuality and with whom?

Contributor: Shesasexybrat Shesasexybrat
Okay I get that we are all rather open on here, but where do you stop informing about who you are, who/what you like and what you do?

I think that this is a fun thing to talk about because I tend to go back and forth between two.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Rather inclosed about my sexuality when it is not on here/internet. Only my doctor knows in my real life.
Avant-garde , Viktor Vysheslav Malkin , ToyGeek , Selective Sensualist , Kindred
5  (5%)
Rather inclosed but I do inform my partner of even my deepest of fantasy's and experiences.
El-Jaro , Two Loves , kck , Persephone Nightmare , GeekWife , leatherlover , Bunnycups , rdytogo , Vaccinium , Xavier7 , ellejay
11  (11%)
Slightly open about my sexuality, a close friend and my partner get the inside scoop.
Luscious Lily , Sammi , Passionate Pastor , Hannah Savage , Alicia , Blinker , her.royal.redness , Isadorabelle , Lady Venus , mrs.mckrakn , sasweetheart89 , socceras , Taylor , The Nakanas , UnknownGirl , sbon , darthkitt3n , The Awesome Penguin , Sohotdinosaur , sporker , OhMy! , potstickers , bayosgirl
23  (23%)
Slightly open about my sexuality, some people that I am close get to know what is up, but moslty on a need to know basis.
ToyTimeTim , Kim! , CherryMinx , nolongerhere , Ropeguy , Love Buzz , Pleasure Piratess , Waterfall , EdLynn , Darling Jen , BBW Talks Toys , DeliciousSurprise , Sebmissive , KnK , Krysia , sexyk515 , MaryExy , renea and rob , Collogue
19  (19%)
Pretty open, I let a few of my friends know along with my partner and a sibling/ same sex parent.
MuffysPinguLove , Adriana Ravenlust , bzzingbee , k3 , frisky069
5  (5%)
Open, friends, some family, partner, and those few people that seem to get me to open up before I know them all to well.
Shesasexybrat , Sir , Airen Wolf , Elodie , Angel deSanguine , Holly (Woman Tribune) , joja , PolyGirl , TiffySmilez , usmcwife99 , Skelis , Dusk , tigerkate , Eeyor89 , ZenaidaMacroura , snowchick2113 , PuplePleasures , LavenderSkies , ToxicHeart , Redboxbaby , VenusianThunder , kawigrl , Joie de Cherresse , Epicurean , angel142stx
25  (26%)
Extremely open; friends, family, partner, their ex's, anyone who reads my blog. Randoms at the bar. I mean, why not? Everybody has fantasys, I'm just open enough to admit it.
Miss Naughty Kitty , Trashley , Madeira , Tart , Shellz31 , Sweet-Justice , zoobamafooba , hornypoet69 , BadassFatass , Daniel & Brittany
10  (10%)
Total votes: 98
Poll is closed
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Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
I like to leave it in the obvious/assumed but give people room to speculate. I like to keep people on their toes if they follow me around and need to know.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
I am very open about all of it. I prefer to get it all out there before getting involved, either in a friendship or in a relationship. No secrets, so surprises.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I'm pretty open. I coined the term "openly discreet" to describe how I am. I am open but I don;t wear a neon sign shouting my sexuality to all and sundry. If you ask I'll answer honestly, unless you get rude with the question.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
I'm open with my husband, and pretty much with one friend, but other than that no.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
I am extremely private about my sexuality, strictly a need to know basis. I am more than willing to discuss what I think about sexuality and various aspects of it in general. However, I just don't talk about it from personal experience unless its someone I am very close to and even then. I think it has something that has to do with my upbringing.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Angel deSanguine Angel deSanguine
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I'm pretty open. I coined the term "openly discreet" to describe how I am. I am open but I don;t wear a neon sign shouting my sexuality to all and sundry. If you ask I'll answer honestly, unless you get rude with the question.
ditto. Open, yet respectful with a sprinkling of tact.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Holly (Woman Tribune) Holly (Woman Tribune)
I am very open. Friends, some of my family since they know I do sex toy reviews on my blog--my aunt reads my reviews and probably makes up my affiliate cash. Because I'm pretty open online and on my blog, I guess it would cover whoever reads my blog or follows me on Twitter or Facebook as well, but I don't go up to strangers all "Hey, wanna hear about my threesome!?" because that's just weird.
05/01/2010
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I'm pretty open. I coined the term "openly discreet" to describe how I am. I am open but I don;t wear a neon sign shouting my sexuality to all and sundry. If you ask I'll answer honestly, unless you get rude with the question.
I guess this is me. I don't discuss sex much with family but I am quite open with friends.
05/02/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I am extremely open to a certain extent. I don't go in to detail my my family other then a sister who is a couple years younger than me.
05/08/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I would vote "extremely open," but I come from a conservative Christian family that caused quite a stir when they found out I have a live-in boyfriend. So no, they don't need to know that I'm a sex toy fiend, kinky, polyamorous, pro-choice, or anything else about my sexuality.

Other than that, though, I love talking about sex with anyone who will listen. I particularly love giving advice for some reason. I think having satisfying sex/masturbation can be so helpful to one's mental health, self-esteem, and overall sense of self, and I just want to spread the joy!
06/10/2010
Contributor: PolyGirl PolyGirl
I like "openly discreet." I'd be pretty open about myself but protect the privacy of partners.
06/10/2010
Contributor: TiffySmilez TiffySmilez
I don't mind telling people that I'm bi but my mother would throw me out and my step mom's family (who I love so much) would disown me. My dad would accept me unconditionally.

My family is also conservative (in addition to being homophobic). I think talking openly about sex is a necessity and a privelidge so I do it as often as humanly possible.
07/02/2010
Contributor: Kim! Kim!
If I am open about my sexuality with someone I am quite open about it, provided that they're comfortable with that sort of talk. My SO grew up in a home where no one spoke of their sex lives (but dirty jokes are fine among his family) so I respect his reservations and don't really talk about him much.
07/04/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
My boyfriend and I are both ravenous psychopaths and we pretty much keep our sex life between us. Recently we told his best friend about how we celebrated after a party (choking and spanking amongst other things) and he thought it was a joke...or he's in denial.
07/04/2010
Contributor: CherryMinx CherryMinx
My friends know, my family is not queued in. They are mostly religious and wouldn't accept the fact that I am bisexual. Most of my sexual escapades are between my lover and myself.
07/04/2010
Contributor: nolongerhere nolongerhere
I think my mother would spontaneously combust if she knew the kind of stuff I get into in the wee hours of the morning...My friends all know that I have lots of sex, and that my partner is awesome in bed, but only a few know that I am secretly a sex toy junkie...
10/07/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Quote:
Originally posted by Shesasexybrat
Okay I get that we are all rather open on here, but where do you stop informing about who you are, who/what you like and what you do?

I think that this is a fun thing to talk about because I tend to go back and forth between two.
I dont really talk about it.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Ropeguy Ropeguy
I have in the past been very discreet and didn't even tell my girlfriend my deepest darkest fantasies untill just a few months ago. I a, glad I got over that and I am glad I did as I feel better about myself and can even talk to some of my friends who I knew were also into kink.
I think it is better to be honest with the people you love.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
I'm a VERY open bisexual who likes sex so hard I bleed. Torturous sex is great sex! I've been the same way since Catholic grade school. It was either be out and about or be in the closet for the rest of my life, and who wants to live like that? So I began practicing early
10/07/2010
Contributor: Madeira Madeira
I'm very open about my being gay, friends, family, everyone knows that.

In terms of my kinky, everyone but my family knows about that, we don't talk about acitivies inside the bedroom with one another, and it's not something I'd be comfortable with. Not because I'm ashamed, simply because I don't want to think about them having sex, and I'm sure they don't want to think about me having sex.
10/07/2010
Contributor: Isadorabelle Isadorabelle
I'm pretty open about my attraction, or lack of to people. Though, as far as my activity here, not really. Sexuality is very difficult for me to explain, so it's easier if the less people know, as far as people who I have relationships go, the better.
10/08/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
theres certain people that youre able to talk to about anything. and theres also people that cant handle certain topics. i know who i cant and can not talk to...
10/24/2010
Contributor: sasweetheart89 sasweetheart89
I am pretty open on here, and totally open with my husband including about being bisexual, but I feel a little hypocritical, in that, I am really open about my support of GLBTQ rights, but I present myself as a straight ally, typically. I don't know why, but I feel really strongly about people being able to be completely open about whatever their sexuality is, but I am not myself. I guess I can't lead by example... I kinda confuse myself on this one.
10/26/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I'm very open about the fact that I LOVE sex, but I only talk fantasies and experiences to a few of my close friends. There are some people that I'm close with that have told me they don't want to know about my sex life, and some people that I'm very close with, but we just don't talk about it (usually because I don't know how to breach the borders of that subject with them). I'm, obviously, very open here. It is a site dedicated to pleasure, after all.
10/27/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I can't vote - nothing truly describes me. I'm still learning my own desires and figuring out for myself seems best at the moment. Though I can be open online and with hubby for the most part I'm not advertising my sex life with friends and family. I still have desires to explore and they don't belong to anyone else but me, hubby and a like minded community. I do talk a lot about sex with my sister but just basic stuff nothing overly personal.

I do believe without honesty there is nothing so yeah it's not something I would hide from anyone who actually asked me. Just don't believe in lies. Thing is I'm "momma" and no one seems to think I have any other activities but being "momma"...have no idea how they think I got to be a momma in the first place
10/27/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
I am indeed rather open about sexuality. I'm kind of the opposite, not many of my family members know, but I am open to speaking about it with like minded individuals and strangers on Fetlife.
10/30/2010
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Some things I am pretty open about, but others I'm not. I guess I'm kind of weird that way
11/02/2010
Contributor: tigerkate tigerkate
I am pretty open about sexuality. I like to talk about it, so if it's the conversation, then I'm not sitting awkwardly with my mouth shut or anything. I don't really talk about it with my parents, or my brother. But I've mentioned a few things to my sister, and we have in-depth discussions about Planned Parenthood and the like
11/02/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Im extremely open. If the subject comes up with someone, Im more than happy to talk!
11/03/2010