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Have you ever been paid for sex or paid someone for sex?

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Contributor: Nashville Nashville
(Paid for oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex.)

What are your thoughts on sex in exchange for money? Are you morally or religiously against it? Are you afraid of sexual diseases and pregnancy? Are there negative stigma's attached to it?

More importantly, should it be legalized in the United States or wherever you reside? Are sex workers exposed to unnecessary dangers that by making it legalized, they would not be exposed to?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have never been paid for sex.
145
I have never paid anyone for sex.
143
I have been paid for sex but honestly, I had no idea why they were paying me.
4
I gave someone cab fare (or something similiarily awkward) and they mistook it as me paying them for sex.
I have been paid for sex and understood that was why I was being paid, but only once or a few times.
12
I have been paid for sex multiple times.
9
I have paid for sex and they understood that was why they were being paid, but it was only once or a few times.
8
I regularly pay someone (friend, family member, close associate) for sex.
I regularly pay a hooker, escort, prostitute, sex worker, etc. for sex.
I am a professional escort, prostitute, hooker, sexual entrepreneur, etc.
4
Other.
13
Total votes: 338 (191 voters)
Poll is closed
06/09/2009
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06/09/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Although my husband will tell you he's paid me for it plenty over the years .
06/09/2009
Contributor: SerpentLibertine SerpentLibertine
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
Although my husband will tell you he's paid me for it plenty over the years .
I'm a sex worker...been paid many times. I don't know how many open sex worker reviewers we have here, but I'd be curious to find out.
06/09/2009
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
Although my husband will tell you he's paid me for it plenty over the years .
LOL...mine would say the same thing..and I think I've probably said it to him too! LOL
06/10/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I was paid for sex once. A FWB really wanted to have sex, I wasn't in the mood, he offered up some money and some pot, and I gave him a blowjob. I suppose I should feel skeezy about it, but he WAS a FWB (I just wasn't in the mood), and both of us found the situation hilarious after the fact.
06/10/2009
Contributor: Valyn Valyn
Never paid or been paid, though a couple times, the idea of someone paying me kinda sounds hot. It's a flattering thought..
07/05/2009
Contributor: Liz Liz
I've never had money involved on either side, but I don't have any moral or religious objections. The opportunity has just never arisen, and I've never felt the need to seek it out.
07/05/2009
Contributor: adirondacker adirondacker
I have never been in a situation that I needed to pay for sex but I have no problems with paying if thats what it took. I would be worried about diseases and I would definitely not want to have a children with someone that my sole relationship with was paid sex. And not that I am very informed on the issue but I think it should be legal, if it was the government would step in for their cut but that would make it safer for everyone involved right?

How much does sex cost anyway? I want to see this menu... in the name of research
07/05/2009
Contributor: MuffysPinguLove MuffysPinguLove
Sometimes when my boyfriend and I roleplay he likes me to pretend I'm a hooker and he pays me. It turns him on during this type of situation as it makes it more realistic. I usually give it back to him afterwards even though he would much rather I kept it.
10/25/2009
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Once. I got paid, everything worked out.
10/27/2009
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by MuffysPinguLove
Sometimes when my boyfriend and I roleplay he likes me to pretend I'm a hooker and he pays me. It turns him on during this type of situation as it makes it more realistic. I usually give it back to him afterwards even though he would much rather ... more
Alan & I have role-played the hooker scenario a time or two before too, and we've also played "stripper" from time to time with one another and thus had the G-string full of dollars. I keep the money.

As for my thoughts on the real pay-for-sex situations (those between strangers), I don't see a problem with it. I mean, aside from an exchange of money, what's the difference between someone picking up a one-night-stand at a bar or picking up a hooker? Makes no sense for one to be legal and the other not, as long as it involves consenting adults.
10/27/2009
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I selected “other” just because while I’ve never paid for sex there are three sexual fantasies that if I have to pay for it in order to live them out, so be it. Also, the more I think about the more likely it seems that I’ll wind up paying for it someday just because for one of those it actually seems to me like paying for it would be the easiest way to get it out of my system.
10/27/2009
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Nashville
(Paid for oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex.)

What are your thoughts on sex in exchange for money? Are you morally or religiously against it? Are you afraid of sexual diseases and pregnancy? Are there negative stigma's attached to it? ... more
Being married is expensive enough! 0

I wouldn't have it any other way!
11/23/2009
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
Once. I got paid, everything worked out.
Really? That kinda surprises me from what little I know of you from the site.
11/23/2009
Contributor: Victoria Victoria
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
Really? That kinda surprises me from what little I know of you from the site.
Mr. Sauce, that came off rude - maybe you weren't intending on offending Sex, Lies and Pre-Law, but it appears that someone found it offensive. In the future, please refrain from making snarky observations about a person's character - it can really cause hurt feelings and tension. We would appreciate it if you would clarify and make amends here. Thank you!
11/23/2009
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
Mr. Sauce, that came off rude - maybe you weren't intending on offending Sex, Lies and Pre-Law, but it appears that someone found it offensive. In the future, please refrain from making snarky observations about a person's character - it can ... more
I'm sorry. I didn't mean it as rude. I can see how it could come across as offensive. I really didn't mean it that way. Inflection doesn't carry with font only.

I meant that it surprised me and I don't know SL&P that well; we all have our own stories.

I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. Thanks for letting me clarify.
11/23/2009
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
(EdenFantasys)
Once, a long time ago, but it wasn't penetrative sex, it was a blowjob.

I have no moral objects against prostitution. If anything, I think it should be legalized so that women (and men!) are offered more protection. And hell, benefits!
02/25/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Sigel has paid for sexual favors with my permission but I've never had the opportunity or desire. Our agreement is that whatever he spends on sex I get an equal amount to spend on something sex related. As long as he takes the appropriate precautions I see no problem with prostitution.

I've never been paid for sex but I would not mind being paid for it. Just never had the opportunity present itself. I have been paid to write very explicit erotica tailored to a specific fetish and I was informed by family members that that makes me as close to a whore as one can get...then again considering my family has some messed up attitudes toward sex in general I just considered the source and shot back with "well that's something else I can put on a resume now itsn't it?"
02/26/2010
Contributor: Jade Jade
As long as everyone is of age and consensual, I see the problem. I think it'd be better for sex workers if it was legalized.
03/21/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Never to either, past, present, future.
03/21/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
I have never been paid, unless you count me doing certain things with J that I wouldn't usually do in exchange for shoe money (since we're married I don't count them though).

On a legal and political level legalizing such things would be greatly beneficial to the government. More taxes would be paid, so the gov't stands to make more money off it (although take into account the under the table activity that would continue and one can see why legalizing might not be the gov't's favorite idea. I do think if it were legal and sex workers could get health benefits it would be worth it all. Plus legalizing would most likely force people to take more precautions (ie Nevada).

I won't get into morality here because not everyone believes the same thing. If I think it is ok, there will be someone who doesn't, and vice versa.
03/21/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by J's Alley
I have never been paid, unless you count me doing certain things with J that I wouldn't usually do in exchange for shoe money (since we're married I don't count them though).

On a legal and political level legalizing such things ... more
The things we do for shoe money
03/21/2010
Contributor: Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
Personally, I see nothing wrong with prostitution, provided all parties are in it willingly. I think legalizing it will do away with a lot of the dangers of it, but not all.
03/22/2010
Contributor: KBToys24 KBToys24
Nope never had to pay and never been paid (though I'm not saying I wouldn't lol)

On the legalization issue, definitely think it should be legalized for the protection of all parties involved but we do not live in a society that would allow this and that isn't about to change any time soon. Quite unfortunate considering it is a personal choice and if it's between consenting individuals nobody should care. You're free to do as you like behind closed doors.
04/09/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I wasn't paid in dollars, but rather a letter grade in a class. I begged a teacher to let me do anything to pass the class and boy did he take it and run with it. He had me go to his office after hours and yeah...he bent me over his desk and fucked the hell out of me. He even changed my letter grade right there while he was pounding me so I could see.

I can't look at that letter grade without feeling guilty
04/17/2010
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Quote:
Originally posted by namelesschaos
I selected “other” just because while I’ve never paid for sex there are three sexual fantasies that if I have to pay for it in order to live them out, so be it. Also, the more I think about the more likely it seems that I’ll wind up paying for it ... more
I'm posting again just to say I've changed my original stance...I would never pay anyone for sex. (Not judging anyone who does.) What caused me to change my mind...long story......don't ask.
04/17/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
When my only boyfriend in high school came over for our make out sessions, I would often joke 'I don't see a hundred dollar bill on the dresser, buddy.' Just to get back at me, he once deposited all of his pocket change on my dresser (he told me to keep it, so it went into the piggy bank).

Never have been offered or had offered. I'm too 'respectable' I'm told. Feh.
05/07/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I've never had anybody pay me, and I've never paid anybody either. Although I have gotten the jokes about how much they were 'paying' for it and also made the jokes about not seeing any money on the dresser, lol
05/08/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
Nope, and I wouldn't, except in a roleplaying context.

VieuxCarre: You shouldn't feel guilty. It's your teacher who should have been fired, unable to find a job teaching ever again, and jailed if you were underage. I come from a family of teachers and NOTHING makes them angrier than sexual exploitation of students. It is abusive and utterly and completely wrong. I hope you've talked to a professional about it. *hugs*
05/08/2010