Prudish.
Growing up: Open, or Prudish?
10/03/2012
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my folks have alwya sbeen open about sex
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
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Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
10/03/2012
My parents taught me the scientific aspects of it 100%, they never lied to me or hid it when I started asking questions as a young child. However, they never really discussed the 'pleasurable' aspects of it with me, except the occasional VERY BRIEF mention from my mom nowadays, now that I'm over 18. XD I think I prefer it that way.
10/04/2012
My mother was always open and willing to talk about everything, she just wasn't the best at it.
10/14/2012
When I was very young, my parents NEVER mentioned sex or anything sexual. In fact, my parents hardly even cursed around me: the first time I saw someone (my bus driver, actually) flip someone off, I had no idea what it meant. Once I began to ask questions my parents were very open, though. In fact, my mom even offered to buy me a sex toy when I was a little older (though not 18 yet) and I politely declined. Now, however, my mom and I talk pretty openly about sex and sexuality. We don't "shop together," but I'm even comfortable going to porn stores with her as long as we go our seperate ways. Sometimes if I'm not sure about something and we're in a store, I'll ask her opinion. ( For example, the first time I bought flavored lube for the first time I was going to give a blowjob... I had no idea what to get. )
I don't need the advice so much any more, but we still talk about a lot of things. I appreciate the approach, over all. I felt like I could ask my parents about just about anything, in a worst case scenario, and that was really awesome.
I don't need the advice so much any more, but we still talk about a lot of things. I appreciate the approach, over all. I felt like I could ask my parents about just about anything, in a worst case scenario, and that was really awesome.
10/14/2012
Open. Never had "the talk" but still talked about sex in general.
10/14/2012
My family was very uptight, but it wasn't because they were trying-- we just didn't talk about it. My sister gave me the talk though when I had my period, and forced my mom to back her up.
10/14/2012
I received no mechanical info on sex and I didn't even know I was masturbating until I'd been doing it for years. I just know that it felt good and that my parents told me it was gross to touch myself when they caught me with my hands in my pants once. I always thought this was strange since, from what I've heard, my parents seem to have a pretty active and happy sex life. There's a lot of contradiction about sex in my family.
10/15/2012
Laughed when I read about your "prudish" upbringing. All my mom would say is "I think sex within marriage is fun." No mention of self-pleasing or orgasm at all.
03/14/2013
My parents were pretty open with me. Movies rated R for sexual content were allowed but not ones rated that high because of violence.
03/14/2013
I voted "Other" because my aunt and uncle raised me from 4-14 in a cult-like atmosphere and they were very prudish but my dad and step mom who I saw every other weekend without fail and eventually moved in with gave me the talk at 13 (I was naive for a while). They have always been very open with me. My step mom bought me my first vibrator at 18(??).
03/14/2013
I had a sex talk with my parents very young. Perhaps too young. I remember when I first asked where babies come from and getting a full hour talk with charts and pictures. It kind of turned me off for the longest time.
03/14/2013
I got both ends of the spectrum. My parents divorced round when I was three or so, and the atmospheres in their homes were very different. My mum was always very open about sex, while my da' was more conservative and preferred not to talk about it.
03/14/2013
If I had questions, they were answered. However, anything sex related was highly discouraged. I grew up being a bit afraid of even considering masturbating. My mom used to tell me how much she hated sex. I was scared I would too and avoided serious relationships for awhile.
03/14/2013
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not very open
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
...
more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
03/15/2013
I received no form of sex education from my parents. Heck, they didn't even mention that I would get a period (which freaked me out once I got it!)
03/15/2013
never had the sex talk
03/16/2013
I believe we were open I didn't know a whole lot when I was small but had a few things that I did know about it
03/16/2013
i never had the talk with my parents but if we wanted to know something they were open and told us
03/16/2013
Hard to say. My parents were never strict, I could pretty much do whatever I wanted. However I never had a sex talk, sex was never discussed at home.
03/17/2013
Very prudish. Sex wasn't a topic at all. Even puberty talks were very vague. I get in a lot of trouble for saying this, but I am glad it was this way. It worked well in our case. But I DON'T think every house should be handled the same way.
It seemed my parents thought school would handle my education well. I thought sex-ed was boring and I didn't get the approach. So I read about sex wherever I could--encyclopedias, my family's magazines, novels, and then the internet. I think my parents were very aware. I may have known more about sex at 18 than my parents did in their 40s. Even though I didn't start until then.
It seemed my parents thought school would handle my education well. I thought sex-ed was boring and I didn't get the approach. So I read about sex wherever I could--encyclopedias, my family's magazines, novels, and then the internet. I think my parents were very aware. I may have known more about sex at 18 than my parents did in their 40s. Even though I didn't start until then.
03/18/2013
Never had the talk. Taboo in my house growing up.
03/18/2013
My family (as well as most of society) was prudish about sex when I first started looking and learning. Luckily, there were a lot of books written by gay writers in the 70s and 80s that enlightened me to what people were actually doing. Of course, my sexual awakening happened at the height of the AIDS epidemic, so there was not much "wild sex" to be had at that time.
03/18/2013
Uh....there was NO talk of sex, period. One time when I was 16 my parents caught me with a book for females on how to pleasure ourselves. They were stern and said to ask them any "questions" I might have (LOL.)
03/18/2013
Bodies and sex were and open book in our house my mother always made sure we knew we could ask anything and get an answer.
03/18/2013
Growing up was prudish for me, though I never was.
03/18/2013
Very prude.
03/18/2013
I was always able to ask questions.
05/30/2013
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I was raised by my grandparents, and they -never- talked to me about sex or sexuality. I never thought to ask, since my school taught me the basics, and the internet taught me the rest. Though it did take me a long time to figure out my sexuality, and I think that if my parents had of been more open about it, I might have accepted it a lot sooner.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
...
more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
05/30/2013
We were very open, except once my mother caught me watching porn. She told the entire family and my brothers/mom/dad made fun of me for years after. it's not cool to do that to a nine year old and it really sat with me, even the memory still stings. And I'm super sex positive!
05/30/2013