You have to say you are going to do it, and then do it. After my husband and I had our children, our sex life decreased drastically... we were just too exhausted by the end of the night, and we just wanted to sleep. For us, having very little sex affected our entire marriage in general. We now make sure we have sex at least 5 days of the week. You also have to make it convenient. We have it in the shower a lot, because we both need to shower, and it just very convenient.

So, for us there is really no secret, we just said we were goning to do it, and we stuck to it!

I wish it were possible for us to do it every day-It's beneficial in so many ways-stress reduction, bringing us closer, etc-but my husband works 16 hours a day 4 days a week, and 8 hours on 2 "off" days so it's very hard for us to have sex more than a couple times a week. Also, I don't do well with quickies--I need a good 20 or 30 minutes to warm up, or it's terribly painful.