So there were a few times that my X and i were making love and i would not cum for NOTHING , and believe me he tried everything!! IDK , i got really tired and so i just faked it so he wouldn't feel bad or anything! Was i wrong for doing that? Have you ever faked an orgasm?
Faking an orgasm
08/21/2011
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I used to do it with my ex also haven't with my current bf there hasn't been a need.
08/21/2011
I can honestly say I've never faked.
08/21/2011
My opinion on this is two-fold---it's great that you want to not hurt his feelings, but at the same time you might be encouraging acts or behaviors that turn you off or just don't turn you on. I feel like either partner should be able to speak up and say "honey, this isn't doing it for me...mind if we try something else?", I just think that's the fair and mature thing to do.
08/21/2011
You aren't wrong, but I would never fake anything.
08/21/2011
In my experience, there are some days where you just aren't going to get off no matter what you do. When that happens I'll tell my husband that it isn't working, we'll try a few other things, but if nothing seems to help I tell him not to worry about me. He knows it's not anything wrong with him, just some days I can't quite get there. Some guys will take it personally, but really it's not anything they can do much about. I personally have never, and will never, fake an orgasm though. Like Sapphire Storm said, it can make him think you enjoy things that don't actually do anything for you.
08/21/2011
Well, I don't like to fake, because I dislike lies in general, and I don't think of it as hurting my partern's feelings. If I'm not getting off with what they do I'd rather tell them what would do it for me instead, and if they get offended by that so be it.
08/21/2011
I did once with an ex but felt horrible after I did. I never did it again, I just felt like being honest and talking openly were better than harboring negative feelings about faking it.
08/22/2011
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Originally posted by
Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I can honestly say I've never faked.
08/22/2011
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well , maybe i would if we were still together. thnkx for the advise
Originally posted by
Ansley
My opinion on this is two-fold---it's great that you want to not hurt his feelings, but at the same time you might be encouraging acts or behaviors that turn you off or just don't turn you on. I feel like either partner should be able to
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My opinion on this is two-fold---it's great that you want to not hurt his feelings, but at the same time you might be encouraging acts or behaviors that turn you off or just don't turn you on. I feel like either partner should be able to speak up and say "honey, this isn't doing it for me...mind if we try something else?", I just think that's the fair and mature thing to do.
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08/22/2011
I've never faked it but I have over exaggerated my level of arousal.
08/22/2011
Ive faked it with some women (the male)
08/22/2011
Never. I dont want him thinking I am enjoying that particular action to the point of orgasm or hell keep doing it exactly that way. I tell him what I like, and never lie about my orgasm. That way I get off as well, if hes worth it hes gonna want to get you off too.
08/22/2011
I never fake it, we've been together so long, my man can tell if it's real or not. Besides, there's always a next time!
08/22/2011
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Exactly. Because if you pretend to like it for so long, then change your mind and want to work on things then you can be seen as a liar even if you were just trying to protect your significant other. That being said, my ex had accused me of faking a few times but I've never seen the point in faking it so I never have. If I didn't finish I'd say so.
Originally posted by
Ansley
My opinion on this is two-fold---it's great that you want to not hurt his feelings, but at the same time you might be encouraging acts or behaviors that turn you off or just don't turn you on. I feel like either partner should be able to
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My opinion on this is two-fold---it's great that you want to not hurt his feelings, but at the same time you might be encouraging acts or behaviors that turn you off or just don't turn you on. I feel like either partner should be able to speak up and say "honey, this isn't doing it for me...mind if we try something else?", I just think that's the fair and mature thing to do.
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08/22/2011
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Yep, yep. I've never faked it and I don't think I ever considered it. Now, I have been a total douche and literally pushed someone off of me and yelled "STOP IT, RIGHT NOW". That was awkward. But, effective nonetheless. To elaborate, this wasn't my favorite person in the world and I had been trying to find a way out for months. It was a triad situation, so I had more than just myself to think about in the end.
Originally posted by
Jul!a
Exactly. Because if you pretend to like it for so long, then change your mind and want to work on things then you can be seen as a liar even if you were just trying to protect your significant other. That being said, my ex had accused me of faking
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Exactly. Because if you pretend to like it for so long, then change your mind and want to work on things then you can be seen as a liar even if you were just trying to protect your significant other. That being said, my ex had accused me of faking a few times but I've never seen the point in faking it so I never have. If I didn't finish I'd say so.
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08/22/2011
Yup I've faked it because I sometimes can't get off and I've had partners wouldn't stop until I came. I would fake it just so they'd stop.
08/22/2011
HaHA maybe once or twice because I wasnt in the mood and I just wanted it to be done because sometime he wante to make sure I cum first and he feels better so he could cum. But maybe 2 or 3 times i've faked Other than that nope.
08/22/2011
Used to fake all the time in the past, don't have to anymore, I don't think it's wrong, better they not be hurt thinking they're doing something wrong, sometimes, it's just impossible for you to reach that wonderful orgasm during sex!
08/27/2011
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Originally posted by
Peggi
Used to fake all the time in the past, don't have to anymore, I don't think it's wrong, better they not be hurt thinking they're doing something wrong, sometimes, it's just impossible for you to reach that wonderful orgasm during sex!
08/28/2011
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Huh ? lol i didn't think it was possible for a guy to fake cuming !
Originally posted by
fabidefabi
Ive faked it with some women (the male)
08/28/2011
Well there was just faking the orgasm. The supposed "cum" in the condom was never shown...
08/29/2011
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Oh, it is. It definitely is. Especially if there is a condom involved.
Originally posted by
DeliciousDrip
Huh ? lol i didn't think it was possible for a guy to fake cuming !
08/29/2011
Though some of you women have become experts at it, us guys look just plain silly
08/29/2011
ive faked before with one ex.
10/05/2011
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Ok this is a tough and serious one for me... I faked a couple times with my husband And one day when he asked if I ever did I said yes a couple time -not wanting to lie about it. It... that... did not go well. I could not believe how hurt he was by me doing it. I would say by me admitting it but you know what? The hurtful act was on me for faking in the first place. It caused a huge and lasting issue for him and his confidence. Not because I didnt cum but because I faked. He often still years later will ask "Did you really cum? Or were you just pretending?" Not every time... but often enough I can tell he still thinks about it... and I see the sadness on his face and in his eyes. He loves me very very much and would do anything for me... and would let me do anything I wanted to sexually to enjoy myself. I feel so bad that it put the fear or worry into our sex lives that didnt need to be there. This is a guy who always -always would eat, finger or toy with me until I came a time or two before he would ever worry about getting off himself. My advice - if it didnt work be honest up front and be a good enough communicator to either say why or what would have made it better. Please dont fake it - even if your pissed off, or they just cant do it right to get you over the top. You wont realize how much it hurts until you do and see the pain that simple fake can cause.
Originally posted by
DeliciousDrip
So there were a few times that my X and i were making love and i would not cum for NOTHING , and believe me he tried everything!! IDK , i got really tired and so i just faked it so he wouldn't feel bad or anything! Was i wrong for doing that?
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So there were a few times that my X and i were making love and i would not cum for NOTHING , and believe me he tried everything!! IDK , i got really tired and so i just faked it so he wouldn't feel bad or anything! Was i wrong for doing that? Have you ever faked an orgasm?
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DeliciousDrip I don't think you were wrong because I think you were trying to do a nice thing based on what you said and how you explained your reasoning... I did it for much the same reason though and I have felt bad about it since.
10/05/2011
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Awww mehn, i'm so sorry that ur husband felt that way.But at the same time he could have understood that u were trying to do something to please him in the process. I'm happy i don't have to fake anymore though. && I'm sure u don't do it either!
Originally posted by
CreamySweet
Ok this is a tough and serious one for me... I faked a couple times with my husband And one day when he asked if I ever did I said yes a couple time -not wanting to lie about it. It... that... did not go well. I could not believe how hurt he was by
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Ok this is a tough and serious one for me... I faked a couple times with my husband And one day when he asked if I ever did I said yes a couple time -not wanting to lie about it. It... that... did not go well. I could not believe how hurt he was by me doing it. I would say by me admitting it but you know what? The hurtful act was on me for faking in the first place. It caused a huge and lasting issue for him and his confidence. Not because I didnt cum but because I faked. He often still years later will ask "Did you really cum? Or were you just pretending?" Not every time... but often enough I can tell he still thinks about it... and I see the sadness on his face and in his eyes. He loves me very very much and would do anything for me... and would let me do anything I wanted to sexually to enjoy myself. I feel so bad that it put the fear or worry into our sex lives that didnt need to be there. This is a guy who always -always would eat, finger or toy with me until I came a time or two before he would ever worry about getting off himself. My advice - if it didnt work be honest up front and be a good enough communicator to either say why or what would have made it better. Please dont fake it - even if your pissed off, or they just cant do it right to get you over the top. You wont realize how much it hurts until you do and see the pain that simple fake can cause.
DeliciousDrip I don't think you were wrong because I think you were trying to do a nice thing based on what you said and how you explained your reasoning... I did it for much the same reason though and I have felt bad about it since. less
DeliciousDrip I don't think you were wrong because I think you were trying to do a nice thing based on what you said and how you explained your reasoning... I did it for much the same reason though and I have felt bad about it since. less
10/05/2011
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Wow, never thought of that! lol
Originally posted by
fabidefabi
Though some of you women have become experts at it, us guys look just plain silly
10/05/2011
I'd never fake one because why make the guy think hes doing a good job when hes doing terrible? Id want more enjoyment for myself.
08/19/2012
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