Does your partner every do anything that really gets on your nerves or makes you feel uncomfortable during sex?

Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Often with new couples, and even couples that have been together a long time, someone does something that really pisses the other person off during sex. Maybe a spank on the butt that was too hard, or maybe the other isn't giving you the attention you need. Does your partner do anything to tick you off during sex? Explain below!
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
YES! Everytime we have sex he/she... (explain)
Gunsmoke , Cedarlooman
2  (15%)
Nope, my partner and I are very in tune with one another. We may have had disputes in the past, but they were all worked out now! (explain)
PiratePrincess , Sammi , SamsDelight
3  (23%)
NEVER has my partner ever done anything that I dislike! (explain)
Lady Marmelade , pinkcupcakes
2  (15%)
Yes, sometimes my partner... (explain)
ToyGurl , P'Gell , LadyEarlGrey , IrishLassie , ZenaidaMacroura , froggiemoma
6  (46%)
I don't know! I have too many partners! (explain)
Other (explain)
Total votes: 13
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04/27/2011
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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
I don't know about ya'll, but every now and then my fiance gets TOO rough with the biting or rubbing. He's getting prepared for the air force, and he has quite the arm muscles. He's a real sweetie and him and I have the understanding to where I can say "no" sweetly, and he'll stop what he was doing. He also used to get a little selfish after a rough week, but we worked that out a long time ago and he is very very great about making time for me in bed unlike so many other men out there! That's why he's my fiance!
04/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Only when he falls asleep. It's not every time, but still. Jeez, stay awake!
04/27/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I'm sure I get on my wife's nerves at times. I play her breasts and butt more than she'd prefer. However my persistence seems to be paying off. She's enjoying breast play more - as long as she's not having PMS issues. The same is true for anal exploration - we're getting close to breakthrough there.

The things I do are intended to give her pleasure - but sometimes her preconceived ideas about pleasure can block the good that is available. She understands that now and is willing to try 'the uncomfortable' - just nothing painful.
04/27/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm sure I get on my wife's nerves at times. I play her breasts and butt more than she'd prefer. However my persistence seems to be paying off. She's enjoying breast play more - as long as she's not having PMS issues. The same is ... more
I agree that sometimes when one feels a bit blocked, one has to break through "uncomfortable" to get to pleasure. Not outright pain or certainly not completely non-consensual stuff, but sometimes our lovers really know more about what we need than we do.

G-d, that sounded sexist. But, I have found it to be true sometimes......often.
04/27/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I agree that sometimes when one feels a bit blocked, one has to break through "uncomfortable" to get to pleasure. Not outright pain or certainly not completely non-consensual stuff, but sometimes our lovers really know more about what we ... more
Yes, I think a lot of that is really true. As far as what I said about the biting... I really never liked biting before. No matter where it was. But as my fiance kept doing it more and more, on my breasts, my neck, and the lips of my pussy, I really get into it. As long as he isn't bruising me or going TOO hard, like I mentioned, I love it. It makes my pleasure so much more intense, and I never would have experienced it if he didn't do it without asking me. I would have said no!

Good point though!
04/27/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
I'm sure I get on my wife's nerves at times. I play her breasts and butt more than she'd prefer. However my persistence seems to be paying off. She's enjoying breast play more - as long as she's not having PMS issues. The same is ... more
Oh geesh, it's the other way around with me and my fiance and anal exploration. I have always enjoyed some light anal tickling and penetration with toys or just the finger. I have even had anal sex a few times and really loved it. But he's a stickler about the butt, and he finds it very gross. He hates the idea of doing anything butt-related. I guess those are just sacrifices you make for the ones that you love. I would never want to do anything to make him uncomfortable, as he would me. Such as the whole "skull-fucking" thing. Geesh, that hurts soooo bad when a male does that. At least to me. But he did it once and upon seeing my discomfort he has never done it again, or even asked. It's all about sacrifice.

Plus, I'm not all that bummed that he wont have ANAL SEX with me... because he is packing! That would hurt soooo bad! I just wish he would at least do a little anal play or let me do it with him.
04/27/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
Often with new couples, and even couples that have been together a long time, someone does something that really pisses the other person off during sex. Maybe a spank on the butt that was too hard, or maybe the other isn't giving you the ... more
*EVER not EVERY... sorry guys. It was late! I'm sure there's still more typos lol
04/27/2011
Contributor: LadyEarlGrey LadyEarlGrey
Sometime my hubby will get a little rough with my breasts. I don't mind him playing with them but its the way he does I guess. I don't like it when he pushes them up towards my face. I don't know if this makes sense but it just really doesn't feel good for me. Also, sometimes when he gets too excited about going down on me he will lick places that are way too sensitive. I let him know everytime and once in awhile I get annoyed but I try to remember that he is excited about doing it so I shouldn't complain haha.
04/27/2011
Contributor: PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
We used to have disagreements about who was willing to do what when we first stated doing things together. At that time, I wasn't ready and we had a hard time communicating that I wasn't really into it. But over time, we've worked it out and we're really good together now.
04/27/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
You know honestly my husband hasnt really done anything, however there are times he tries to go for the backdoor, when I am SOO not prepared for that and then tries to shrug it off like he didnt know, but I think he really knows he just doesnt want to admit to it.
04/27/2011
Contributor: SamsDelight SamsDelight
My husband once thought it was a good thing that after a long session of foreplay I would get so sore that every time he touched my clit I would jump and cry out. After 5 years he has learned that it is a very sensitive area and that a pain cry is different from a pleasure cry.
04/28/2011
Contributor: Cedarlooman Cedarlooman
For some reason every time we switch to woman on top from any other position, my wife for some reason feels the need to have one knee on the bed and the other leg balanced on her foot. This makes entering her incredibly awkward as it shifts the angle off to the side. I have no idea why she does this. Either on both knees or on both feet, but not one of each!!
04/28/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I agree that sometimes when one feels a bit blocked, one has to break through "uncomfortable" to get to pleasure. Not outright pain or certainly not completely non-consensual stuff, but sometimes our lovers really know more about what we ... more
Yes THIS! My husband totally knows my body and what brings it pleasure better than I do! Too bad it took me so long to figure that out!
04/28/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by Cedarlooman
For some reason every time we switch to woman on top from any other position, my wife for some reason feels the need to have one knee on the bed and the other leg balanced on her foot. This makes entering her incredibly awkward as it shifts the ... more
I actually do somewhat of the same thing... with variation depending where we are. For a female to orgasm, usually through clitoral stimulation, she needs to create pressure and build up to it. This is textbook fact, but many people think the building up is only by breathing or movements. But females really need to tense their legs up in ways that not only feel uncomfortable but look uncomfortable... they are also not always comfortable for our partners. This usually happens since females may be accustomed to solo play. Almost ALWAYS women tell me that they only need to stretch one leg to the extremes. I, myself, am even this way. I would say try to look past it and let her do what she needs to do to get off. She is obviously making effort to have both of you enjoy sex all at once
04/29/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by SamsDelight
My husband once thought it was a good thing that after a long session of foreplay I would get so sore that every time he touched my clit I would jump and cry out. After 5 years he has learned that it is a very sensitive area and that a pain cry is ... more
Holy crap, I feel you... I had a long weekend with my hunny and we did a lot of work on the clit. On the Sunday following the previous three days, he barely laid his tongue against my clit and I almost crushed his face with my legs... hurt so incredibly bad. He's very sweet and learned quickly to be gentle. Women moan as if they are in pain quite often, though. So I can imagine being a male, it must be hard to differentiate.
04/29/2011