does it still hurt to have anal sex?

Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i first had anal about 4 years ago and it seems like its always just as painful. but once we're at it, it feel so good.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
no pain here. love it!
21  (40%)
it hurts in the begining, but love it after
23  (44%)
omg!! pain!! why do you do this again...??
2  (4%)
never had anal
6  (12%)
Total votes: 52
Poll is closed
10/19/2010
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10/19/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I think it's more a matter of mood and proper getting ready to avoid any pain. Partners should be receptive of how to make it pleasing from start to finish. Remain relaxed, lubed and enjoy if it's something you wish to pursue. There's more in depth threads in the Anal Sex section link
10/19/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I'e only done it once but it didn't hurt at all.
10/19/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We always make sure to take time to warm up. If we do, there's no pain at all for me, but I can't jump right into it.
10/19/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
No pain unless I'm impatient. Go slow, plenty of lube, and relax. Don't do it if you're rushed or worried.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Mr. E Mr. E
Pain is your body's way of telling you that something is not right.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
I have no pain unless my man is rushing me to move along. Usually its smooth sailing.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
No pain unless I dont warm up enough first.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
My first experience with anal was painful, no lube, saliva and brute force by a former b/f. I was so negative on anything anal for some time. I eventually experimented alone with butt plugs and then my b/f. I do warm up with a butt plug and better yet an orgasm prior to his penetration.
I now totally love all things anal and usually masturbate with a butt plug in my ass. PIV sex is more intense for me, with a butt plug in place as well.
Anal sex can be very satisfying, w/o pain; with lube, warming up and patience.
10/20/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. E
Pain is your body's way of telling you that something is not right.
Yep, so when it happens I back off and slow down. I find that things go faster when I take the time up front, otherwise my anus turns into a skittish animal that has to be convinced that everything's OK before I can do anything else.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Always hurts at first, feels better afterwards
10/20/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
I will be honest and say that yes, it always hurts at first. But then again, anal sex isn't something we do regularly. We had anal sex for the first time nine and a half years ago, and since then have probably only had it maybe 5-6 times per year. It just isn't our thing to do on a regular basis. So even though we do it the "right" way, prep with foreplay and lube and more lube, etc., it still does always hurt at first.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I have no pain unless my man is rushing me to move along. Usually its smooth sailing.
Same here. If he rushes or he's wasted or something, it'll hurt. But if I'm really turned on and we've been playing for awhile, it's a bit of pressure upon entry and that's it.
10/20/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
i first had anal about 4 years ago and it seems like its always just as painful. but once we're at it, it feel so good.
It's never supposed to hurt. Pain means youare doing something wrong...generally it means slow down, add more lube and RELAX.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Serendipity Serendipity
i'm learning what a HUGE difference good lube makes.
10/21/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Serendipity
i'm learning what a HUGE difference good lube makes.
Doesn't it!
10/21/2010
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
i first had anal about 4 years ago and it seems like its always just as painful. but once we're at it, it feel so good.
It always hurts at first but I just have to relax!!!
11/19/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
It hurt the first time, and a few times after... cause I didn't wanna upset him cause he was enjoying himself.
But when he asked me, I told him it hurt... So we tried it with lube.. and he gave me a looong full body massage and played with my clit.. and I was completely relaxed
And we've been pretty much gravy each time..

There's a little pressure since we don't see each other that often... like I saw him last in July... and I might see him in December or January.. but yeah.
11/19/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
It hurt the first time, and a few times after... cause I didn't wanna upset him cause he was enjoying himself.
But when he asked me, I told him it hurt... So we tried it with lube.. and he gave me a looong full body massage and played with my ... more
The first time didn't hurt for me but the second time it did as he just dove right in without stretching me out first. I was in so much pain. Then I decided to get a butt plug and tada welcome to EF!
11/20/2010
Contributor: Fannybutts Fannybutts
The first time we attempted it he barely got in and it HURT. I rolled away and was tearing up it hurt so much. Didn't try again for a few months, I think he was afraid of hurting me again and I'm not really into it.
The other two times there was no pain, tho I gave him the chance to get me ready, as much as I didn't want to.
11/20/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
For me, it's not exactly pain every time but discomfort. The first couple of times I did it with my current partner, we didn't warm up much. I was fine while I had my vibrator on and hadn't orgasmed yet, but as soon as I did, it hurt and he had to get out. Now it's just kind of uncomfortable once I have an orgasm, as odd as that is. But if I take a couple minutes to just kind of chill and try to have another orgasm, I'm good again. I have a bit of a finicky booty.
11/24/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by ZenaidaMacroura
For me, it's not exactly pain every time but discomfort. The first couple of times I did it with my current partner, we didn't warm up much. I was fine while I had my vibrator on and hadn't orgasmed yet, but as soon as I did, it hurt and ... more
It's not unusual to have some anal "downtime" after orgasming, and it's also not unusual to have some discomfort after insertion (it should not be pain). A prep orgasm and some anal foreplay might make things better.
11/24/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
It definitely hurts in the beginning, and it takes a few thrusts to get used to it. But, the more you do it, the more loose you become, and the less pain felt.
12/01/2010
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
its the best, and as long as i am prepped and into it, anal is the best. it never hurts sometimes it is a little tight, but never hurts.
12/03/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Hurts soo much in the beginning, but once I'm into it I really like it.
12/04/2010
Contributor: dhig dhig
It depends on how often I do it, which is not much. So yeah, always a bit uncomfortable at first.
12/04/2010
Contributor: Ropeguy Ropeguy
Go slow and use plenty of lube and there should be very little to no pain.
12/05/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
There are two degrees: a bit of discomfort is one thing (and does happen, especially if I'm not warmed up enough), pain is another and shouldn't happen (if it does stop, rest for a bit, and start again).
12/06/2010
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
It hurts a lot if I'm not warmed into it.
07/24/2011