no. it was with my now husband. we were 17 and had done everything else and then finally had sex.

I do, but that's because it wasn't consensual. The first time I was with a partner of my own free will, I definitely don't regret a thing about. It was amazing, and fixed a lot of the hurt from before.

I waited quite a long time (21) and was with a girlfriend I trusted. After the first time, I liked it so much we did it two more times that night.

I think I was too young, 13. Wrong person. Wrong time. It just wasn't a good choice for me.

Nope. It was kind of awesome, fun, meaningful, and intimate.

Nope, not at all.

It wasn't some horrible mistake, but I still wish I wouldn't have done it.

It wasn't great, but I don't see why I should regret it. It doesn't have to be perfect, and being negative about it doesn't help!

I don't regret it. It hurt and didn't feel very pleasurable, but it was fun and got a lot better.

I don't regret my first time at all.

It was the beginning of a new chapter of my life. The precise details, honestly, did not have to be all that important. It's the past. I don't "value virginity" as I think it's a flawed concept. The first time I had PIV sex was... nice. I had no idea at the time that I would end up marrying that man, in fact, I was pretty sure I wouldn't marry him. We had an age difference, I wasn't sure we were completely compatible, and I had a LOT of other things to do, sexually and otherwise before I even thought about marriage or permanent relationships.

We ended up using an Open Relationship, which I think actually brought us closer in a lot of ways. If we had only had each other back then, I am pretty sure we would NOT still be together. The fact that we were soon after, free to see other people, (and as I had been a virgin I needed to have sex with other men. I couldn't imagine waking up one day in my 30s and going, "OMG, what did I miss?" and I KNOW for sure it would have happened and probably destroyed us.) And, even though he had experience before me, I KNOW My Man needed to continue to experiment with other women.

All the Open Relationship did for us was to 1) give us both more experience and 2) help us understand that we were the best partners for each other. If we hadn't done it the way we did, it would not have worked. I know for sure (because I know myself) that if he had been my "first AND only" I would have regretted not experimenting, wondered what other men were like (not only in bed, but as part of an adult relationship, and those require sex) and would have probably developed a lot of resentment over the years for what I "missed."

So, no, I do not regret a single thing about my first time. IF it had been with someone else, that would have been fine, too. It's one fuck in a lifetime of sex. I think raising the "First Time" to an elevated status is a silly thing to do. The gestalt of one's sex life should be what one looks a. Not one fumbling attempt in High School that may or may not have gone well.

It's only ONE time, out of many. Mine was ... nice. I'm glad it happened the way it did. If it had been someone else or in a different situation, that would have been good, too. It's only ONE time.

My entire sex life, as a whole is much more important than that one time when I was a 16 year old girl who thought, "What the hell? Let's do this thing!"

I believe I was 20, and I knew I was not in love with the girl. I was a little shy, and I guess at one time I thought I would wait until marriage. Sort of got tired of that idea. We dated for a little while, I knew she was more experienced, and we fooled around a lot before going all the way. I guess I regretted it somewhat. We dated a little longer and only had sex twice after that. After we broke up, I started dating my now wife.

One of those things that doesn't really make a difference to me.

I regret that he wasn't entirely sure he was ready and I think I kinda pressured him into it.
So, I don't regret the having sex part, I regret the being an asshole part.

My first PIV experience was just a few days ago, and I have zero regrets. I put A LOT of weight on virginity up until a few years ago thanks to my religious upbringing and fear I had of sex. Even though I've had a lot of doubts about my religion over the years and had mentally found a new truth, I was still afraid to admit to people that I'd taken on a more liberal mindset. The guy I'm with now I met over a year ago, and he has been with me throughout my transformation of self. We never talked about sex until a few months ago, and he's been very understanding of my concerns (I'm 25 - I can't have a baby now!) and fears. Thus, I was extremely excited and confident when we finally did do it. And despite the pain (I take tightness to a new level), I would relive that very moment any day.

it was not the right person. i was blinded by love and could not see his emotional manipulation that pulled the v-card right out of me. i regretted it immensely when he dumped me for my friend a couple months later.

I don't regret who it was with... I ended up marrying him many years later, interestingly enough. But I regret how it went... it wasn't fun that first time and I wish I had waited just a teensy bit longer so that it was. I also regret telling my mother that it was with the next guy I dated and not who it was really with (especially now that he's the father of her only grandchild).

i wouldn't call it regret. i could have picked a better person, but what are you going to do.

Definitely not! It was with my now fiancee.

In between...

Yes.

I was so torn between wanting my girlfriend of the time so badly...and being afraid of what it would mean. I definitely don't regret it, but I would have done it differently.

Not at all. It's been over four years now and we're still together. I guess I wish that he felt better about it.

Nope. Wasn't fantastic, but I can't imagine it would have been.