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Do you have or have you had cybersex?

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Contributor: LavenderLive LavenderLive
Have you ever had cybersex? Do you still have cybersex? This includes any of the following activities:

1. Erotic chatting via instant messaging
2. Sharing erotic pictures over the internet
3. Internet phone sex via an online telephone service
4. Erotic e-mails
5. Webcamming
6. Online dating / lifestyle sites / adult sites
7. Viewing online erotic materials such as pictures or videos.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No, never
42
Yes, but not any more.
82
YES. Love it!!!
79
Webcamming
63
Chatting and e-mails
74
Other
26
Total votes: 366 (220 voters)
Poll is closed
01/15/2010
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Contributor: Miss Jane Miss Jane
I'm pretty sure there's already a discussion about this..

My answer would be yes, but I don't enjoy it as much as real, two-people-together sex. Also, I think looking at porn online counts as masturbation, not cybersex
01/15/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Jane
I'm pretty sure there's already a discussion about this..

My answer would be yes, but I don't enjoy it as much as real, two-people-together sex. Also, I think looking at porn online counts as masturbation, not cybersex
eh...

I only this it'd count as masturbation if you were masturbating and not just looking.

cybersex leads to really messy keyboards
01/15/2010
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Yes. I'm in a long distance relationship and we only get to see each other about twice a year.

Like Miss Jane said, it's not as good as the real deal, but it gets us by.
01/15/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
It's how I ended up with my ex-husband. He had a great mind for it ... just not in actual practice.

So, I'm the 'used to' vote.
01/15/2010
Contributor: Wild at Heart Wild at Heart
Yes. That's how me and my boyfriend have any kind of fun. We are in a long distance relationship and cybering is the next best thing to real sex when you are in the mood and needing that attention from your partner. It keeps us both happy and satisfied so I have no problems with it. It also spices up things between us and it allows us to learn what the other person likes. In my personal experience with it, it's worth it.
01/15/2010
Contributor: Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
I used to cybersex like mad when I was still a virgin when I was 17... I keep good memories. But I'm not into that anymore. I used to go in chat rooms and do it with strangers.

If I were to do it again, I would only do it with my partner.
01/15/2010
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I have a very specific definition of cybersex which makes it hard to find good partners. I did, once, and I married him and living together meant time for real sex not cyber. I'll be honest, someone who is good at cybering can be at least as good as sex in the flesh.
01/16/2010
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I was on an adult forum for months and guys there ALWAYS wanted to cyber. If they were good friends I would do it. I've done actual cybering (see below for example) over a hundred times. I've only gotten off about six times. I don't do it for myself. I do it for the other person.

[ex.

me: *running my tongue down the length of your shaft I let out a soft moan. My mouth suddenly wraps around your bulbous head and I quickly take all of you in my throat*

him: *letting out a guttural sound of pleasure my hands twist in your hair and I hold you down on my thick cock until I feel you struggling for air. I choke you a moment too long on my prick and when I let you up I see tears in your eyes as you gasp for breath*]
01/16/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Lithaewyn
Yes. I'm in a long distance relationship and we only get to see each other about twice a year.

Like Miss Jane said, it's not as good as the real deal, but it gets us by.
Same here, my other significant other is in another country right now so it's Skype and toys for us for the most part. It's nowhere near as good as being able to touch each other but it gets us by.
01/17/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
When my partner is away we do a lot of video/picture trading/and late night dirty chatting. There's a lot of sexy tension in not being able to actually touch the person which I really appreciate
01/17/2010
Contributor: Raven Raven
I enjoy cybersex as an adjunct to one-on-one sex, And as Sex, Lies & Pre-Law said, the sexual tension created can be very powerful. Cybersex, phone sex, one-on-one, it's all good.
01/18/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
When I was younger (like 17, 18), I would go into adult chat rooms. It turned me on that I was doing something naughty. I kinda grew out of that.

My boyfriend and I just started using Skype while I'm away at school. We haven't done any sexy Skyping yet. For some reason I feel kind of uncomfortable about it. Silly, I guess. It's not like he's never seen my body. Just something about doing it through a camera weirds me out.
02/16/2010
Contributor: Sassybunny85 Sassybunny85
I used to when I was younger and unmarried, but once I got engaged, I saw no need for it.
02/16/2010
Contributor: ordinaryak ordinaryak
My boyfriend has two computers in his house one in the kitchen and one in the bedroom across the house, i got the idea of us each gettingo n our messengers and chatting back and forth becuase my computer died and i would get online and chat with him and i could always get him to come out and pick me up by sending naughty photos to him of me and by talking dirty. i liked doing it and when my computer died i wanted to do it so made him go out into the kitchen.
02/28/2010
Contributor: Cats Meow Cats Meow
me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship as well and we IM, Webcam, text,and send photos all the time. It really builds up for when we see each other, cus we end up attacking one another right away! haha
07/21/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I don't have a use for it much anymore but when my partners and I would be apart, we would and it was great Never webcamed though.
07/21/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
I have webcammed and phone sexed with my husband when we were apart for two weeks.

I used to have phone sex with a boyfriend when he was in college and I was at home. And, back as a teen I cybered with a few guys online.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I have, but it didn't arouse me enough to actually masturbate. However, texting dirty talk has, and so has talking on the phone.
07/25/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Due to having a long distance relationship it's the only way for my bf and I to 'bond' so to speak.
07/26/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
No, I would be concerned the contents of me would would be all over the internet. Call me paranoid, lol.
07/26/2010
Contributor: TheSexista TheSexista
My hubby is a GOV contractor and often leaves for long periods of time. While he is gone he loves to watch me on the cam.

We also have a few couple friends who we talk too and watch. I personally love it, it gets me excited.
07/26/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
It's pretty hard to answer this survey. My Man and I both like online porn, and occasionally exchange erotic e mails, but I have never had "cybersex" which I consider web cam sex or something similar. I don't know if watching porn online (which is what the internet was created for ) and actual web cam sex are similar in my book.

I think they are both cool, if the person doing them enjoys them, but I just think they don't have that much in common. Watching online porn is pretty passive, while engaging in web cam sex takes a lot of effort and IMO, inner strength!
09/15/2010
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I thought you meant sex in Second Life. That I've done. Its a bizarre experience.

I found another newbie who was also interested. We went to an orgy place. As soon as I walked, dozens of IM pop ups appeared. My date asked why I suddenly stopped chatting with him. I was dealing with all the IMs.

In order to have sex he needed to take his clothes off then put a penis on. So amusing. Someone then offered him a better quality penis. Just like real life! ;-)

You can then sit on different balls that animate you in different sexual activities, but then all you have is watching your avatars plus chat. I found that this didn't do much for me.
09/15/2010
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
I selected both no and other, because some of the things on your list I've done but don't consider cybersex. Of the things I do consider cyber sex I've never any.

I'd be willing to try although some kinds more then others webcam might work but I'm not a fan of IM's ,for example, to me it's all the down sides of face to face conversation without any of the benefits.
10/04/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
as soon as i realized technology was getting so much better i stopped. still do with hubbie...
10/24/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
Its my job lol im a cam girl
10/24/2010
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I've really fucked across the internet, from text to webcam, from Second Life to voice chat.

My personal favorite was SL sex, because when I engaged in that, I also engaged in voice chat so it was quite a bit more realistic.
10/24/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I'm in a long distance number, too--we kind of require all of the above.
10/24/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
YES - regulary on cam with my online Master!
10/25/2010