Do you have difficulties achieving orgasm? Why does it sometimes succeed and sometimes not? Does it ever succeed?

Contributor: Chatter Chatter
Do you achieve orgasm only in rare of the cases, when you try with the same method? Sometimes you succeed, but mostly not, even though the method is the same.

(I don't mean such a systematic difference that "succeeds when masturbating, but not when having sex", whose explanation is so simply the used method.)

Can you think of any reasons, what is differently, or what you do a bit differently, when you succeed or don't succeed in getting an orgasm? Increase enough the speed of technical movement in masturbation? Think or see something arousing enough?

Does it bother you, if you don't get an orgasm? Is sex (or masturbation) quite OK nevertheless, or indeed wonderful and meaningful, even though you didn't get an orgasm?
01/21/2023
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Contributor: nikywolfe nikywolfe
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Originally posted by Chatter
Do you achieve orgasm only in rare of the cases, when you try with the same method? Sometimes you succeed, but mostly not, even though the method is the same.

(I don't mean such a systematic difference that "succeeds when ... more
I always orgasm when masturbating. Easy to do with toys and some imagination or porn. Sometimes I even set the mood and put on lingerie. However, completely different with my partner - hit or miss. I dont get upset anymore as the connection is still enjoyable and I'm a people pleaser. I simply enjoy the ride and will take care of myself another time/day. When I do orgasm with him its with a toy and its my peak time of month. I need direct clitoral stimulation, pulsing suckers are what do it for me best. Sometimes I have my partner suck/touch other areas to participate. We both have issues, are completely imperfect, but its the connection and journey that bond us. He likes it fast, I like it to start slow and build up but his ED issues dont allow us the time to execute my way so I take my own satisfaction in my own hands.
01/24/2023