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Do You Get Upset if You Catch Your SO Masturbating Without First Seeing If You Are Interested in Sex?

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Contributor: Sirena Sirena
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NO, I have not recently walked in on my husband during one of his solo sessions, but I was watching Fast Time at Ridgemont High and then I thought about how hot it would be to walk in on my husband and without a word just take over and give him oral... my mind is a strange place and goes off on tangents often.
ANYWAY... what do some of you think? Would you be upset to see your SO masturbating without even checking to see if you are interested in sex or do you have an open, masturbate whenever you like policy? OR do you go even further than that and say, "No masturbation allowed at all. I get all of your pleasure?" OR do you purposefully do it to turn on your SO?

SEE? I told you my mind wanders!
08/31/2012
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Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I'd never be upset, they can do what they want with their own body. Sex and masturbating are different sensations, take different amounts of effort, etc. So if they wanted that sensation, who am I to stop it? That's selfish.
08/31/2012
Contributor: Sirena Sirena
Exactly, right? I think the only time I would be upset is if it had been a LOOOOOONG time since we had sex. But I think if that were the case there would be other issues afoot.

I know I would not be mad at him and he actually gets off on the idea of me and one of my solo sessions, but I know there are some that do not feel that it is right.
08/31/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
I wouldn't care--masturbation is a separate issue than couple sex. And yes--walking in on them is pretty hot!!!
08/31/2012
Contributor: michael scofield michael scofield
wish i had a girlfriend to walk in on me!!!!
08/31/2012
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
No, I don't care. He has a higher drive than me, and I am aware of his regular masturbation routine. Sometimes I walk in on him on purpose. I usually just flash him and walk away, but once in a while I join in.
08/31/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Only during my marriage - it was the only sex he preferred, and it was still pretty damn rare that he did it. But I didn't make a scene; I just turned around and walked out and wrote porn on my computer because I certainly wasn't getting a sex life with the man I married.
08/31/2012
Contributor: Mari Mari
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Originally posted by Geogeo
I'd never be upset, they can do what they want with their own body. Sex and masturbating are different sensations, take different amounts of effort, etc. So if they wanted that sensation, who am I to stop it? That's selfish.
Totally agree with that.

Since my guy is in California (I'm in Kansas for school), we use the web cam to do our stuff. Which means that since we can't do things to each other, we have to do them to ourselves FOR the other person.
09/01/2012
Contributor: G&L G&L
Upset is to strong of word.
09/02/2012
Contributor: Sirena Sirena
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Originally posted by G&L
Upset is to strong of word.
You're right. I guess disappointed might be more appropriate or hurt even. I do know some couples though that have fought over catching their SO masturbating. Many believe that since you are married you should be all about seeking pleasure from each other and not having solo sessions. Not MY belief, but there are some out there that feel that way.
09/04/2012
Contributor: joelb42 joelb42
I would actually find it a huge turn on to catch my wife. She has told me many times to just go ahead when ever I feel the need. I don't masturbate by my self very often anymore. Sometimes when she is tired I will masturbate and shoot a load on her then when I tell her about it in the morning she gets really turned on by it.
09/04/2012
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
YES. This would piss me off if I am available.
10/09/2012
Contributor: ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
If I walked in on her and she didn't want me to join I would have a problem but
I would not be angry if she was solo and didn't ask me, sometimes a little self love
Is good. And we don't have any rules on masturbation
10/09/2012
Contributor: kkizzee05 kkizzee05
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Originally posted by Sirena
NO, I have not recently walked in on my husband during one of his solo sessions, but I was watching Fast Time at Ridgemont High and then I thought about how hot it would be to walk in on my husband and without a word just take over and give him ... more
I would never me upset or mad about it. If I can do it, so can he.
10/09/2012
Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I'm not with someone right now, but I would not mind it. They can masturbate whenever they want.
10/09/2012
Contributor: FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
I'm ok with my partner masturbating as much as they want. God knows I do it too.
01/16/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I would love it if my GF masturbated. She never does. I only get upset if I wait til bedtime to have sex and could have masturbated and she wants to go to sleep.
01/16/2013