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Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
I just republished an article from my Examiner column on my site, "Do women lie about sex?"

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I wanted to pose this question to you guys. Do women still feel the need to lie about their sexual appetite or needs? I recently had an issue with a group of women who didn't like the things I write and talk about. They assured me that they were not prudish, but that they couldn't bring themselves to talk about sex so openly. It made me think of the article I wrote and how in this day and age, women still feel the need to hide the number of partners they have had or want or just tell little fibs here and there about their sexual motives. Would love to hear what you guys think.
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Yes, women do lie about their sexual exploits
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) , haley730 , DeliciousSurprise , NarcissisticLust , Lucky21 , sexyintexas , Gunsmoke , JessCee , Ms. Spice , ZenaidaMacroura , link82 , CoffeeCup , null , Bignuf , Howells , Diabolical Kitty , Sammi , Taylor , JRabbits , C-Rae , yrnw , CreamySweet , angel142stx , ThoughtsAblaze , Selective Sensualist , froggiemoma , Pink Jewel , cheetahpita , Apirka , Gracie , richsam , srval69 , Airen Wolf , mpfm , HarlequinBunnie , PropertyOfPotter , gloomybear , ghent529 , Incendiaire , padmeamidala , bh253 , travelnurse , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , hot lil momma , hotcherry , Birdie , NaughtyButterfly , damnbul12 , Martiniman , chicmichiw , gothicwhispers , StarrStacked , PassionateLover2 , ViVix , sXeVegan90
55
No, most women are honest about their sexual exploits
joja , DeliciousSurprise , anonymouse58 , JRabbits , Gone (LD29) , animepanda89 , TiffyPixie , kawigrl , momoxd11 , Sinfully
10
It's none of your damn business! Or anything else you want to say ;)
MeliPixie , JRabbits , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , potstickers , Beck , bh253 , melliegirl , Martiniman , Rin (aka Nire) , chicmichiw , jr2012
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Total votes: 76 (70 voters)
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08/15/2011
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Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I think some women still feel the need to hide the number of partners they've had. I've heard many stories about women who were too embarrassed to even admit their number of partners to their gynecologist, even though this is important health information.
08/15/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
yes
08/15/2011
Contributor: DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Your poll choices do not fit my beliefs appropriately so I voted in both categories.

Yes, women lie. Most women? I don't know about that.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Your poll choices do not fit my beliefs appropriately so I voted in both categories.

Yes, women lie. Most women? I don't know about that.
I agree. Not all women feel the need to lie. I know I certainly don't. However, some women worry about what others will think, so they lie.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
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Originally posted by Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
I think some women still feel the need to hide the number of partners they've had. I've heard many stories about women who were too embarrassed to even admit their number of partners to their gynecologist, even though this is important ... more
I suppose yes. I felt embarassed myself before.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
I think our society has almost forced women to lie about things and that to a degree men wrote the rules, but I don't necessarily think that women don't have some role in it. And to me, this goes back to how insecure a lot of men are and take it out on women. Which leads me to a completely different topic, I don't think we are raising our boys right in our society. And that is a huge lengthy discussion for another time.
08/15/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Lucky21
I think our society has almost forced women to lie about things and that to a degree men wrote the rules, but I don't necessarily think that women don't have some role in it. And to me, this goes back to how insecure a lot of men are and take ... more
I think you are on to something there! You should start that discussion thread for sure!
08/15/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I think women have been shamed into hiding their experiences from the public, but I think they are far more open with their partners in private settings than they were fifty years ago or one-hundred years ago.

This is just going off of my own experiences. I've known far more women who were proud about their sexual proweress than those who've tried to sweep it under the rug. So much so, that I'm somewhat taken aback by women who have been shamed by family, friends or society for liking or participating in fetishes and sex in general.
08/15/2011
Contributor: sexyintexas sexyintexas
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Originally posted by Ansley
I think women have been shamed into hiding their experiences from the public, but I think they are far more open with their partners in private settings than they were fifty years ago or one-hundred years ago.

This is just going off of my own ... more
Agreed. I a more open than almost all of my friends. They will come to me and ask about things that I believe should be able to discuss openly. Yes there is a time and place for everything, but people should not be afraid of their feelings, wants and needs.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I didn't vote. Every women is different, some are willing to talk about sex openly, while others won't. I for one, am willing to discuss about my sexual pursuits with people who are interested on that topic, but I'm not going to compare notes with people who shy away from it. I also will not admit how many sexual partners I've had, I'm not a slut but I'm no virgin neither, I don't want my husband baffled by it.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My experience is that sexual morays prevent women from openly discussing their sexual appetite/experiences. I believe it is mostly reflected by avoiding the subject as opposed to lying about it. I'd say the dishonesty is by omission vs. commission.

From the male perspective I have no friends that I talk to about sex - does that mean I lie about it, no we just don't talk about it.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Oh, come on, as Lazarus Long would say, "Everybody lies about sex."

I'm totally honest with some people (my partners, close friends, doctors, strangely enough the internet) but I lie to others (not-close friends, acquaintances, family, anyone who has already made comments that give themselves away as tight-laced). To the people I lie to, it's usually just along the lines of calling an old lover an old friend instead, and just never giving out details about my libido or kinks. If the topics come up I'll just say things like "I don't like to judge people."

I don't think it's fair to classify by men/women, either.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I like to be honest about my appetite but there is a lot of stigma in our culture that encourages women to be dishonest about it. i personally say fuck it, but it can be hard because people do judge
08/15/2011
Contributor: null null
Yes...I lie about it depending on who I'm talking to.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I just republished an article from my Examiner column on my site, "Do women lie about sex?"

link

I wanted to pose this question to you guys. Do women still feel the need to lie about their sexual appetite or needs? I recently ... more
We still live in a society full of double standards. That is just reality. Thankfully, I am married to a man with whom I can be completely open and honest and that alone is very refreshing and freeing. Having a good, close group of friends who likewise can discuss everything and anything with complete openness...well, that is just amazing.
08/15/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I'm not gonna say it's none of your damn business, but I will say that I don't know about other women, but I am quite honest about my sex life. Especially because I have had only one partner and feel no shame in the things we do together
08/15/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I know a lot of women do. Especially about how many sexual partners they have.
08/15/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We still live in a society full of double standards. That is just reality. Thankfully, I am married to a man with whom I can be completely open and honest and that alone is very refreshing and freeing. Having a good, close group of friends who ... more
I live a similar circumstance. I also put it out there quite openly, it's kind of what I do. I try to write and talk about women's issues and sexuality to make it empowering. Not so much that every has to be or think the same. But just the freedom to open up and talk to each other, I think makes a HUGE difference. I feel this even more as I get a little older.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I live a similar circumstance. I also put it out there quite openly, it's kind of what I do. I try to write and talk about women's issues and sexuality to make it empowering. Not so much that every has to be or think the same. But just the ... more
I agree with you that it makes a huge difference. It's all about exposure. I'm pretty sure that if I didn't have resources to research things or tube sites to view porn with that I would probably be on the vanilla side of things. It was seeing it and reading about it and knowing that other people were doing it that made me think it was okay.
08/15/2011
Contributor: AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I agree with you that it makes a huge difference. It's all about exposure. I'm pretty sure that if I didn't have resources to research things or tube sites to view porn with that I would probably be on the vanilla side of things. It was ... more
Absolutely! Knowledge is liberating and camaraderie among women is powerful I think! I talk openly with husband, but your girlfriends truly understand you on a different level. Lesbians have the best of both worlds!
08/15/2011
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
ha ha, I voted for all three, because it isn't any of my business if another woman lies about her sex life. But I do think some lie and some don't. I haven't lied to anyone about how many partners I've had, when I say I've only had sex with two guys, trust me, I'm not being modest, lol. But I wouldn't openly discuss with my family or their friends who claim to be my friends as well about how many people I've slept with or what type of sex I want. So I'm both open and closed about it which I think a lot of people women.
08/15/2011
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
No one needs to know my sex life.
08/16/2011
Contributor: C-Rae C-Rae
Haha I know a few that do all of the time but I don't
08/16/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
I don't lie about it , not ashamed of anything I have done.
08/21/2011
Contributor: Apirka Apirka
Yes, I think a lot of women lie about sex. I don't like to personally, especially with a partner. As for talking about sex with other people like my mother and such, I don't lie per se, I just refuse to talk about it.
02/19/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I just republished an article from my Examiner column on my site, "Do women lie about sex?"

link

I wanted to pose this question to you guys. Do women still feel the need to lie about their sexual appetite or needs? I recently ... more
yes
02/19/2012
Contributor: animepanda89 animepanda89
I'm honest about me.
06/30/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
I just republished an article from my Examiner column on my site, "Do women lie about sex?"

link

I wanted to pose this question to you guys. Do women still feel the need to lie about their sexual appetite or needs? I recently ... more
Back when I was in high school I lied about being with a guy. I didn't want anyone to know I was a virgin because I saw how others who admitted they were got made fun of. I was very explicit about what I really had not done. At 18 I was date raped and got pregnant. I realized what I had done and went and told my 2 best girlfriends the truth. One got so mad she still hasn't talked to me since then. The other walked away when I made a misinformed choice. I decided then and there never to lie again about anything. I have paid the price for that too but it has never been as bad as it was when I lied. My mother, children, and husband know my past and they know me now and all in all the truth wins every time.
06/30/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think a lot of women still feel the need to. I don't lie, but there are a lot of times I find myself trying to supress my desires...trying to ignore the things I want or would like. I think a part of me feels like it's still not about me, it's about my man.
06/30/2012