Discovred dildos

Contributor: mfmtrios mfmtrios
Please help!

This A.m. our 6 year old daughter found box of dildos in our closet. there are About 6 in the box, large... Any suggestions for recovery?? I was thinking about putting something else in there as a substitute so I can say it is something else instead.

Thanks for any thoughts!
11/02/2011
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Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
Please help!

This A.m. our 6 year old daughter found box of dildos in our closet. there are About 6 in the box, large... Any suggestions for recovery?? I was thinking about putting something else in there as a substitute so I can say it is ... more
Hmmm, I dunno. They are 6 so they wouldn't totally understand what they were anyway.

Since I have never had this happen, I have NO idea, haha. But hopefully someone else can give you some good advice.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I would explain that, the same way baby toys are different from 'big girl' toys (like she plays with), adult toys are different from children toys. I would go on to tell her that since adults are supposed to act like grownups she has to help you guys keep them a secret.

If she asks to play with them, too, I'd tell her that she has to wait until she's older.

My two cents!
11/02/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Ryuson
I would explain that, the same way baby toys are different from 'big girl' toys (like she plays with), adult toys are different from children toys. I would go on to tell her that since adults are supposed to act like grownups she has to help ... more
This sounds like a good idea to me. She is a little to young to understand. Now you should also invest in a lock box and change your hiding place. That way she is not trying to find them.
11/02/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
I don't have my own children yet, but anyway... My actions would probably depend on the questions she starts to ask.
Overall, I would say, for instance, that those were the parts for a car or some other machine. And now they are gone back to where they belong.
11/02/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I have a friend whose little niece found 1 of her toys. She told her it was a flashlight and put it away somewhere else. lol

I'm really not sure what I would to. I actually wouldn't worry about it at ALL unless she starts asking questions. Then I would just say something very simple like "those are mommy's and daddy's things", and just move past it. It's unlikely she'll dwell on it or think about it at all.
11/02/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'd go for the simplest explanation possible and hope that this is not a memory that comes back to haunt her when she is older.
11/02/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
Please help!

This A.m. our 6 year old daughter found box of dildos in our closet. there are About 6 in the box, large... Any suggestions for recovery?? I was thinking about putting something else in there as a substitute so I can say it is ... more
At 6, she's not going to know what they are. My best advice would be to avoid making that big of a deal about it. If she asks, tell her they're toys for adults. Otherwise, just put them in a new hiding spot -- ideally in something with a lock.
11/03/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
Please help!

This A.m. our 6 year old daughter found box of dildos in our closet. there are About 6 in the box, large... Any suggestions for recovery?? I was thinking about putting something else in there as a substitute so I can say it is ... more
You simply act matter of fact and don't be ashamed by your sexuality or about her curiosity. You want your daughter to embrace her own sexuality and that begins with you! Explain to her in a firm but kind way that these are Mommy's and shouldn't be played with by little girls. Then put them up high in the closet where, hopefully, they are out of sight and out of mind.
This has happened to me and my girls just ignore the toys but are confident enough that if they decide later that they want some they will know where to go to get great advice and care instructions (ie: here at EF!!) all of this because I refuse to ever hide, be ashamed or act squeamish in front of them about my toys.
Yes, I know it's embarassing...my son's favorite teether was a silicone anal plug (never got to use the damn thing...just didn't feel right after he left tiny tooth marks in it!) but again I just took it away matter of factly and put it out of his reach.
I have found that the least said the least denied when dealing with kids and sex, trying to trick her will set off little bells in her head and possibly make it a great game to look in Mommy's closets and drawers.
11/03/2011
Contributor: mfmtrios mfmtrios
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Originally posted by SMichelle
At 6, she's not going to know what they are. My best advice would be to avoid making that big of a deal about it. If she asks, tell her they're toys for adults. Otherwise, just put them in a new hiding spot -- ideally in something with a lock.
This is what we ended up doing, except the toy thing. I just hid them later and we have not brought it up since. My wife was quick thinking with her reply her at the time, she kept it vague and down to a minimal.

I think if we even mentioned the words 'toy' or 'for big people only' she would have pursued the topic. Thanks.
11/05/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
This is what we ended up doing, except the toy thing. I just hid them later and we have not brought it up since. My wife was quick thinking with her reply her at the time, she kept it vague and down to a minimal.

I think if we even mentioned ... more
Yeah, you're probably right that mentioning the word "toy" would have just peaked her interest even more.
11/05/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
It's happened to me. I promise you a 6 year old has no clue. So no worries. When it happens to me I simply say don't touch that! It's a back massager or it's a foot massager. That's all I've had to say so far and they lose interest. You don't have to explain it's a toy at all. Even if you did say "these are mommy's toys don't ever touch!" That will only pique her curiosity. I'm telling you, our kids have found mine and each time I say that's a foot massager or back massager, there ready to put it down. I told them once that I use it in between my toes when they are sore and they were grossed out! Lol.

Make it simple and try to make it short. Ours have never asked any more questions after I explain it's for feet/back. But mine are kept in my drawers or somewhere private, not in the open. We've been teaching the kids to respect people's privacy and when one of them had a terrible habit recently of digging through my drawers I had to be very firm. I also had to be more creative in hiding. He just turned 12 so there's no excuse for digging through my things. At a young age, respect for mom's (and other's) privacy should be taught. It has helped keep this from happening a lot now! I simply explained to them that they had no business just randomly digging through my personal belongings and it seemed to keep happening so I'd have to be firm. Finally my partner and I had a talk with the 12 year old. I told him that he has to stop disrespecting my privacy unless he wants me to disrespect his. I also said, one day you're going to come across something you wish you hadn't! Lol. That scared him away some and my partner told him that it was an invasion of someone's privacy and yadda yadda. Never had problems since.

We care for a 6 year old too and she completely understands not to dig. At that age they're much easier to fool though. You don't have to explain yourself because they'll believe you if you say it's a flashlight. We've never had her come across toys, but she's heard the speech "respect my privacy, I respect yours." And she has no problem with it... unless it comes to my make-up and nail polish boxes! Lol.

Just try a quick "foot massager" explanation. The less interesting you make it sound, the less likely they'll bring it up again (such as in front of family members! Lol) Then try telling her you like having your privacy and if somethign is not in the open then it should be left alone.
11/05/2011