Most assuredly I agree! I was taught that the only sanctified love was between man and woman and only if they were married. Sex is supposed to be sizzling hawt and yet kept in the dark in the bedroom only. We are supposed to maintain a red hot passion for our mate but never masturbate or fantasize about other guys cause it's just unhealthy. If we meet someone else and we are miserable in our marriage we are supposed to suck it up and live with the pain like a martyr. We are never supposed to stop looking for love though...it's a mess!

I have never been a jealous person and I LOVE seeing the love other people have for my loved ones. I love sharing my joy and enjoyment of sex with others and I have a sex drive that is stuck in overdrive! I love to fantasize, play act, flirt, talk naughty and play around with my sexuality. All of this was roundly condemned when my sister was doing it and so I repressed and hid. Then I 'came out' as it were and now it's ok for my sister to do all this but it's terrible and wrong for me because I have kids!

Sexual surrogacy can help specific problems but we need to change our views in society and stop the disconnect from happening to see real results. We need to start giving people permission to be authentic, different, dynamic, and wonderful. It needs to be ok to be a sexual woman without being labeled a whore. It needs to be ok to be a nonsexual woman without being labled a frigid bitch.