Is cybersex really another form of cheating???
Cybersex?? Cheating or Not??
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Cybersex and Cheating
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Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/03/2012
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I say it is...but that's me.
11/03/2012
It is to me.
11/03/2012
I personally believe that it is
11/03/2012
Yes it is.
11/03/2012
Depends on the relationship
11/03/2012
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Depends on the relationship level, the relationship status, if it's poly, the two people involved.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
If it is a "traditional" monogomous committed relationship, then yes, and it is usually a sign that something in the relationship is broken.
11/03/2012
It depends on the parameters of the relationship.
11/03/2012
It depends on the feelings and boundaries of the two people involved. i would have said yes many years ago--but my hubby and I both agree that it is okay, as long as we do it together. TOGETHER is the key...
11/03/2012
For us, it would be cheating, yes. We are in a monogamous relationship and have vowed exclusivity to each other.
11/03/2012
I agree it depends on the relationship and the bounds you have set.
11/03/2012
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I am in between. The way I figure it, if they are chilling with a cam girl or someone online. Then they are just messing around. Now if I found my partner having an online 'thing' with someone we actually know. I would consider that to be wrong.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/03/2012
Yes, it is cheating. If your spouse would walk in and be upset, that is definitely cheating.
11/03/2012
I consider it cheating. I also don't approve of my fiance watching cam girls when I'm not around. Of course, I have my reasons that are specific to our relationship. Other people may be completely fine with those things. It all depends on the people involved.
11/03/2012
If your partner isn't aware/ok with it then I think it's cheating.
11/03/2012
depends
11/03/2012
Yes it is.
11/03/2012
I consider it cheating, but it all depends on the relationship. What I want in a relationship, that would be cheating to me. If it's something that would hurt your partner, it's cheating. Some people, it doesn't matter to them, or they are poly, or any other thing where it's okay to them.
11/03/2012
It depends. If you do it secretively than probably so.
11/03/2012
I'd consider it cheating.
11/03/2012
I think it is but I guess it just depends.
11/03/2012
I absolutely think so! It will depend on the type of relationship that you have, but that type of behavior is very personal and if it's something that would hurt your partner, than you shouldn't engage in it!
11/03/2012
Depends on what the people in the relationship have set up for boundaries. I wouldn't classify it as cheating.
11/03/2012
I never understand this discussion. How could it not be cheating?
11/03/2012
Unless the couple has previously agreed to allow it, it's probably cheating. There's an exception to every rule, but that's up to the participants.
11/03/2012
Definitely cheating
11/03/2012
To me, it's cheating.
11/03/2012
Yes and no... I don't think it has to be and that it depends on the relationship.
11/04/2012
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I agree with this.
Originally posted by
Intrepid Niddering
I consider it cheating, but it all depends on the relationship. What I want in a relationship, that would be cheating to me. If it's something that would hurt your partner, it's cheating. Some people, it doesn't matter to them, or they
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I consider it cheating, but it all depends on the relationship. What I want in a relationship, that would be cheating to me. If it's something that would hurt your partner, it's cheating. Some people, it doesn't matter to them, or they are poly, or any other thing where it's okay to them.
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11/04/2012
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I come from a heavy online roleplaying background and honestly, as long as it stays in the from of text I've never seen it as cheating. It's no different than reading an erotic story...You're just writing it with someone else.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
If it goes to voice/cam though...That's pushing the line.
11/04/2012
Only if you're not in an open relationship and didn't discuss with your partner about it before hand.
Just in general its not cheating? It just depends on the rules of your relationship wow people.
Just in general its not cheating? It just depends on the rules of your relationship wow people.
11/04/2012
Definitely cheating.
11/04/2012
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In a real monogamous relationship? Yes. No doubt. Absolutely.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/04/2012
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I personally don't feel it is, you aren't touching anyone and you are just online fulfilling a fantiscy. To me cyber sex is the same as phone sex, but that's just my opion and how we do things in our marriage.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/04/2012
absolutely is
11/04/2012
YES
11/04/2012
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I believe that it is.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/04/2012
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i agree
Originally posted by
chelly411
absolutely is
11/04/2012
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It is for me.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/05/2012
no i love it
11/05/2012
I personally think it is.
11/05/2012
depends on the couple and your partners feeling on the matter
11/07/2012
Naturally, it depends on the couple. If you and your partner have talked about it and both of you are comfortable with one or both of you having cybersex with other partners, then it's not cheating (for precisely the same reasons that partners in a consensual open relationship aren't cheating). But if you haven't explicitly or implicitly agreed to that sort of arrangement, then the default understanding is generally going to be that that's cheating. Cheating isn't about having sex with another person; it's about breaking your partner's trust and acting in a way that violates agreed upon expectations of romantic/sexual behavior.
11/07/2012
absolutely
11/07/2012
As far as I'm concerned, no, it's no more cheating than calling a phonesex hotline or watching cam girls. If there's no touching going on between these two people, and it's just to aid in solo sessions then I really don't care.
11/08/2012
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Haha I just said pretty much exactly this! I feel the same way.
Originally posted by
apryls
I personally don't feel it is, you aren't touching anyone and you are just online fulfilling a fantiscy. To me cyber sex is the same as phone sex, but that's just my opion and how we do things in our marriage.
11/08/2012
Yeah, I would consider it cheating.
11/08/2012
Cat E.
Yes, it's cheating.
11/09/2012
I think it depends what's considered cheating in your relationship.
Personally, I would prefer my partner not to have cybersex with anyone that isn't me, but I can understand why it would be okay or understandable.
Personally, I would prefer my partner not to have cybersex with anyone that isn't me, but I can understand why it would be okay or understandable.
11/09/2012
Personally, i consider cheating to be anything you wouldn't want your partner to know about
11/09/2012
I think it is.
11/09/2012
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You fail to describe your definition of Cybersex. If you are talking about "activity" online with another person, sure it is cheating. If you are speaking of looking at porn or an animated sexual site, heck no, that's not cheating in my book. He can go to porn sites all day long and it's fine, but there better not be some one on one with a girl online. That is cheating to me.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/13/2012
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It really depends on the relationship and if it's personally done without partner(s) knowledge, then yes, it is cheating.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
11/13/2012
I really think it is. Especially if the other partner doesn't know about it and the other one is hiding it.
11/25/2012
If it is not done together I think it is. Thank god I do this as a job and my bf knows it and has no problem with it.
11/26/2012
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I agree
Originally posted by
Buh-bye
I really think it is. Especially if the other partner doesn't know about it and the other one is hiding it.
12/05/2012
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Being a product of the internet generation, I consider cybersex cheating. This is primarily because I have started and maintained romantic relationships that were meaningful and real over Internet communication- if that's possible, it is possible for someone to progress from simple cybersex to romance and eventually leaving me.
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
12/05/2012
For me, it would be considered cheating.
12/05/2012
Only if there wasn't consent of all partners involved.
12/08/2012
I believe it to be.
12/08/2012
You know, I am on the fence. I would honestly probably be most upset if my guy was spending money on cam girls...what a waste of cash when I can put on a perfectly good show!
12/09/2012
I don't think that it is but I would be pissed if my spouse spent money on it.
12/09/2012
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Depends on the terms of the relationship. In my relationship no, because my husband loves me and he can fuck anyone he wants as long as he's loyal to me
Originally posted by
Mrs.Tee
Is Cybersex really another form of cheating???
12/09/2012
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I feel pretty much the same and also if she were investing herself emotionally in it, forming a connection with the person she was cybersexing with.
Originally posted by
travelnurse
I don't think that it is but I would be pissed if my spouse spent money on it.
12/09/2012
If not otherwise agreed upon, yes! Any sexual act with another person that is not agreed upon with your partner is cheating...
12/10/2012
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