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Who in the couple usually initiates sex? The man or the woman?

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Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
This question is for straight people in a relationship. Who usually initiates sex? The man or the woman?
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The Guy
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31  (38%)
The Girl
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13  (16%)
50-50
PussyGalore , A Good Girl , newlady , toxie m , Joie de Cherresse , *HisMrs* , Penguin , OhMy! , null , LavenderSkies , Stujen , sbon , kk232362 , LikeSunshineDust , Purpleladybug , The Curious Couple , Redboxbaby , dhig , BBW Talks Toys , OliviaKink , Love Buzz , northstar , VenusianThunder , moonch1ld , Sexymami69 , Fun Lover , Sohotdinosaur , SexyStuff , NaughtyButterfly , Purplecupcake99 , angel142stx , potstickers , jeangel246 , Howells , Harpina is gone , Zandrock , SadoMas , Lavendar
38  (46%)
Total votes: 82
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01/28/2011
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Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
We play with each other all throughout the day and we both initiate it but the act of sex itself doesn't happen until the end of the day and we're equal opportunity instigators. A touch can turn into intercourse just like that *snaps fingers*.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Gallowraven Gallowraven
I usually end up initiating sex.
01/28/2011
Contributor: A Good Girl A Good Girl
I think I initiate a little more, but we both do.
01/28/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
That's interesting, my girlfriend is almost never the one to initiate sex.
01/28/2011
Contributor: newlady newlady
We've been married 25 years and I guess, when I really think about it, it has worked out to 50/50. When we were younger he initiated more I think, but now that it's back to the two of us, I think I initiate more now. 'Course, to be fair, he is still catching up with my newly found interest.
01/28/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
It's roughly 50/50 although I'd say he probably does it a bit more. Lots of his attempts are fairly halfhearted,though: we'll just be sitting around watching a movie and he'll look over and say, "Hey, can I have a blowjob?"
ME: What? No, I'm watching this
HIM: Pleaaaase?
ME: No.

And that's that. But I don't know if constant blowjob requests really count as full-on initiating anything, haha.
01/28/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by toxie m
It's roughly 50/50 although I'd say he probably does it a bit more. Lots of his attempts are fairly halfhearted,though: we'll just be sitting around watching a movie and he'll look over and say, "Hey, can I have a ... more
haha, I don't know either, it's up for debate I guess
01/28/2011
Contributor: Joie de Cherresse Joie de Cherresse
It's pretty equal here. We're both sex addicts, lol.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I wish it weren't so - but I do about 90-10
01/28/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by Joie de Cherresse
It's pretty equal here. We're both sex addicts, lol.
lol
01/28/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
In our relationship I'm normally the one to initiate sex.
01/28/2011
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
There is a constant thread - the EF contributors are the ones who initiate sex in those couples where one's sex drive is lower than the other - dah!
01/28/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
It is me most of the time. I guess my sex drive is alot higher then hers.
01/28/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Do any of the people on here that usually initiate sex start to feel self conscience about it?
01/29/2011
Contributor: markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
This question is for straight people in a relationship. Who usually initiates sex? The man or the woman?
My wife gets toomuch on her mind and I have only one thing on mine.
01/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by PussyGalore
We play with each other all throughout the day and we both initiate it but the act of sex itself doesn't happen until the end of the day and we're equal opportunity instigators. A touch can turn into intercourse just like that *snaps fingers*.
Same here
01/29/2011
Contributor: sbon sbon
Roughly 50/50.
01/30/2011
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
We generally share initiating 50/50.
01/30/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i say me about 95%. upsets me when i think about it. makes me feel undesirable. its rare when he does.
01/30/2011
Contributor: That Guy That Guy
With us I virtually always initiate.
01/30/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I'd say it is probably 50/50. If not, then maybe I initiate it more. All in all, I think it is pretty close to equal.
01/30/2011
Contributor: northstar northstar
He's always up for it and I'm always mentally horny, so it's generally 50/50, since a small touch just expands into sex
01/31/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by northstar
He's always up for it and I'm always mentally horny, so it's generally 50/50, since a small touch just expands into sex
Yea, sometimes a touch is all that's needed.
01/31/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
i say me about 95%. upsets me when i think about it. makes me feel undesirable. its rare when he does.
Yeah. I know how you feel. It can be frustrating when you usually initiate sex.
02/02/2011
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
Normally I initiate it, I always seem to be in the mood. But the past few weeks, it has been my wife, which is a nice change of pace. Because a lot of the time, she isn't in the mood.
02/03/2011
Contributor: A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
In my couple - me (the female).
02/03/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
In my couple - me (the female).
Thanks for specifying your sex! It's easier than having to look at peoples profiles.
02/03/2011
Contributor: vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by leatherlover
Normally I initiate it, I always seem to be in the mood. But the past few weeks, it has been my wife, which is a nice change of pace. Because a lot of the time, she isn't in the mood.
That must be nice. And surprising. You sure she doesn't want something expensive? Just kidding
02/03/2011
Contributor: Mistress M. Mistress M.
Sex in my house is really irritating! Mainly because I'm always the one who instigates it. I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend.
02/03/2011