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Can You Still Have Sex Even If You're Angry or In A Conflict With Your SO?

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Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
I was wondering how many of you could still have sex with your SO even if you were angry with them or in the middle of a fight or conflict that hasn't completely been resolved. I don't know about you but when I'm really angry at anybody, I don't want to talk to them, much less have sex with them (if it's my husband) because that emotion overpowers everything else and I'm completely turned off. Now, sometimes if the issue isn't completely resolved and it's been longer than a day, I will start to be conflicted about it because I'm in the mood for sex but not necessarily over my frustration or over the issue yet. At that point, I don't know what I want to do because I want sex and not with a toy...


What does everyone else do? Have sex anyway, even though you are angry? Or do you have to work out the conflict first? Does this just bother women or does this happen with men too?
02/08/2020
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Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by Perspicace mais érotique
I was wondering how many of you could still have sex with your SO even if you were angry with them or in the middle of a fight or conflict that hasn't completely been resolved. I don't know about you but when I'm really angry at anybody, ... more
I can't stay mad at my husband for more than 20 minutes. He's more the type if he's upset he will stay quiet for hours. Personally I'd love to have some wild sex while he was angry and get it over with!
02/08/2020
Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
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Originally posted by frisky069
I can't stay mad at my husband for more than 20 minutes. He's more the type if he's upset he will stay quiet for hours. Personally I'd love to have some wild sex while he was angry and get it over with!
You guys sound exactly the opposite of us. My husband will come in after a really heated fight, not more than 20 minutes later now, and start making jokes with me or acting like nothing happened (amnesia or something). That just makes me more angry sometimes (unless the fight was about something silly). I guess I can't just switch moods as quickly as he can.
02/08/2020
Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
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Originally posted by Perspicace mais érotique
You guys sound exactly the opposite of us. My husband will come in after a really heated fight, not more than 20 minutes later now, and start making jokes with me or acting like nothing happened (amnesia or something). That just makes me more angry ... more
I agree. Completely opposite. I've even told him lets just have sex because I get extremely turned on and he will turn it down as he needs the time to get over it!

Good thing is when we are upset we both start cleaning lol. Although I'd love to work it out through sex I'll still clean while he does.
02/08/2020
Contributor: Croc Croc
I had an ex like frisky69, she cooled off quicker than any woman I know. She loved when I hugged her from behind and kissed her. So I would just like 'hey, you know I'm stupid, and you are my soul and let's ...' so we would start making out and go further.
But she was the only one. Others just cut you off
02/09/2020
Contributor: Bailed Bailed
If a woman withholds sex as punishment, she had better predict consequences. Men will put up with that shit for so long before they get action from other women. I can tell you about women who have learned the painful way.

Women do not punish their husbands. They constructively resolve differences.
02/09/2020
Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
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Originally posted by Perspicace mais érotique
I was wondering how many of you could still have sex with your SO even if you were angry with them or in the middle of a fight or conflict that hasn't completely been resolved. I don't know about you but when I'm really angry at anybody, ... more
Let me be perfectly clear and say that this discussion question was not meant to go in this direction. I do not ‘cut off sex’ from my husband just because I’m angry with him nor do I ‘punish him’ using sex. I posed this question to ask if other people still felt like having sex with their SOs when they were having an argument. I guess ‘were they still turned on by them, attracted to them or horny’ for lack of a better word. Posed to men and women alike. Not for it to be turned into the question of ‘Do women punish men by withholding sex’. That question has been asked and answered in the forum already and can be read there.
02/09/2020
Contributor: CurvyVixen CurvyVixen


At times I have felt the same way you do about not being able to have sex when you are mad. However, after a lot of discussion we decided that we would make a deal. That if we were mad at each other we would give each other space for 10 or 15 minutes then work it . out no matter how long it took. I also started realizing that our fight would get pretty frequent about the littlest of things when we hadn't had sex in awhile. I think it was because my body want to feel wanted but my mind was elsewhere. I had to have a talk with my partner about how and when he makes me most angry and he did the same thing. If we know we haven't been intimate with one another in awhile we try to give the other some grace and try to understand. Both men and women have needs whether it's affection, intimacy, attention, support, or even if he/she need the other to do their share of the work around the house or in the relationship. So I one need isn't met then the others will be more intense. This does not mean forgive and forget right away. It just means try and find the best way to express your needs and feelings so that your partner can at least know where they went wrong.



P.s. Sometimes the the argument might not actually be worth it. Also don't forget to communicate. I'm pretty sure they aren't mind readers.
04/09/2020
Contributor: CurvyVixen CurvyVixen
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Originally posted by Bailed
If a woman withholds sex as punishment, she had better predict consequences. Men will put up with that shit for so long before they get action from other women. I can tell you about women who have learned the painful way.

Women do not punish ... more
If a guy is that hurt by not have sex with their girl or guy and is threatening the leave the relationship if they continue to not have sex then that mean that he wasn't that invested into the relationship. Maybe he doesn't need to be in a relationship at all. Instead he should just stick to having one night stands with girls on tinder. Sex can be used as a way to show that someone is struggling with something or someone and is struggle with how to discuss it and resolve it.
04/09/2020