My man is really bothered by me using sex toys. I wish I could try realistic toys but I don't because I know he would be very upset. We use toys sometimes during intercourse but not very often. I wear lingerie use a liberator throe but the toys get more solo use.

My man is able to respect that I love toys but it isnt always easy bcs I love having more and more and more of new things or better quality things, etc. I am always upgrading too.

So everytime I review something or buy something I am a little scared to tell jim bcs he doesn't have a very positive reaction, he basically rolls his eyes and says "don't you have enough already?"

He doesn't like it much but if he sees that a product makes me look sexy or makes me cum quicker or squirt he will suggest using a toy at times during intercourse. I don't orgasm everytime I have sex and when I do orgasm it is most often than not due to intercourse rather than toys.

So maybe in our relationship my man sees that I need him for my pleasure and he is more accepting of the toys, especially if they arouse him by seeing my turned on, etc.

In your case it seems you would really like to use a toy every time you have sex without feeling guilty about it. Maybe you can reassure him that you really enjoy sex but that you would like to be able to orgasm and let him know that toys really help you a lot since it is very hard for you to orgasm. If you feel guilty about using toys (sometimes I do and I may be projecting here) you could tell him that you feel guilty about using toys and you wish you didnt since they are extemely helpful for you.

You could say that upgrading is only to help you acheive better orgasms quicker and more often. You could ask him if he would enjoy seeing you orgasm three, four times in one session; and mention that upgrading will bring more of that.

The whole idea is to try to get him more comfortable with the toys, try to understand why he is not intersted in you using them or upgrading. Don't assume he feels like he is being replaced bcs he might get defensive if you mention something about he might be feeling this way, as soon as people get defensive it is hard to get through to them since they put a wall. I made that mistake :S.

It's not easy to talk about it but you should try.

I've always been adventurous - but didn't get into toys until my 30s. I imagine as a 20-something stud I would have been a little take back by a girl friend or partner introducing toys.

But after about 5-10 years of monogamous sexual activity - the toys seemed like a natural progression. I suppose patience would be my advice.

It sounds like he feels threatened by the vibes. Perhaps if he knew that 70% of women (like me) never climax with a man inside them. Its not a negative statement about him when you use a vibrator.

Orgasms for women aren't guaranteed. Its so easy for men. Survival of the species only depends on the male finishing reliably.

Maybe if you bought a toy that works for men and women at the same time like the wee vibe or a vibrating cock ring he would see how they enhance what you can do with just your own bodies.

A friend of mine told me that her husband found her rabbit and snapped it in half. How sad.

Do you use the toys while you're having sex? If you don't normally orgasm from sex alone, I seriously suggest you try it. I know it sounds silly but once he feels what your body does, inside, around his penis, when you orgasm... he might be converted to a toy lover!

I also agree with the others. Make him aware that it's not that he's not pleasing you but that the toys make orgasm faster and easier for you and you want to share that with him.

My b/f was initially intimidated by toys, he felt so insecure and that I was questioning his ability to please. Eventually he did become more accepting esp. watching me masturbate using toys. One of the break through moments was when he told me I was a high maintenance girl in that I need at lest one orgasm prior to intercourse. His oral skills are great but he said he felt like he was getting "lockjaw" and he couldn't wait much longer. I grabbed a vibe; orgasmed and said that a vibe would help him and there would be less "work". Now toys are incorporated into our lovemaking.
He was also reluctant to use realistic dills but he has come around and enjoys me pegging him using my strap-on and now, realistic dills.
I haven't used the Eroscillator but from the reviews, it certainly will get you off. Enjoy!!

I would just ask him to try a toy during sex one day. And let him know most women have a hard tome reaching a climax without clitoral stimulation. I have been trying for MONTHS to reach a g-spot orgasm...it gets close, but that's it. I have been so frustrated I cried. My husband was the one to remind me that most women have a difficult time with internal orgasms and it wasn't me or him, just normal.

My husband is more often than not the one to get the toys out. It began with him buying them for me. Maybe you could ask him if he would like to be the one to pick a toy out for you. He could find one he likes and surprise you He may find that really erotic. Let him know he wouldn't be the only guy that does it.

Has he actually told you he's bored if it takes you more than 10 minutes to orgasm? That's actually not a long time at all for a woman to climax. Most men (who are attracted to women) are not going to get bored when they're in bed with a woman. Men really love pleasing women. Really, really love it.

In your post, you use phrases like "I worry he's" or "I feel like perhaps he's". It's cheesy, but communication is the biggest aphrodisiac. Talk with him about how you feel, how he feels, how you could better please each other, why you like these toys, how he could use these toys with you, etc. And please don't feel you have to rush. Your sexual pleasure is important, and your pleasure in each other deserves more than 10 minutes.

Snapping sex toys is TERRIFYING behavior. It's controlling and abusive.