I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
Body type preferences
12/04/2011
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I went ahead and said 'large', because my impression of "voluptuous" is iffy since I feel it favours fat in the "good" areas. At least, that's how I've always perceived the word, although you might not have intended it that way in this case.
I guess it's just cuter and softer to me, more fun to touch.
For me, the "cutoff" is when a person is so big they can no longer enjoy the things they want to do, when it's getting in the way, when it's harming them and their quality of life. It's hard to be attracted when thinking about how painful it must be to walk - but I'm talking oggling here, not if I'd ever consider that person in reality or not.
It's not an overriding preference, I think plenty of other shapes and people can be attractive, too. Just, if the person were the same and in one case was plumper, I'd err on the side of plumper.
I guess it's just cuter and softer to me, more fun to touch.
For me, the "cutoff" is when a person is so big they can no longer enjoy the things they want to do, when it's getting in the way, when it's harming them and their quality of life. It's hard to be attracted when thinking about how painful it must be to walk - but I'm talking oggling here, not if I'd ever consider that person in reality or not.
It's not an overriding preference, I think plenty of other shapes and people can be attractive, too. Just, if the person were the same and in one case was plumper, I'd err on the side of plumper.
12/04/2011
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Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
Originally posted by
Chirple
I went ahead and said 'large', because my impression of "voluptuous" is iffy since I feel it favours fat in the "good" areas. At least, that's how I've always perceived the word, although you might not have
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I went ahead and said 'large', because my impression of "voluptuous" is iffy since I feel it favours fat in the "good" areas. At least, that's how I've always perceived the word, although you might not have intended it that way in this case.
I guess it's just cuter and softer to me, more fun to touch.
For me, the "cutoff" is when a person is so big they can no longer enjoy the things they want to do, when it's getting in the way, when it's harming them and their quality of life. It's hard to be attracted when thinking about how painful it must be to walk - but I'm talking oggling here, not if I'd ever consider that person in reality or not.
It's not an overriding preference, I think plenty of other shapes and people can be attractive, too. Just, if the person were the same and in one case was plumper, I'd err on the side of plumper. less
I guess it's just cuter and softer to me, more fun to touch.
For me, the "cutoff" is when a person is so big they can no longer enjoy the things they want to do, when it's getting in the way, when it's harming them and their quality of life. It's hard to be attracted when thinking about how painful it must be to walk - but I'm talking oggling here, not if I'd ever consider that person in reality or not.
It's not an overriding preference, I think plenty of other shapes and people can be attractive, too. Just, if the person were the same and in one case was plumper, I'd err on the side of plumper. less
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily.
12/04/2011
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I wish I knew something to say that could help.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
There will always be negative people, and I know it can suck when it feels like *everyone* is so.
The best I can say is that it's possible, possible to have better self esteem. I don't know how to get you there, but you can get there.
Fat is such a hard word. I know people of all sizes who feel "fat", and those who take it as positive and negative. It's hard to say what really is "fat", because it depends on what "fat" means to you, I guess. Kinda like "chubby" and "plump" - different people are going to think of different things and have different tolerances.
I've always had a problem with the word "fat", seeing it as a hurtful slur, but my partner has started to try to convince me that it can be positive or neutral. We discussed if he was "fat" or not, and I said no, because to me fat was a bad thing, an ugly thing - but he got me to see that it didn't have to be used that way.
I think even the strongest people with the best self-esteem still have doubts and worries, it's just being able to argue with them and eventually win.
12/04/2011
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Honestly, your numbers put nothing but good images in my head.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
12/04/2011
all women are beautiful
12/04/2011
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Mr. Bignuf here..I think my definition would be HEALTHY woman. That can be very different from individual to individual. However, HEALTHY is just that, a body that shows tone, but the natural fat and curves that mother nature gave woman for any number of reasons. The "ripped" body builders who are twice as muscular as me, or the woman who diet so much they look like a dried up ten year old, just don't turn me on at all, visually. I admire and can respect ANY woman, and may even find things about them attractive (personality, confidence), but since you are just speaking BODY TYPES...visual cues, that is my honest take. My lovely wife is well rounded in all the right places and I find that beautiful.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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12/04/2011
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My wife is 42-32-42 and she has a great figure. I prefer curvy women and do not think thinner or super thin looks healthy. I am from US and love the Marilyn Monroe type of womens body style.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
12/04/2011
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The only person who should matter to you, is do YOU feel healthy and happy??? More over, if your hubby, who is the ONLY person on earth whose "opinion" should matter, finds you attractive, then by all means, drop that self esteem issue and realize, BEAUTIFUL is not a hard wired thing...it is an OPINION that has changed throughout the ages, and in different cultures, as YOU point out. Thus, you ARE, ARE, ARE beautiful!!!! THAT is a FACT. Just ask your hubby!!!!
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements ... more
Yes, I did intend "voluptuous" to mean fat in the "right" areas--that is, the hips, possibly with large breasts. You know, the classic hourglass shape.
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
I am probably considered fat in westernized society. My measurements (roughly) are 36-34-46, and I wear a 16/18. My husband (who is from Nigeria) LOVES my shape, but I struggle with my self esteem daily. less
12/04/2011
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I agree.
Originally posted by
WhoopieDoo
Honestly, your numbers put nothing but good images in my head.
12/04/2011
Honestly there are some body traits I like, but if I compared all of the people I have dated/been attracted to the overwhelming similarity is facial shape.
12/04/2011
I personally prefer thin women.
12/04/2011
Echo what others said: Healthy.
I've dated thin to BBW. It's the personality for me.
I've dated thin to BBW. It's the personality for me.
12/04/2011
Athletic women really do it for us (M/F couple). Not necessarily ripped, just fit enough that they look like they enjoy maintaining their health through exercise, and powerful in that they could wrestle you onto the bed if they wanted to!
12/04/2011
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I dont like tiny women as far as to look at in a sexual way its a turn off really
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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12/04/2011
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You never dated me! :p
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
Echo what others said: Healthy.
I've dated thin to BBW. It's the personality for me.
I've dated thin to BBW. It's the personality for me.
12/04/2011
I'm curvy and I love it.
12/04/2011
Natural and healthy. Not obsessed with weight, gym.
12/05/2011
slim
12/05/2011
It depends on the woman. I like to see a girl that's skinnier, but not boney, and like light toning, but not so much muscle she looks manly. BUT I also like to see a very pretty bigger woman as long as she dresses properly. But I guess that goes for smaller women too. I don't want to see ANYONE in anything 5 sizes to small. Lol.
12/06/2011
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i like semi-curvy girls. like nice waists but big boobs
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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12/08/2011
I like curvy girls.
12/08/2011
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I have no preference for women really. I can handle curvy, but fat is out. Sorry if I offend, but I just can't be turned on. It's like seeing my worst fear for myself naked in front of me.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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03/23/2012
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I wish I was voluptuous OHS WELL!
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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04/21/2012
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As a large woman, I've found it very difficult to find men who find me beautiful.
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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06/03/2012
I like curvy girls.
06/03/2012
I like girls that are proportional and look feminine. Actual weight category doesn't matter that much to me.
06/03/2012
I can't resist a curvy figure! An hourglass figure is a big turn on for me.
06/08/2012
You can be slim and still curvy. I'm a bigger person myself and feel more comfortable with bigger partners though, so I voted that.
06/08/2012
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I am slim, and active I prefer the same, but in a shorter version..I love pixies
Originally posted by
bayosgirl
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain
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more
I find it interesting that various cultures have VASTLY different ideas about what body type is "ideal" in a woman. In west Africa, for example, plumpness is considered beautiful. Some men AND women even take supplements to make them gain weight. Yet in America, we are very much a fat phobic society. The assumption is often that EVERY overweight person is lazy or has an overeating problem. I would like to know what the people of EF think. All other things being equal, do you have a preferred body type?
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