I know this a question for the ladies - but since my lady admits I know her better than she does - I'll throw in my 2 cents.

I've read several entries from ladies who describe themselves as small - which raises anatomical issues - they are what they are.

But for those who do not have such issues - after all most have delivered babies that dwarf even the most well endowed guys out there!

Being of average size, I love to hear that it's technique that matters - and like many, I try to do the best with what I have.

That said - I know the explosive orgasms I see when I use one of the larger dildos in our collection (1.75"-2" in diameter). It's just a fact that these large shafts can deliver sensations in a way that is not possible for the average guy. Luckily there's more to it than size - but to say size in unimportant seems to belie reality for many females out there.

Girth matters more to me, for sure, and that's definitely something I'm aware of now that I've given birth several times. I don't see any positives to a long penis at all, really. I want to be able to take him all in my mouth, not just in my vagina!

Im a size queen so I have to say yes

I have a smaller than average size both girth and length (wah!), and my wife has had 3 babies. During our honeymoon I noticed that she did not feel very tight to me, though she was a virgin at the time. She has never really been the 'horny type', and I have suspected all along that my smaller man-size compared to her woman-parts is part of this.

Nowadays it turns me on to think of something girthier than me that would make her react to sex more, maker her orgasm more strongerly- thats why I have started buying sex toys.

Q: Has anyone who has had babies notice a better experience to bigger toys/cocks since having them (not necessarily eye popping, but more satisfying)? I am currently obsessed with the size thing now that I know I am small comparatively (6" girth? elephant to me), and it does affect self esteem (it must be a phase for men!).

Can anyone give insight to this?

My boyfriend has a pretty good sized penis. He knows one of the guys I had been with previously had a very very big penis. I much prefer my current partner to previous because my vagina is so tight I can barely fit him in. You can assume correctly that someone even larger would be less pleasurable. I like feeling like my vagina isn't going to split into two. If anyone ever asks me what is better I always say it depends on how you use it because if you have a big penis but don't know how to work it it isn't going to feel good. (this goes for any size penis.)

I feel like I can thoroughly please my lovely in the sack despite the fact that I don't have a monstrous horse cock lol. I think I am slightly bigger than average (length and girth) but by no means is it huge.

Thanks for all your input! It does make me feel better...I especially like the technique advice Alicia- will try those 4 positions more next time. And thanks Airen once again for your insight- you rock!

The reason why I asked in this thread was because I just bought the 'Lone star' which seems to get rave reviews since it came out. I just love the look and feel of it, and thought it would be perfect for pretend threesomes.

I guess it is a bigger dildo girth wise (almost 2" diameter and 6 inches circumference) but short in length; but to me, most of the dildos out there seem big anyways. I was going to use it with my wife to 'give her another experience' but staying within our marriage (of course) so she could at least feel what average was, and also for me to watch the action (I won't lie!).

I think it is often difficult topic for me as a small male, esp since I would just love to be 'average'- never mind large. Anyways, I love my wife and would never try to give her pain. I guess we could just try it once when she is ready for it...

If you asked me a year a go I would have had a different answer. I would have said that it depends how you use it more than actual size. That is still somewhat true to me. If you have a big dick you can still use it wrong and a guy half your size who knows how to use it can still be better. I would have said that a smaller guy is fine, but that was until I got used to my current partner who has given me g-spot orgasms. Smaller boyfriends couldn't do that, no matter how they moved. I THOUGHT I was having them...but BOY was I wrong! I actually think girth matters more than length when you are average or above, because after a certain length...it is just useless! No one likes playing the tip and I like being close to my partner not 6 inches away lol! The guy I'm with now is perfect. Above average in both ways, but not excessive. Godsend. The only problem is that I'm too tight for him sometimes. With warm up...anything can be done, just takes patience.

Yes and No. The largest(9") I was with didn't know how to use it. Second largest did well. The average guys (5.5 -6.5")did the best. And the smallest guy, well, he couldn't keep it in my pussy and barely kept it in my ass.

To me, a person's "junk", whether male of female, is only as thrilling as their mind.

I am not female but...

For most guys we get just a wrapped up in the whole body complex as women do, some of us don't care and just use what we got while others will worry all the time, still others,mostly the guys that are large; will brag all the while not knowing that in honesty it could be a bad thing.

I have been with girls that are on the smaller size vagina as well as a few that had, had a few children and weren't so small anymore, shocking thing from all the women I have been with two fingers side by side together is about the max without the female relaxing enough to allow things to stretch out. Roughly 1 and a half inches or a bit more so take that into consideration too.

I am all for pushing boundries and what one is willing to do, but at the same time I think that "Bigger isn't always better" fits just right to this!

Well ive only had one dick in me ever,,,,,but

I would think that if its to big it would hurt

I say that because its how it is for viberators. I have bigger viberators and dildos that hurt because there to big. I also have viberators that dont do much cause there to small.

So I think it all depends what you like, how he uses it, and your body

I love the math up there! Awesome! As a couple who has been around the bush with ALL sizes of penis and toy, we must chime in!

First off, everyone talks about size, but no one talks about shape! Just like tits and vaginas come in all shapes, so do Dicks! When wifey and I met, she had been with anything from 2" to 9-10" and NEVER had an orgasm during sex. Later i found out the 9-10" guy had a thickness of a human thumb, which sucks. I am about 8.5" and just less than 6" in circ, but honestly i don't think that does it, it's the curve baby! I have an upward curve that knocks right into the cervix, and countless women have told me they can only get off with me, but some have said the curve get pokey too, so it's about anatomy matching for sure.

Secondly, to the guy who had the small penis and wondered about giving his wife pleasure from larger toys, go for it! The coolest thing about penis size is that there is only one guy who has the biggest on earth! And I don't think any of us are him. I think that a lot of us guys who enjoy using larger toys on our wives do so because we get a thrill from being humbled. I am above average, but i love seeing my wife with a larger toy than me, or with a fist. And for the longest time my wife said size didn't matter to her, but that she LOVED the idea that it turned me on, so she went along as long as we went slow and painless.

That is until the day she started asking for the fist when things got steamy, so the plot thickens I guess.

Third, any anatomy should be able to handle at least my size. My first long term girlfriend was a virgin. When we met, I used my index finger to finger her and it hurt and bled for a month whenever we tried fingering. She was so tight I wondered if she had a medical issue. But being 16, patient, and horny as hell we kept at it, eventually we had painful sex, then LOTS of non painful sex after a while, and eventually worked up to 5 fingers, almost fisting. Anything is possible with patience.

But really, i am more interested in making a poll on the SHAPE of the penis, not the size. We obsess over the shapes of toys here on EF, why not the real thing?

It depends on if your man can move it, but just try a larger dildo and you'll know whether or not it is better for you! I prefer a large cock, but my hubby is average size and he can still move it just as good! The large cock just fills me up so it's nice!