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Does sex get better with experience?

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Contributor: SheRa! SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
Comment to let me know about why you answered the way you did: one or multiple partners over time? multiple partners at a time? variety? routine? etc...

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Significantly better with time
45
Somewhat better with time
8
Like a roller coaster but a fun ride
6
Like a roller coaster but not such a fun ride
2
Long term plateau...
1
Somewhat worse with time
1
There's truth to the saying "It's all down hill"
1
Total votes: 64 (59 voters)
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Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Sex gets better with practice and communication.
10/30/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
Comment to let me know about why you answered the way you did: one or multiple partners over time? multiple partners at a time? variety? ... more
It's getting better. Over time I've figured out more of what I want and tried out new partners.
10/30/2012
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I've been with the same partner and it has gotten better with time. We've learned each other better and tried new things.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
This question comes up a lot. For a long time in the middle of our time together - it did not get better - it kind off trickled down hill.

But I refused to let it stand - finally my wife decided to stop fighting it and enjoy it. Things have gotten exponentially better since then.

Like many questions - simple yes or no doesn't tell the story.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Probably better with time. Always learning new things.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Definitely better. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we refuse to accept things as the way they are. We're always trying to keep each other interested, impressed, and most of all happy.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Interestingly enough, there's a silent truism that states that if you're XX age, you must have XX much experience. Considering my own history of non-experience, I've run into guys who refuse to stick around to let me catch up because they think there's something wrong with me for not knowing "enough for my age" and that sex isn't awesome the first time because of it (and I thought *I* had the fairy tale expectations ... )

I'm finding, for myself, that the sex is getting better and more comfortable the more often I have it, especially with the same guy who has the patience to let me catch up. This is a first in which I have both a long-term relationship and sex at the same time, and I'm finally realizing what you all are talking about concerning the privilege of having amazing sex with another person. It's getting better every time.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
Definitely better. We have been exploring more exciting things!
10/30/2012
Contributor: edenguy edenguy
Quote:
Originally posted by SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
Comment to let me know about why you answered the way you did: one or multiple partners over time? multiple partners at a time? variety? ... more
Definately gets better. Communication takes time and sex life gets better with communication
10/30/2012
Contributor: HB042 HB042
I had to pick both rollercoaster options. Due to a series of injuries and medical happenings, I actually can't remember the last time my husband and I had sex... this part has not been much fun at all. But before that, things were awesome!!
10/30/2012
Contributor: Alyona Alyona
Significantly better with time
10/30/2012
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
Mostly better with time, a few times it's gone a little routine, but we've bounced back.
10/30/2012
Contributor: pyratess pyratess
With my SO we've definitely gotten better with time. There are things we couldn't do when we first had sex that we can do now, such as me getting him off from cowgirl/being on top, him getting me off from sex without any toys, and we've both definitely gotten better at oral sex (;
10/30/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
It was a long haul for us--mostly me. Our sex life hit a plateau for awhile after about 7 years together. After being in a soso zone for a few months, we talked about things we could try to get it back to a good level. Then a great level--now it is an amazing level!! You need to keep working on it and not take it for granted.
10/30/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
Yes, married sex has been better since the trust has developed and we each know what each other likes. I miss the volume of single life though.
10/30/2012
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
Better with time and communication of what you like/dislike.
10/30/2012
Contributor: HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
Comment to let me know about why you answered the way you did: one or multiple partners over time? multiple partners at a time? variety? ... more
Like most of what I've experienced with life, when it's good it is wonderful, however it never lasts and I end up "crying" in the end.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Better with time, and better with experienced lovers.
10/30/2012
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Quote:
Originally posted by Supervixen
Better with time, and better with experienced lovers.
agreed.
10/30/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
It is SO much better with time. We have been together for 28 years and it's the best ever!!! The kids are gone and the house is ours to do what we want. Hubby has retired (but is busier than ever) and we enjoy our time together. We have introduced toys, furniture, and different things to change things up and it has been wonderful! I think the longer you stay with someone, the more comfortable you get, and the better the communication gets which leads to so many new things!!!
10/30/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
I think it gets better over the years!
11/01/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
IDK. I'd say most incredible sex takes lots of effort from the persons involved in it, and that effort is more important than how many years you've actually been having sex.
11/01/2012
Contributor: remember.me remember.me
It has definitely gotten significantly better over time. More change in the last year than in the first 7 years I was having sex. Multiple partners over time for me but in reality, it was learning what I enjoyed that helped the most and then refining the type of person I want to be with.
11/01/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by SheRa!
Has your sex life been like a fine wine getting better with time? or like a loaf of bread (stale, bland)?
Comment to let me know about why you answered the way you did: one or multiple partners over time? multiple partners at a time? variety? ... more
Practice makes perfect!
11/01/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think it depends. I CAN get better over time since trust is developed and you both know what the other person enjoys and seek after that. To often people get too comfortable though, and that can cause an issue. If your goal is always to please the one you love, than it shouldn't be an issue though.
11/01/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
kinda levels off, for me anyway
11/01/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Yes, better with time.
11/01/2012
Contributor: Shayla Shayla
better with time, plus its different with each partner and its soo much better when you actually truely love someone and are completely comfortable with them, and usually the longer your together and more often you have sex you learn more about eachother and do more things together
11/01/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
Way better
11/01/2012