As new parents with a three month old at home, we're curious what other parents have discovered about their sex life after a baby and how it differs from before pregnancy.
Before and After Pregnancy Sex
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I have two kids, one three and one 18 months.
After my three year old was born, my husband, boyfriend at the time, and I had split up. We were still messing around however, having sex daily, sometimes even twice daily. Some will say that you will do whatever for the ones you love, you matter how bad they are hurting you, and while I agree with that cause we had a lot of problems and stuff going on, I also wanted sex.
Then after our 18 month old was born, I lost my sex drive. I also had the mirena put in and if you read the side effects one of them is a loss of sex drive. While I still have no sex drive, I still love sex. So while we arn't getting our freak on daily, we do still have sex a few times a week.
Until babies are more independent, sleeping through the night, or most of the night, in their own room/bed, etc, finding time can get very difficult. See if you can find a babysitter for just a few hours to spend time together, have a nice dinner, or just a watch a movie together or something.
After my three year old was born, my husband, boyfriend at the time, and I had split up. We were still messing around however, having sex daily, sometimes even twice daily. Some will say that you will do whatever for the ones you love, you matter how bad they are hurting you, and while I agree with that cause we had a lot of problems and stuff going on, I also wanted sex.
Then after our 18 month old was born, I lost my sex drive. I also had the mirena put in and if you read the side effects one of them is a loss of sex drive. While I still have no sex drive, I still love sex. So while we arn't getting our freak on daily, we do still have sex a few times a week.
Until babies are more independent, sleeping through the night, or most of the night, in their own room/bed, etc, finding time can get very difficult. See if you can find a babysitter for just a few hours to spend time together, have a nice dinner, or just a watch a movie together or something.
07/10/2013
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Simply put...your children will grow up. They will leave. It WILL be only the two of you, one day, much closer then you can imagine. They go from cradle to grad school overnight. Believe me, we lived it. Unimaginable to you now. You will understand someday.
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C&K0143
As new parents with a three month old at home, we're curious what other parents have discovered about their sex life after a baby and how it differs from before pregnancy.
The point, however, is that TIME is the think you must, must, must find for each other. It is at the bottom of your list, no doubt, but get a sitter...even once every week or two. Go out. DATE, have fun. ADULT fun...just the two of you. Fall in love again. Stay in love. When all is said and done, your kids will be the most precious things in your life....but your spouse will be the only one there, in your life...unless you screw that up. We have seen too many couples do that too.
Sex can be great, but it is a tiny part of the overall picture. It is all about keeping your love for each other alive, even while doing the huge (and wonderful) chore of child raising.
Good luck!
07/10/2013
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