Do you avoid finger penetration as a prelude to other penetrating things?

Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I read here and elsewhere that some woman do not enjoy finger penetration, even if they enjoy other penetration. Not sure I understand that. Anyone here in that boat? Please explain.
03/28/2013
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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03/28/2013
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I never quite got it, either - what's the matter with fingers if other things are going in there? I'm especially puzzled by ladies who think it's gross to put their own fingers inside themselves, but not for their partners to do so.
03/28/2013
Contributor: jr2012 jr2012
I don't dislike it or anything....but fingers inside just does nothing for me. Not bad feeling, but not pleasurable. Girls with more easy to work with G-spots may disagree, but mine is a jerk.

I always prefer to skip it and go to intercourse! Just save the time and finger stamina
03/28/2013
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I'm personally not a fan. Fingers catch more on my pubic bone than toys or a penis and they press too directly on my g-spot, making it feel uncomfortable. Plus, they're lumpy and scratchy and I don't like gloves.

I'm not adverse to external touching with fingers or a hand, just not a fan of penetration with them.
03/28/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am not a fan of it either doing it to myself. If my partner did it I would not mind. I am not a big fan of it but I get something from it.
03/28/2013
Contributor: XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I'm always thinking of finger nails scraping me, or bacteria, LOL.
03/28/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
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Originally posted by XxFallenAngelxX
I'm always thinking of finger nails scraping me, or bacteria, LOL.
I agree on the finger nail part. I have long nails.
03/28/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I don't get anything out of doing it myself, but I like when other people do it.
03/28/2013
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
I love finger play! I have absolutely no issues with it.
03/28/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife enjoys finger play. We don't do it a lot - it's often part of a progression to larger toys.
03/29/2013
Contributor: Missy27 Missy27
I don't mind my partners fingers although its not my preferred choice for penetration. At times it's just scratchy and uncomfortable, but my own fingers definitely do nothing for me. It could be that my nails tend to be long, I don't know.
03/29/2013
Contributor: leanright69 leanright69
My wife is very happy to be fingered. Is often a part of foreplay.
03/29/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I like fingering -- it's true that more care is needed for fingernails and rough skin, but I like the feeling.
03/29/2013
Contributor: srexom srexom
no we don't avoid it.
03/29/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
Finger play is fine except during oral. For some odd reason I just don't like it during that.
03/29/2013
Contributor: raffi raffi
hmm, we don't avoid it at all. HOWEVER - if i have just clit stimulation and some slight teasing, i feel tighter or more swollen i suppose, when he puts his cock in me - so in other words i feel whatever the first penetration is more than whatever comes after it
03/29/2013
Contributor: marriedlady123 marriedlady123
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Originally posted by lilgrump
I love finger play! I have absolutely no issues with it.
me too!!
03/29/2013
Contributor: CE CE
From the subject I thought you were asking if some people avoid using a finger before intercourse so that there is more of a 'shock' factor when his penis is finally inserted. To that I was going to say I like both - sometimes its nice to warm her up with a good fingering while telling her how filled she will be when I finally get inside her, and other times its nice to really tease her with a fingertip and make her buck and grind to get it in, but not let it. She gets so excited and wants it so much that when it happens, that one big thrust feels simply amazing for both of us!

As for the real question, I haven't had a partner that didn't want me to finger her and I wouldnt be sexually compatible with her if she felt that way.
04/01/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't really care for it. Unless it's happening along with oral I don't like it at all. I don't think my husband really understands where to touch and doesn't seem to really care to learn, so it's usually best if he doesn't do it.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I'm personally not a fan. Fingers catch more on my pubic bone than toys or a penis and they press too directly on my g-spot, making it feel uncomfortable. Plus, they're lumpy and scratchy and I don't like gloves.

I'm not ... more
This is how I feel, too. I find fingers uncomfortable, not always painful, but not at all pleasurable. They are pokey & just don't do the job. If a partner really liked doing it, I'd be game to see how it went or to let them enjoy it, but it doesn't feel good when I do it, either, so I don't think it's a matter of someone's technique not being good.
04/01/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I read here and elsewhere that some woman do not enjoy finger penetration, even if they enjoy other penetration. Not sure I understand that. Anyone here in that boat? Please explain.
i enjoy it, but i also enjoy vibrators
04/01/2013
Contributor: candreotta24@gmail.com candreotta24@gmail.com
I love finger play. I really enjoy fingering and also using toys on my girl before we get to the main event.
04/04/2013
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by candreotta24@gmail.com
I love finger play. I really enjoy fingering and also using toys on my girl before we get to the main event.
We almost always include some digital work with our foreplay, many times I will give my wife an orgasm that way before I get inside her, that way she is all lubed up and relaxed for the main event.
08/19/2013
Contributor: mfmtrios mfmtrios
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I read here and elsewhere that some woman do not enjoy finger penetration, even if they enjoy other penetration. Not sure I understand that. Anyone here in that boat? Please explain.
I dont like to
use my finger(s) for foreplay. I work in a hospital all day and constantly touch lots of hospitally things. Also, sometime my wife feels discomfort from my fingernail, even tho I cut them.
08/19/2013
Contributor: cagypsy cagypsy
Sorry but I am all for finger insertion during foreplay. There are ladies who will let their partners but think its gross when they do? Good grief! Here I thought my room mate who has never masturbated and refuses to even think of it and is grossed out by the idea of it and toys was special.
09/25/2013