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Are you afraid of or uncomfortable with any of your sexual desires?

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Contributor: spiced spiced
There are a few things that pop into my head sometimes, either during masturbation or during sex with my wife that I'm not 100% cool with. A handful of really dark things — that really get me off. I'd rather not think about these things, even though they get me off.

Am I the only one? Or are you also not quite cool with some of your desires?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm a little uncomfortable with some of my sexual desires or fantasies.
24  (43%)
I'm VERY uncomfortable with some of my sexual desires or fantasies.
5  (9%)
I'm actually afraid of some of my sexual desires or fantasies.
I get so confused I'm not even sure WHAT I feel about some of my sexual desires or fantasies.
1  (2%)
I'm totally comfortable with all my sexual desires and fantasies.
26  (46%)
Other?
Total votes: 56
Poll is closed
03/22/2013
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Contributor: spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I am comfortable.
03/22/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I'm comfortable with them personally, but not everyone else might be.
03/22/2013
Contributor: srexom srexom
a few but it's not a big deal.
03/22/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I do not have any dark thoughts that pop into my head. Everything I am cool with and talk to the wife about.
03/22/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Comfortable with all fantasies or desires.
03/22/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I have fantasies that get me off, but I would never do. My desires on the other hand, I'm pretty comfortable with. I can't exactly talk to some people about them, but I'm fine talking to like-minded folk about my desires.
03/22/2013
Contributor: CSM2010 CSM2010
I'm comfortable
03/22/2013
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
There is only fantasy that I am uncomfortable with.
03/23/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I'm comfortable with them
03/23/2013
Contributor: Bme Bme
I am comfortable.
03/24/2013
Contributor: lilacviolet lilacviolet
In my mind, I'm completely comfortable with my desires and fantasies but I feel the opposite when it comes to trying to connect with other people, even my partner. I feel extremely uncomfortable with sex to begin with, period. I feel even more uncomfortable sharing or expressing my desires/fantasies with my partner. It's because my desires/fantasies are taboo almost in a psychological way (and unfortunately I haven't found other people I can regularly share with the same fantasies I have). One of the main things I desire/fantasize about is being submissive, fragile and being helpless, being taken physically advantage of but how can I roleplay that when I'm BIGGER than my boyfriend? My body isn't compatible with the body I want to role play. That is just one of many hurdles, I feel like it's impossible to act out any of my roleplaying fantasies because my body and my partner aren't compatible for them.
03/24/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I'm a bit uncomfortable, but only because I am easily embarrassed. I'm not really into anything unusual (mostly mild domination).
03/24/2013
Contributor: Silverwinds Silverwinds
I'm comfortable with all my desires and fantasies except for one, and that one I wish would go away lol.
03/24/2013
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
I am comfortable with all of them
03/24/2013
Contributor: Miss.Monster518 Miss.Monster518
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
There are a few things that pop into my head sometimes, either during masturbation or during sex with my wife that I'm not 100% cool with. A handful of really dark things — that really get me off. I'd rather not think about these things, even ... more
I have quite a few dark things i think about sometimes during sex.. some that have always been there also..for as long as i can remember.
03/25/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I think that when I first realized that I was into BDSM I was a little uncomfortable, and a few of my fetishes made me wonder. Over the years I have learned to be comfortable not only with who I am but also my kinks and desires.
03/25/2013
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
There are a few things that pop into my head sometimes, either during masturbation or during sex with my wife that I'm not 100% cool with. A handful of really dark things — that really get me off. I'd rather not think about these things, even ... more
I'm a little uncomfortable with some of my sexual desires or fantasies.
03/29/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I'm comfortable with maybe 98 percent of them. The others I'm only mildly uncomfortable with.
03/31/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I wouldn't say I'm uncomfortable, maybe confused as to why I have a certain desire, but I'm not sure that's uncommon.
04/01/2013
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
Can't seem to think it any at the moment so I will say yes I am comfortable
04/01/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
i'm fine with mine
04/01/2013
Contributor: Septimus Septimus
Some of the fantasies and desires I have make me a tiny bit uncomfortable. I've shared a little bit of it with my partner, and so far he seems to be on board, but we'll see.
04/02/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
I'm fine with my desires -- sharing them or reading about others' is a good way to work it out.
04/02/2013
Contributor: TJax TJax
I'm completely comfortable with my desires.

It's the fantasies that I don't seem to be in complete control of, but that's ok I would never act on them if I (and any other party that may be involved) wasn't completely comfortable with it.
04/02/2013
Contributor: LoneOokami LoneOokami
Im very comfortable with what I like and what my fantasys are
04/05/2013
Contributor: MrWood MrWood
I am comfortable with almost all of my desires. I've tried to ease into my desire for anal play on me, but my gf doesn't seem to get it. I'm too embarrassed to just ask her for it, afraid she will think I'm gay or something, which I'm not. I had a previous gf that introduced me to it, and I really liked it.

Any suggestions for making my current gf understand that I want her to play with me there without actually coming out and asking her for it? Our sex life is amazing and lacks nothing, I would just like to include this in it. I'm open for suggestions, Thanks!
04/11/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
There are a couple of things, but it's nothing I would ever act on.
04/11/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I'm totally comfortable with all my sexual desires and fantasies.
04/11/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
Yeah, all good.
04/11/2013