A question about how you would handle a sexual based conversation in mixed company?

Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
For the sake of the question, we are not talking about family or co-workers. What we are talking about is very close friends, friends, distant friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends who are strangers to you.

You might be at a party, a gathering, a coffee shop, out at a club, or wherever a conversation might start up between friends. Either way, you are in a group of these people and the conversation turns to sex, sexuality, fetishes and sex toys. What do you do?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I'd leave the group and conversation immediately due to being uncomfortable.
K101
1  (2%)
I'd stay, but only to hear what others say.
Cindi025 , Llahsram , joiedejouets , SourAppleMartini
4  (9%)
I'd stay and talk, but I'd say nothing that was personal.
Sweet-n-Playful , Chilipepper , Rory , js250 , Kitten has left the site , deltalima , Lily Night , noway , RedKyuubi , darthkitt3n
10  (22%)
I'd stay and even get personal, but only if asked.
apryls , PropertyOfPotter , Trysexual , Wicked Wahine , laflauta , Incendiaire , padmeamidala , WhoopieDoo , Liz2 , captainsgirl , charmedtomeetyou , LoveDrunk , Passion plum , Bignuf , ShadowedSeductress , *Camoprincess* , CaseyDeuce , Strider , nikki0668 , lilyflower
20  (43%)
I'd stay and share my opinions, even my experiences...freely.
kanida , Geogeo , novanilla , Sera26 , Gunsmoke , Chastity Darling
6  (13%)
I'd take over the conversation and lead it...sharing everything!
Nickki Hard , Ansley
2  (4%)
Other...please explain.
shorejen9 , JennSenn , Avant-garde
3  (7%)
Total votes: 46
Poll is closed
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Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
For the sake of the question, we are not talking about family or co-workers. What we are talking about is very close friends, friends, distant friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends who are strangers to you.

You might be at a ... more
Strangers? I'd have no interest in that, I don't think. Not on the first meeting. Unless it was only me & other females, then MAYBE. But I don't think I'd open up and really discuss something so private and intimate & personal right away with total strangers.
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Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I might open up a little bit if someone asks me something, but I wouldn't be someone to jump right in and offer all kinds of information.
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Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I'd stay for sure and listen, maybe share depending on the vibe I felt.
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Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I should have chosen 'OTHER'!

As with most topics, I'd jump right in, as long as I didn't get the feeling my involvement wasn't welcome. Heck, if they started the conversation in this mixed company, why should they have any problem with other's input?

If it's something simply overheard, or an individual group was discussing things, I'd wait until I was sure they welcomed input. That said, I wouldn't necessarily blab everything I do or have done, but I'd ask questions & share any knowledge I have about whatever they're discussing, especially if they are missing info or have what I know to be incorrect info.
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Contributor: laflauta laflauta
It depends on who is in the conversation. I'm very comfortable talking with friends and even getting a bit personal. But with strangers? I'd probably just listen.
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Contributor: Nickki Hard Nickki Hard
When it comes to sex or anything that has to do with sex, I have NO FEAR!
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Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'm not very chatty with strangers about anything, but give me a couple of drinks and I might divulge a little more.
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Nickki Hard
When it comes to sex or anything that has to do with sex, I have NO FEAR!
Ditto!
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Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
For me; it depends who is in the conversation. If I am comfortable, I will sometimes share. It is not uncommon for some women to ask me a specific question about a toy later on.
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Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
I'd stay, but I probably wouldn't speak.
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Contributor: joiedejouets joiedejouets
I'd hover listening in and remain quiet. I like keeping to myself about those things.
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Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
For the sake of the question, we are not talking about family or co-workers. What we are talking about is very close friends, friends, distant friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends who are strangers to you.

You might be at a ... more
im very open even with strangers.
01/29/2013
Contributor: shorejen9 shorejen9
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
I'd stay for sure and listen, maybe share depending on the vibe I felt.
That's exactly what I would do! My husband and I are the same way so we would talk and decide with a simple look at each other if we wanted to share personal info or not.
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Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I would share freely based on the vibes I was getting. I don't really care too much about what people know about my sex.
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've experienced this more recently while being with C. I'm rather an expert for some mysterious reason, mostly due to everything I've learned here at EF. (Heh.) I was even asked to identify the sex toys that were in the background of a scene of some show we were watching (for some reason, none of them heard of a Fleshlight).

On the whole, it's actually a relief that everyone acts more like adults than stupid teenagers. We have the odd dirty jokes, of course, but at least the conversations aren't comprised of giggles and myths and degrading horror stories.
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Contributor: Rory Rory
I'm pretty shy but I'd still hang around.
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Contributor: js250 js250
I would listen but not commentate unless really compelled to.
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Contributor: LoveDrunk LoveDrunk
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
For the sake of the question, we are not talking about family or co-workers. What we are talking about is very close friends, friends, distant friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends who are strangers to you.

You might be at a ... more
Expressing my sexuality is fun, but I'm a bit shy. Now, if I had a few drinks...that would be different lol
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Contributor: Passion plum Passion plum
I wouldn't get extremely personal but enough to make someone blush
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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
For the sake of the question, we are not talking about family or co-workers. What we are talking about is very close friends, friends, distant friends, acquaintances, and friends of friends who are strangers to you.

You might be at a ... more
Sometimes you have to judge the group you are in, and speak accordingly. I have no desire to shock or offend anyone. However, if the conversation gets racy, and everyone stays...hey, they chose to be there and listen. What they hear after that is their own doing.
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Contributor: JennSenn JennSenn
I probably would not contribute but it really depends on how comfortable I am. I may become more comfortable as the conversation progressed and contribute more. And if this had happened previously I would probably contribute more.
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I would add to the discussion in a discrete way - nothing too kinky.
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Contributor: Lily Night Lily Night
I would listen out of curiosity for sure. But as to the personal stuff I think I would keep it personal.
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Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
What I would do depends on how personal and detailed the conversation is.
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Contributor: noway noway
Depends on the situation..
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Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
Depends. Share a little, but not a lot
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Contributor: SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I like to keep my private life private.
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Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
I am very open about sex and sexuality. I will talk to anyone about anything really (well obviously not super personal type things) and I work in a sex toy shop during the day so I talk to a lot of complete strangers about sex often...
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