my husband and best friend think i am, but lately i havent wanted sex because of how my hubby talks/act to me so its his loss the last week. my friend said i am b/c on a good week we have sex 3 -5x. to me thats not a lot. id love daily sex but im 26 he is 37 and works 65 hrs a week. hes always tired

I do not discuss our sex life with anyone but him and my bff - on occassion

My parents said that because I often joke about sexual things including hinting about my sex life. Never real explicit, but I guess I bring it on myself when it comes to them. If they were cool they'd just smile and add their own quip, or even tell me to stop, anything but accusing me of being obsessed simply because I have an active sex life. And they made a huge deal and tried to lay a guilt trip on me when I lost my virginity. Yes it was the wrong person, but they didn't have to act like I killed someone.

Hmm, your first boyfriend sounds a lot like my husband! :-/

I'm in the same boat...my husband is older (38-I'm 24) and works a good 70 hours a week. On one hand I can understand his being tired mentally and physically, but it's still frustrating to me. I work, too-it's not like I'm completely out of touch sitting at home demanding sex.

My darling hubby says this all the time.....and I care a LOT. He says to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE never change that aspect of my personality. It is something he "cherishes" more and more about me as time goes on. He calls it my :gift" and his "lotto winning in life".

As he reads this with me, he says he "cannot imaging a husband being UPSET by this about you....assuming the "sexual obsession is ONLY towards him".

If it is not true at all...well, then it sounds like you have some other serious marital problems going on. As for your parents???? How do they know ANYTHING about your sexual appetite or lack thereof????

Anytime I hear it, it is a SINCERE compliment.

I couldn't say that one way or another. Don't know the woman, but I wonder what on earth those other people are referring to that even makes them say such a thing???

HINT. Parents and your sex life should NOT meet..not in quips, not in jokes, not in hints, not at all, not ever. YOU set yourself up for that one.

WOW...a guy "sexually lazy"??? Never met that one. Glad I never dated such a guy and sure am happy I'm not married to one. I would no sooner give that major pleasure aspect up then marrying a "romantically" lazy guy or a "motivated to succeed lazy" guy. ALL those are critical aspects to me. I often wonder why woman "settle", rather then hold out till they FIND a guy with the features they want. They really are out there. I dated enough and married one.

Get a marriage counselor kiddo...quick. We are both over 50. We are both professionals and get up and to work BEFORE 5 am, OFTEN six days a week. We would consider a 65 hour week to be VACATION!!!! Yes, we are TIRED. We are also IN LOVE and we manage to have sex....and enjoy each others physical company (including dancing together or taking walks, and going out to dinner (meeting for late dinner, really) all the time. We actually have "sex" easily three to four days during the week and several times on weekend days we have off. Neither of us would have it any other way. If we are TOTALLY exhausted, what a better way to chill then a quick love making session and then a GREAT sleep. Even watching the news on TV or a late TV show, can be "play time" as I will simply unzip him and suck him gently while watching TV or he will put his hands in my pants, or up my skirt, and pleasure me, just while watching TV, for gosh sakes. You can be BUSY, TIRED and STILL have a great sex life. I think it may be your LOVE LIFE...not sex, that is a problem.

I wish you much improvement. Seek some professional help, since it sounds like the path you are on is NOT going to lead to mutual happy times.

GUYS....I don't get this. YOUR RELATIVES know how often you "do it"????? YIKES. I don't want to hear this from MY relatives and sure would not share it with them, either.

A close relative knows yes, because we talk about a lot of things. If you are insinuating that I broadcast it to my whole family, then no.

You are right. Obsession means an unhealthy drive to do something in an unhealthy way. Your sex drive certainly sounds healthy and normal.

I have NO freakin' idea why this man thinks you are "obsessed" with sex. Most men would be ecstatic to be with a woman who wants sex every day. Dare I say most men who don't want sex that often have an issue themselves?

I want sex every day, and my husband continually tells me how lucky he is, and how so many of the guys he works with and his buddies rarely or nearly never get laid.

IMO, healthy people have healthy sex drives and want sex frequently.

And MEN who respect their wives don't tell them their NORMAL sex drives are abnormal.

This guy.... I swear. You know how I feel about him.

As for your parents, honey, WHY? Why do they even know? Do me a favor, as a friend, do NOT talk about sex with your parents. It is NONE of their business. It's.... icky.... that they even know how often you want sex. [italic|Build and keep some boundaries with these people. Start by keeping their noses out of your bedroom and OUT of your head.

One of the ways you let your parents know you are an adult is to have boundaries. The other is for all of you to respect them. NO parent should know what is going on in their adult children's sex lives. My two older daughters are barely considered adults, are not married and I have no idea what goes on in their sex lives, and it supposed to be that way!

My parents have no idea what goes on in MY sex life, and it's supposed to be that way. I NEVER mention it. My kids never mention their sex lives (in the context of what they are doing and with whom) to me. It keeps them adults and keeps all of us respecting each other's boundaries. They would no more tell me about their bedroom exploits than I would tell them mine, and that is NEVER going to happen. There are people you CAN talk about your sex life with, but your parents and your kids are NOT those people. Ever.

There are things you need to keep to yourself, in order to be self reliant and be a full adult. What goes on in your sex life is one of those things.

If you want more respect from them and to be treated like an adult STOP sharing personal shit with them. Seriously. When I talk to my parents, I talk about the freakin' weather, or current events or my aunt's gall bladder surgery or something. The LAST place they belong is in my head or in my bedroom. And oddly (or normally, as it should be) I am treated as an adult.

My parents are NOT my confidants. No one's should be. Parents are the people who raised you. NOT FRIENDS. Parents and their children should never be friends. Take that from someone who has raised three children. (They are NOT my friends and I NEVER pry in their personal business.)

Put them on the back burner and keep your life to yourself. I guarantee that at first they will rebel and PRY harder, stand your ground. Eventually, they will realize you are not going to give in and quit bothering you.

To be treated like an adult you have to act like one. Stop telling your parents private things. NO good can come from them knowing these things. Start by keeping your private stuff private. It can ONLY make things better for you. I am completely honest about this. You have to put some (emotional, and preferably also physical) distance between these people and your private life if you EVER want to be treated like an adult.

You can do it. Good luck.