To cum or not to cum

Contributor: <3BF <3BF
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but am in the same boat when it's my turn as I will also usually opt for sex. What do you think? Should oral be the opener, the finish, or the main event?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
finish with oral
Lurr
1  (2%)
both start and finish with oral
jay28 , wrecklesswords , Tagmstr , RavenWolf88 , Hallmar82 , Howells , averageguyextrodinarypleasure , froggiemoma , padmeamidala , blacklodge , ily , cjvr , PandJ , Nkev , MissCandyland , P'Gell , WD40watcher , xOhxSoxScandalousx , icyqueen , Bignuf , libbyv , Mikemanz , apryls , Trysexual , Mrs.Tee
25  (44%)
only start with oral
<3BF , LAndJ , geliebt , Midway through , Sexymami69 , LavenderSkies , Stagger13 , xxSuzakuxx , captainsgirl
9  (16%)
have oral at some point but not as the main course
eeep , PeppermintFuntimes , (k)InkyIvy , OhMy! , prttynink , SexyStuff , Doah , Gracie , LennaKieran , SugarAndSpice , Pi , ddd masturbator(bye all!) , jenny10 , hiroshiro , Lummox , potstickers , Deeder , SavingMyself , RememberMe , XxXxX , Meido , nikki0668
22  (39%)
Total votes: 57
Poll is closed
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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12/29/2011
Contributor: eeep eeep
Honestly, oral is good at any point, but for the main event I need penetration (whether anal or vaginal). Though I don't feel the need to wait to get off until sex, multiples are a great thing.
12/29/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but am in the same boat when it's my turn as I will also usually opt for sex. What do you think? ... more
I can go either way. I really enjoy getting my pussy eaten and can cum that way every single time. I also love intercourse driven orgasm or switching between.
12/29/2011
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
It's kind of a mixture of both with my girlfriend and I. I love it when she goes down on me and makes me cum with it, and she loves it too. But sometimes, if she's really horny, she'll stop me and ask me to finish her off by fucking her. Which I love doing just as much. And sometimes I'll do the same thing. It really just depends on the mood.
12/29/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I love doing both, but I always like variety.
12/29/2011
Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I just like to go with the flow, no particular order or preference for me!
12/29/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
We nearly always start with oral unless just looking for something quick. Occasionally, just oral for each of us and we decide to go to sleep.
12/29/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
We're the same! It'll be a starter, generally.
12/30/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I love oral whenever, but it tends to be a lead in for sex to me. Boy do I wish I could orgasm from ANY sexual contact at all though Jealous!!
12/30/2011
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
I like I change it up sometimes just oral can be fun but it usually is meant to lead to sex
12/30/2011
Contributor: Doah Doah
mid-foreplay? I usually eat out my girlfriend and then she does me, or vice versa, but it's usually always before sex. very rarely do we have oral afterwards usually because the smell and taste of latex...well sucks! I don't mind it, but she does so yeah~
01/02/2012
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I would be bothered by it midway into sex. I would prefer if it happened at all, to be before. An opener, definitely.
01/02/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Quote:
Originally posted by Doah
mid-foreplay? I usually eat out my girlfriend and then she does me, or vice versa, but it's usually always before sex. very rarely do we have oral afterwards usually because the smell and taste of latex...well sucks! I don't mind it, but she ... more
Yeah, the latex taste sucks. Even flavored condoms are no good and they usually aren't for internal use. We don't use condoms any more thanks to bcp but if we did there would not be oral at the midpoint.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I like to have oral as an opener, and get my orgasm with PIV sex. My husband on the other hand, likes to make me come during oral, than again when he's inside me.
01/02/2012
Contributor: Sexymami69 Sexymami69
Oral usually leads to sex, but those surprised occasions he'll get me to orgasm with oral and just go to town on me afterwards. Or oral can be desert as well
02/23/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but am in the same boat when it's my turn as I will also usually opt for sex. What do you think? ... more
Hmm, I could not answer any of these. It's because of the way My Man and I have sex. We don't divide it up into "he eats, she eats, they fuck, they come." Nor do we use the "F" word in our house. (Foreplay.)

We usually start with kissing and fondling he might go down on me for a while, I might give him oral for a while, then we'll have PIV for a while, then it's back to oral or me, maybe with a butt plug or probe for me, then we'll pull out a dildo and the Wahl, so I can have my first orgasm, then, he goes back to giving me oral while I'm having some more orgasms, then I might give him head for a while, (I usually then come again when I give him oral sex) then back to PIV, then some more toy play, more oral, then if we're both in the mood he may rim me and we'll have anal sex. If he doesn't come from that (it happens) then we'll wash up and go back to more oral and maybe some PIV usually ending in that case with him coming during this. Or some other variation of this, while pulling out.... or during a blow job.... or a hand job....or during more anal.... I may have an other orgasm, usually an "Aftershock" after all this.

Yeah, a couple of hours usually does it.

I come whenever, usually during oral with a toy, or while he fondling and licking me with a toy and our trusty Wahl, but it's far from over, even if he comes first. There's still stuff to do.
02/23/2012
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
It depends who I'm with. I don't like to have a set routine for everything though. I've noticed that sex gets very boring when we decide, "OK, we can only have oral at the beginning, then penetration, then orgasm, then sleep."

If my routine became that monotonous, I wouldn't be interested in having sex. We do whatever we like whenever we like.
02/23/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
It just really depends before, during, and after happen in our sex life, though I prefer not to give oral to finish him. It just doesn't make my sex feel complete without a load in my ass or vag.
02/23/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but am in the same boat when it's my turn as I will also usually opt for sex. What do you think? ... more
We start with oral.
02/24/2012
Contributor: snuggly snuggly
There's never a bad time for it
02/24/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
^^^I agree snuggly, there's never a bad time for it.
02/28/2012
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
I sort of fall into the category of "take it any way you can get it". I love being eaten out, but I feel that by finishing that way I'm more or less cheating my husband out of something.
06/08/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
Quote:
Originally posted by eeep
Honestly, oral is good at any point, but for the main event I need penetration (whether anal or vaginal). Though I don't feel the need to wait to get off until sex, multiples are a great thing.
I agree! I love a good O from oral, but I will still want penetration at some point. Thank god for multiple orgasms!!
06/08/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but am in the same boat when it's my turn as I will also usually opt for sex. What do you think? ... more
You both need to chill sometimes and just enjoy oral for oral sake and forget about anything else. Really get into the feeling...let yourself go, and allow yourselves to have a SUPER nice orgasm that way.
09/05/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Deeder
I sort of fall into the category of "take it any way you can get it". I love being eaten out, but I feel that by finishing that way I'm more or less cheating my husband out of something.
My hubby never feels cheated if he just makes ME cum (nor to I feel cheated, if I suck him off, and even though I am soaking wet down there, and wanting him...I KNOW that LATER, I am going to reap my just reward)...just as HE knows that after making me cum, it may be in an hour, ten hours or tomorrow...but he WILL get his in a big way.

It is ALL a win/win situation. Just does not need to be a 1:1, tit for tat at the same exact time, as some people feel compelled to do.

If I know he had a GREAT meal at work, it does not make me feel cheated at having had to grab a bite from McDonald's, that day. IT all works out over time!!!!
09/05/2012
Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
For us the main event is pretty much always intercourse. Although I can orgasm quite a few times so on the occasions where I get oral I always orgasm. When I give my husband oral, he does not, because a: I like to have him finish inside me and b:I don't swallow and I don't like cum on me(both for pretty much the same reason, I can't stand the texture) or basically anywhere besides inside me.
09/05/2012
Contributor: Luca77 Luca77
My lover and I open with oral, sometimes we both cum to it ( me more than her, haha), and then we have intercourse.
11/14/2012
Contributor: Mikemanz Mikemanz
i'd rather have vag than oral to cum, jus' sayin'
11/14/2012
Contributor: MrsHouseWife MrsHouseWife
I love to cum either way, but sometimes I just want the oral orgasm, which for me is a lot different to my sex orgasm. Most of the time I prefer a sex orgasm.
11/14/2012