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Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
(This is the one that I MEANT to put in this section LOL)

My wife sometimes says that I press too hard on her clit with my tongue. She is sensitive, but I don't feel like I am pressing really that hard. ??? Its almost like I have to barely graze her clit with my tongue before she says its "ok". Anyone else like that? Is she just overly sensitive or do I not know my own strength lol!
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Contributor: Khanner Khanner
For me, this has definitely happened with fingers, but never with a tongue. I prefer the whole area to be stimulated before direct stimulation on the clit.

Some people have extremely sensitive clits and they can't stand being touched on the glans until they're about to cum. This may be the case with your wife. Try starting off licking around her clit or on the hood/labia/vagina and when she's worked up enough, start gently on her clit.

Or maybe you just have a really buff tongue, who knows?
03/16/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife prefers if I vary the pressure. Always soft at first and gradually increasing pressure.
03/16/2012
Contributor: HugsAndBites HugsAndBites
soft first, then in between
03/16/2012
Contributor: dhig dhig
sometimes my girl gets quite sensitive, yeah
03/16/2012
Contributor: cottonxcandy cottonxcandy
I like a lot of pressure from the get go. I don't have a super sensitive clitoris though.
03/18/2012
Contributor: terry62 terry62
in between for me
03/18/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
In between. If i get too much stimulation it starts to become numb and whatnot.
03/20/2012
Contributor: goofballmaster goofballmaster
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
(This is the one that I MEANT to put in this section LOL)

My wife sometimes says that I press too hard on her clit with my tongue. She is sensitive, but I don't feel like I am pressing really that hard. ??? Its almost like I have to barely ... more
My girlfriend likes me to vary the amount of pressure.
03/21/2012
Contributor: hey steady hey steady
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
(This is the one that I MEANT to put in this section LOL)

My wife sometimes says that I press too hard on her clit with my tongue. She is sensitive, but I don't feel like I am pressing really that hard. ??? Its almost like I have to barely ... more
It depends...mostly on how much action my clit has already received! x
03/21/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
In between although leaning on the harder side rather than softer.
03/21/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
i dont understand how u can press ur tongue to hard but my bf is def to rough with his fingers
03/21/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Everyone's different and one person can like different things at different times. Makes sex fun
03/21/2012
Contributor: tinadice tinadice
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
(This is the one that I MEANT to put in this section LOL)

My wife sometimes says that I press too hard on her clit with my tongue. She is sensitive, but I don't feel like I am pressing really that hard. ??? Its almost like I have to barely ... more
In between
03/21/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
In between. I also hate it when my husband press too hard, and I'll tell him to stop doing that immediately, it's a total turnoff for me.
03/22/2012
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
My wife likes it soft at first but hard as she gets excited
03/22/2012
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
I second that, start soft and indirect. Finish with firm and direct. Rinse and repeat.
08/03/2012
Contributor: Two Grand Two Grand
My lady likes me to suck on her clit, and then she cums like crazy every time.
08/03/2012
Contributor: Chefbriapink Chefbriapink
Variation shes just ultra sensitive
10/14/2012
Contributor: Red Riding Hood Red Riding Hood
Hmmmm I've never had oral before, but when it comes to touching or toys, I have to be FULLY excited and prepared before I can take more than gentle grazing DIRECTLY on my clit. It's like I have to work up to that. Eventually it feels amazing, but it takes work.
10/14/2012
Contributor: mentalhealthmatters mentalhealthmatters
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
(This is the one that I MEANT to put in this section LOL)

My wife sometimes says that I press too hard on her clit with my tongue. She is sensitive, but I don't feel like I am pressing really that hard. ??? Its almost like I have to barely ... more
All about variety and depends on how stimulated (if at all) I am before they start

If I had to choose I think I like a slow build of pressure and speed (so starting off very light), right up until I can't handle it any more and then back way off, more gentle, more variety in stimulation, and then building again
04/12/2023
Contributor: abee abee
It depends on the person, but also definitely depends on what you mean by the clit. If you're licking the clit directly then yeah, it only takes very little pressure for most people. The clit contains approximately 10,200 nerve fibers, all packed into one tiny area, so things get intense there. Areas around the clit are usually a little less sensitive, so try licking the clitoral hood and beneath the clit near the labia minor.
Aug 18, 8:22 pm