Of course.

This.

Only I asked my husband, not Beck's husband. That would have been weird.

So the question is, would I date a girl that never sucked my dick, YES! I really want to get into her brain; what makes her unique; what makes her a special person that attracted me to her in the first place. There is more to relationship building than her just sucking dicks!!

My hubby married me...and oral fanatic. However, he say's that in a dating situation, if ANYTHING between him and his lover were "off limits" (nothing is between us...never has been), it might be a real deal breaker. I feel the same way, actually. I think the relationship would end way before it got TOO serious. Too much incompatibility.

Bingo. Where else might a "line in the sand" be drawn at couples play and happiness??? Would not go there, sorry. If it is a "relationship" then whatever makes the other partner happy becomes an important thing to me.

I am doing the same, different woman of course =P

Haha. Great answer.

I guess if I loved someone I could handle it but I find it hard to believe I would love someone that never went down on me, that's a hard one to swallow (hehe pun time).

If she is willing to try other things...

I would expect her to leave me if I did not give every effort to make her scream with delight.

I'm one of those guys you very well describe. My wife (while she has done it) refuses to. If I could do things all over again, I would never have stayed with her more than the first 6 months instead of 17 years.

And just like you said about a person's refusal being an insult that they find your body gross, My wife actually comes out and says that right to my face. "No, because that's disgusting." Unfortunatly my wife doesn't like oral of any kind, giving or receiving. She also doesn't like sex that isn't man-on-top. She outright refuses everything most of you all take for granted. Things like grabbing and stroking your man's cock in between penetrations, or kissing at any opportune moment during sex. But for the longest time I was under the belief that this was what "normal" women were like and that my desires were just unrealistic and that my frustrations and the bad ways her refusals and comments make me feel were MY issue and that is was all me. But after years of being on sites like this, more and more, I've learned that it's my wife who's the odd one and that my bad fealings are actually well founded.

Being in a sexless marriage I not only suffer the sexual neglect from my wife, I am further downed by the masses. Everyone's first thought when I express my whoes is that it's all my fault by proxy because I'm the man. If my wife doesn't want to have sex with me it's because I don't satisfy her enough, or it's because I must treat her badly.

You are right, if you don't take care of your partners needs and desires, how can you expect them to do it in return and/or not seek it from someone else. Pleasing your partner should be job #1 and the very thing that pleases you most, and if both of you have that belief then both of you will find your relationship fulfilling. I love going down on women and I'm cool to do it all night without a return, but my wife won't let me. But if I was with a woman who loved me doing that for her all night, and she longed to also go down on me all night, we both would be in heaven.

I would like to write more on this matter but the post office will close soon if I don't get off this computer.