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Contributor: MartinM MartinM
...when you know she's doing it mostly to please you?

I'm a guy in early twenties. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman, we've both had girlfriends/boyfriends before each other, but this is the first serious relationship for both of us.

We've been having sex for some time and it's been great, we have also started to talk about some of the more kinky things that we enjoy. One of my biggest fantasies is ejaculating on a woman's face, I've loved that from the very first time I was allowed to do it with my first GF. I enjoy her submission and willingless to allow it, I love the way she looks after, and I quite like lightly dominating her.

I've always tried to respectful with facials, and all of my GF's have allowed it. The one thing that I've felt guilty at times, is the fact that when we have talked about it, I know they're doing it mostly to please me, not finding it uncofmrotable, but not getting much pleaseure either.

I've talked about facials with her, she's told me that she has done it with previous partners, and her feelings are similar, it's not her favourite act, but she likes pleasing and doesn't mind doing it.

Now, I'm having a lot of mixed feelings about doing facials with her. It somehow feels wrong when I know she's up to it just for me. I don't think I've been a jerk with my previous GFs, but maybe I haven't cared about them as much.

I'm just not sure what to do, I would love to give her a facial and she's given me permission, but it feels kind of inappropriate when I know how she feels about it.
09/03/2012
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Contributor: satinlady550 satinlady550
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Originally posted by MartinM
...when you know she's doing it mostly to please you?

I'm a guy in early twenties. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman, we've both had girlfriends/boyfriends before each other, but this is the first serious ... more
At least you are respectful enough to talk to your partner about what you like and care about her feelings. kudo's to you! If she has agreed to it then you shouldn't feel guilty. You are right she isn't getting any sexual pleasure out of it but she is willing to do it because you like it. If you don't do it all of the time then I don't see an issue with it..
09/03/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by satinlady550
At least you are respectful enough to talk to your partner about what you like and care about her feelings. kudo's to you! If she has agreed to it then you shouldn't feel guilty. You are right she isn't getting any sexual pleasure out of ... more
Exactly!
09/03/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
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Originally posted by satinlady550
At least you are respectful enough to talk to your partner about what you like and care about her feelings. kudo's to you! If she has agreed to it then you shouldn't feel guilty. You are right she isn't getting any sexual pleasure out of ... more
I third this! Communicating like this is spot on! I wouldn't make it something you do every night, but more for once in a while.
09/04/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
My advice? Continue to communicate with her. You're off to a really good start communicating, so keep building on that. Tell her everything you just posted here. Explain your feelings to her completely, including your reticence to go forward with your agreed upon arrangement.

Nothing bad will come from continuing to build on the good foundation of communicating that you've started. So keep talking to her until you both get to a place of complete comfort with the request - whether you both agree to go forward with it or not.

Best wishes!
09/04/2012
Contributor: MJ7 MJ7
I think you are being extremely respectful and considerate just in thinking about this and worrying about it! Kudos

As long as she is okay with it, I don't see any harm. Communicate about it as much as possible. Ask if she has ever felt objectified, embarassed, etc when doing this in the past. Talk about ways to make it as enjoyable as possible for her.

If she really cares about you and wants to please you, this will probably turn her on to see YOU turned on. Just remember to treat her next time with something that gets her revved up.
09/13/2012
Contributor: Jace Jace
I had to learn over the years that women love to please guys as much as we love to please them. I say, if she doesn't like it...she'll say something.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Flover Flover
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Originally posted by MartinM
...when you know she's doing it mostly to please you?

I'm a guy in early twenties. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman, we've both had girlfriends/boyfriends before each other, but this is the first serious ... more
You definetly shouldn't feel it's wrong.
Theres nothing wrong with a guy cumming all over his girlfriend's face.

She's made it clear that it's not something she couldn't handle before, and she's agreed to let you do it because she wants you to be pleased and satisfied.

So given that, you shouldn't hold back.
Enjoy your desire to the fullest, that's exactly what she expects. IF you seem hesitant it might lead to her second guessing: "I've made an effort and given him premission to cum on my face because I understand it's important for him and I want to satisfy him and make him happy, so why isn't he taking advantage of that?"

Once you've talked and established that she's OK with you cumming on her face, she expects you to do just that, knowing what a great desire it is for you. So feel free and relaxed to go for it.
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Contributor: abee abee
I'll second all these opinions It sounds like you have been very respectful and communicative, and are sensitive to her pleasure as well as your own. If she has indicated that she's okay with doing this, then it's fine!
Continue to communicate about it and also consider some things she might like that you are comfortable doing for her, even if they aren't your favorite. (And if they are your favorite - win/win situation!) I think balancing both of your pleasures/kinks is the way forward here. You don't have anything to feel guilty about, but ensuring that she is also having a great time when you sleep together will probably make you feel more secure about it. Communicate about some things she would like to try out, and incorporate the things you know she enjoys.
04/30/2023