im definitely going to have to try that out because it sucks for me he can't get off orally very often but I can get him to when I want him to > I don't though because then I don't get any sex!

After decades with a hair trigger ability to orgasm, my body decided to get itself a "Clit O Steel" a few years ago. I was always able to come while he was giving me oral sex, and it was really hard on my man (and me) when I wasn't able to. (One night he tried for THREE hours, I couldn't. We were both in tears. I felt worse for him than I did for me.)

After that I resigned myself to the fact that I simply NEEDED a really heavy duty vibrator. Not a battery operated one (although those are fantastic for warm up and helping me get "almost there" along with oral and manual sex.) I bought the Wahl 7 in 1, massager. FANTASTIC! It is one of the strongest and best vibrators for those of us with needs that are intense.The Wahl Massaging Vibrator Talk about Power!

I also have a Hitachi. Hitachi Super Strength Vibrator I like and and I can orgasm from it, but I prefer the Wahl. Both are Plug In vibrators, and look very much like back massagers (which they work really well for, too) but they are SO much stronger than any battery vibrator I've tried.

What we do is to have him stimulate me, we kiss and hug and I give him some head, then he goes down for quite a while, we add a vibrator (a phallic vibe at this point) then I feel like "It's time" and we grab the Wahl. I need vaginal penetration AND clit stimulation to come, so we use either a phallic vibe (usually turned off) or a dildo or his hand, which is really nice (some shallow anal stim helps, too. If I'm in the mood for it, and My Man has grabbed one of the plugs or bead toys, or sometimes he just uses his hand) Then he either lies cross ways across my body, or next to me, and helps with nipple stim and/or penetration, and I put the attachment of the Wahl on my clit and away we GO! It can take anywhere from 2 or 3 minutes (which I really like, because then we can go on to other things, and I have more orgasms) or up to half an hour or more. We change it up, he may change his position, we've done this during anal sex, he sometimes knocks the Wahl away and goes back to oral, I might give him head while we're doing this. Whatever works. Nipple stim really helps for me.

It sounds like a lot of work, but we've been able to seamlessly incorporate this into our sex routine (it's MORE than "routine" we don't do the same way every time) and it provides me with the comfort that I know I am usually going to Come (sometime I still don't, but we'll try again) and My Man realizes that it is STILL "all him" as it is always better with him doing all the stuff I couldn't do alone.

Good luck. You may just need to find the right heavy vibrator. Oh, and if either of us is having a hard time coming, we find a few scenes of porn help too.

That's why my tag line is "What ever it takes."

Your man would probably LOVE the fact that you like lesbian porn, because most men also enjoy that, so you could watch it together! With my husband and I, we have pretty different taste in porn and like different styles and types, so we don't really get too much enjoyment of watching porn together, because usually it's one likes it and the other doesn't.

But if it will help you, you should work up the courage to tell him. He would probably like to hear that!

Oh, that must suck! Oral is the best thing I've found to make me orgasm! Trying new things might help if you're willing to experiment on yourself to find where your most sensitive parts are.

i cant orgasm from oral either. ive never even come close. but yes i do use the water in the bath. if you have tried all the clit vibes out there and it still doesnt work. buy a cheap vibrating toothbrush at cvs or something lol. that does it for me. and FAST!.

What about the Wahl plus penetration? That usually works for me. It doesn't always work unless I have something in me. My Man's hand, a vibe (usually turned off, because the Wahl is plenty) or a dil or even my Smart Balls. The Wahl alone usually frustrates me, I have to pair it with something.

For me, this works after he go crazy with oral for a while and I'm RIGHT THERE. I used to be able to get all the way there, just from him, but hormones did me in.