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My fiancé isn't into it. Are you or your partner into in? Men, how would you describe the feeling?

When giving head...
Just how far do you (can you) go?

To cum or not to cum
My girlfriend doesn't like to have the big O with oral but prefers to finish off with sex. I love to make her go all the way by eating her out, but..

Getting Cunnilingus..any awkwardness?
My ex only tried to give me cunnilingus twice and both times were so awkward because I knew he wasn't enjoying it so I couldn't enjoy it. This new...

I'm very sorry to hear this. This can be more common than you think, and I've actually experienced this previously from your wife's point of view. It was very frustrating and I felt hurt at times, because I felt like I was doing something wrong.

First thing is, if you haven't, reassure your wife that she is not doing anything wrong and that you are loving it! Make sure she knows that there is more going on than just the usual *little stimulation followed by ejaculation* and that it's just not enough.

That I am aware of, this can be cause by things such as stress, hormones, a physical problem or possibly a ton of other things. First thing is to consider your age, diet and any other changes you've made recently to your life. As we grow older, even a difference of 5-10 years can make a difference when it comes to our hormone levels, and diet can also affect our sex lives. Also consider any stress such as a change of job or new kids that maybe could be playing on your mind whether you realize it or not.

Maybe talk about it with her.

Those are just the basic things. As far as what to physically do, we switched positions a lot, which helped. Changing it up can make it feel better and more fun. Have her move from between your legs to next to you leaning down. Alternate if she is willing between penis-to-vagina to oral. Toys might be nice, I can't recommend any prostate/anal toys but I do know that the Tenga Flip Hole Black is great! Also, we liked getting those little Tenga Eggs and cutting a hole in the end so we can use it like a cheap throw-away sleeve.

I dated a guy who couldn't come from oral. It was just something he had a really hard time doing and I didn't take it personally. If you can't, you can't. I know a lot of women who can't have an orgasm when someone is going down on them. It happens. Just take it in stride and maybe talk about ejaculating in her mouth after intercourse, if that's the part she's missing.

I know several people who can't come from oral, often it's too "slippery" for them. Some people just need more stimulation, more friction, or the mental stimulation of other things. I've also known guys who've said it's hard for them to come from oral because they are just too anxious about coming in someone's mouth. There's nothing wrong with any of those reasons, or any other reason!

As Squire said so wonderfully, "Less orgasm dependence and more pleasure focus" -- that is so important. The orgasm isn't the end-all-be-all pinnacle of sexual experience.

I'd keep reassuring your partner that you enjoy it despite not coming (if you do! be honest!). If you want to try new things, does she also use her hands at the same time, to stimulate your shaft and balls? Have you tried stimulating/warming/co oling lubes or something like a mint or ice cube? Certainly adding perineum or anal stimulation is another option. But, again, assure her that spicing it up doesn't mean you require an orgasm to enjoy it.

I read that some people (which could be me) cannot cum unless being in control of the situation, anyone else heard of this?

Up until the age of 22 or so, I was unable to have an orgasm by either oral sex or hand job (my own hand worked fine, but I just could get off with someone else's hand). I don't know what happened, but I just started being able to "submit" to the sensations and just enjoy the moment, and not focusing on the actual climax.

From what I've read (here and elsewhere) it's not that uncommon... And is probably even more widespread than we know. I've known a couple of guys who would never let me finish them in my mouth because "your pussy feels so good, babe" (or words to that effect). But does it really? Or did they just know that it wasn't going to happen unless.... ?

make sure she (and equally as importantly - YOU!) is not getting upset about it! If you think about it on the flip side, it's the same as women not easily being able to cum from vaginal penetration....it feels awesome but something else is needed for orgasm. No one in the situation is failing in any way.

have you ever had her just open her mouth and you doing all the work?