Giving to receive or receiving to give?

Contributor: zipbro zipbro
When giving oral sex is it with the understand your partner will return the favor? When receiving oral sex is it with the understanding you will return the favor to your partner?
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When I give oral it is with the understanding my partner will return the favor.
4
When I give oral it is with the understanding my partner does not have to return the favor.
35
I receive oral with the understanding I will return the favor to my partner.
2
I receive oral with the understanding I do not have to return the favor to my partner.
14
I feel cheated if I give and do not receive in return?
3
I am bummed out if I give and do not receive in return?
1
I am fine with giving oral sex and not having the favor returned.
15
I feel I am cheating my partner if I receive and do not return the favor.
4
I feel fine with receiving oral and they know I will not return the favor.
3
Total votes: 81 (45 voters)
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Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
Quote:
Originally posted by zipbro
When giving oral sex is it with the understand your partner will return the favor? When receiving oral sex is it with the understanding you will return the favor to your partner?
When I give oral sex, it is expected that my partner will /not/ return the favor. I don't like receiving it, and if my partner attempted to reciprocate, that would be a turn off.
06/07/2013
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
My partner doesn't really enjoy giving oral sex, and is so-so on receiving it. So if I'm giving it to her I have no expectations about reciprocation, and on the rare occasions she's giving it to me it's totally appreciated but not always reciprocated (depends on her mood). I'm quite enthusiastic about giving oral, and like receiving it occasionally but not always.
06/07/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Although we often give a blowjob to each other without the other returning the favor, I usually feel left out if it is not returned within a day or two. For that reason, I think 69 is the best way to go.
06/07/2013
Contributor: GingerSpice GingerSpice
i love to give, but won't complain if i recieve
06/07/2013
Contributor: amandaco2011 amandaco2011
I very much enjoy. I don't care on way or another if I get any in return.
06/07/2013
Contributor: never shy never shy
I like to give and recieve usually oral is just forplay so who ever gives does not recieve that night unless it is a 69 but we both give and recieve. We do not have any agreement or understanding we both just like oral
06/07/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Each of us ALWAYS returns the favor.
06/07/2013
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
he doesn't have to return the favor but he does
06/07/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
she does not have to if she does not want to. I just enjoy making her feel good.
06/07/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
I give and receive without any expectations. She tends to want to give more than I do, so it works out
06/07/2013
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
I generally feel bad about giving just because I'm so bad at it, but as I've improved I've come to face it as I do all sexy things - I love to give, no strings attached! Seeing his reaction is more than enough.
06/07/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
Quote:
Originally posted by zipbro
When giving oral sex is it with the understand your partner will return the favor? When receiving oral sex is it with the understanding you will return the favor to your partner?
There's never something so mercenary as a tacit agreement that if I 'scratch your back'... but I'd certainly appreciate it if the favor was returned. Even better, can we do it at the same time?
06/07/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I don't expect it in return. If they want to, then sure...if not, that is cool, too.
06/08/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
While I will give with absolutely no expectation that it be returned then I make it very clear with partners that may become long term that I do enjoy receiving, and actually have more intense orgasms from oral than from manual stimulation and that if they are unwilling to go down on girls in general then it is a deal breaker.
06/08/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by zipbro
When giving oral sex is it with the understand your partner will return the favor? When receiving oral sex is it with the understanding you will return the favor to your partner?
I never do things with the expectations of getting anything in return. My mom's always told me that is doing things for the wrong reason. You're supposed to do them because you either want to or because you should -- not in the case of sex or oral because you should never do it only because you "should." But anyways, I don't do it just to get it in return.
06/08/2013
Contributor: TJax TJax
She almost always gives me oral, I often give her oral too but not as much. Neither of us require the other to reciprocate though.
06/08/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
we don't make each other do this if we do then we do it if not that is fine but usually I give and he receives a lot more
06/08/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by zipbro
When giving oral sex is it with the understand your partner will return the favor? When receiving oral sex is it with the understanding you will return the favor to your partner?
i give cause he loves it, but won't hold him to returning...i won't complain if he does though
06/08/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
No one has to return if we don't want to.
06/08/2013
Contributor: WestTexasBarbie WestTexasBarbie
When I give it, he always reciprocates without prompting.
06/09/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I give to give.. I don't expect anything in return.
06/11/2013
Contributor: jake53 jake53
I love giving my wife oral, and I don't expect it in return. I rather masturbate while giving her oral, this way the timing is right and we can come together.
09/18/2013
Contributor: Diablotin Diablotin
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
I never do things with the expectations of getting anything in return. My mom's always told me that is doing things for the wrong reason. You're supposed to do them because you either want to or because you should -- not in the case of sex or ... more
Amen to that.

I give because I love to give great satisfaction to my wife. If she feels like reciprocating, then sweet, otherwise, I'm still sure we will have lots of fun.
09/18/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
he doesn't seem to enjoy receiving oral. in fact, he's never asked for it. ooohhh, however, he certainly enjoys giving me oral.
09/18/2013
Contributor: Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Quote:
Originally posted by jake53
I love giving my wife oral, and I don't expect it in return. I rather masturbate while giving her oral, this way the timing is right and we can come together.
Me too
09/18/2013
Contributor: pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
I love giving and receiving! But just because I give doesn't mean I receive every time
10/01/2013
Contributor: Layenna Layenna
In my particular situation I do it occasionally trying to get her to "return the favor" but since it's been about 4 months since she's gone down on me I'll probably just wait until she does again.
10/02/2013
Contributor: Leopard Kittie Leopard Kittie
I dont mind giving oral at all. I actually like giving it. BUT I don't really like having oral done onto me- am I the only girl who doesn't like it?
10/03/2013