That's kind of like saying, "well, I know you don't really like anal honey but let's do it anyway" -- if she doesn't like it, for whatever the reason, she doesn't like it.

It's really not enjoyable if your partner doesn't enjoy it - or if the sensations do nothing for you Try to remind yourself that he really does enjoy it - and wants to please you! Then again, maybe the sensations just aren't enough to bring you over the edge!

I hear you. My ex -never- gave me cunnilingus because he didn't want to; he said he "would if I REALLY wanted him to." Needless to say, I didn't want it at that point. My current partner really enjoys giving cunnilingus. I was nervous the first time since my ex had made me feel so ugly about that part of myself, but I ended up really enjoying it and orgasmed with a partner for the first time. What helped the most was relaxing, focusing on the pleasure, knowing it was something he wanted to do, and- honestly- his reassurance that part of me was beautiful and if I didn't like it, he also wouldn't be offended. That last part was most helpful, I think, since it took the pressure off. I had it stuck in my head that he would be doing this thing he probably wouldn't even like, and then I would hate it too-- and man, was I off!

Agreed, and I never ask for felatio (nor would I force her to do anything she didn't want to). In fact, I often ask her what she would like me to do.