Deep throat = only good head?

Contributor: heather-mooney heather-mooney
My boyfriend doesn't really like receiving head, only because I gag a little bit when I can't go as deep as he likes. Do you think going deep is necessary in giving head?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am male and
38
I am female and
60
deep throating is necessary!
7
deep throating isn't necessary
67
deep throating isn't necessary, but I do it anyway
32
I refuse to deep throat
6
other
3
Total votes: 213 (108 voters)
Poll is closed
10/26/2012
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10/26/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I don't think its necessary to deep throat if you can't then you can't your boyfriend should just appreciate that he is even getting oral sex from you. You can always use your hands to stimulate the lower part of his penis and play with his balls That is what I do when I am not in the deep throating mood.
10/26/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's not at ALL necessary! I don't do it much because it's much more difficult than not. I use my hands a lot which totally helps! I agree, your boyfriend should appreciate whatever you're willing to do to him!
10/26/2012
Contributor: Jesyra Jesyra
I enjoying doing it and I'm lucky enough to have almost no gag reflex, but it isn't even close to necessary. Use lots of lips, tongue, and your hands and it should work fine for him.
10/26/2012
Contributor: DiscretionAdvised DiscretionAdvised
I don't know how "stretchy" the skin on the shaft is of your SO, but it's pretty easy to trick the sensation on me of being deeper. My wife just puts her thumb and pointer finger around the base in an "O", squeezes a little and gentle slides her fingers up, stretching the skin upwards about an inch. Then she doesn't go down as far, yet my penis still thinks its all the way in.

Of course, unless he is into pain, you might want to be gentle. You wouldn't want him to feel like you are trying to pull off his penis or anything.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Andrew1992 Andrew1992
I think deep throating isn't neccessary. You can have great head without it.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Lavendar Lavendar
it is not necessary
10/26/2012
Contributor: Boyfriend Boyfriend
I don't think it is necessary
10/26/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
I think its pretty necessary
10/26/2012
Contributor: AliMc AliMc
I occasionally gag just from brushing my teeth...
10/26/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by heather-mooney
My boyfriend doesn't really like receiving head, only because I gag a little bit when I can't go as deep as he likes. Do you think going deep is necessary in giving head?
I do it for him.
10/26/2012
Contributor: Huff Huff
I don't think it is necessary
10/27/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It helps - my wife has learned over time to go deeper - but I don't want her gagging, so she decides on the limit - and its deep enough to work for me.
10/27/2012
Contributor: AK Bunny AK Bunny
Quote:
Originally posted by heather-mooney
My boyfriend doesn't really like receiving head, only because I gag a little bit when I can't go as deep as he likes. Do you think going deep is necessary in giving head?
Totally unnecessary. Most of the nerve endings are near the tip and then the underside anyway.
10/27/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I don't deep throat they get what they get and that is that. I am no pro but have had no complaints either.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
Everyone is different. I think guys like deep throating not always because of the way it physically feels, but because they are turned on by the idea of having someone take them so deeply like that. It's psychological, like a lot of things in sex. It may not be "necessary" to get the job done, but it's clearly something that he likes. I don't need penetration to get off, but I sure do enjoy it and crave it. I also don't need to to be spanked or have my hair pulled, but it enhances sex times a million, so why not?

That being said, you can't help that you have a gag reflex that prevents you from deep throating. Not everyone is capable of doing it. Hopefully, he understands that. Perhaps you could just use giving him head as foreplay and not worry about it being the main event. Even if you can't take him as deeply as he wants, I'm sure it still feels good--it's just not enough to get him off. No biggie--there are plenty of other things you guys can do to satisfy each other.
10/27/2012
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
I would be sad if my boyfriend insisted I deepthroat or not have him in my mouth at all. o_o He absolutely loves it when I can, but when I can't, he doesn't mention it and he still enjoys it. He's pretty understanding.
10/27/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
My man prefers lots of work around his head. Deepthroating doesn't do much for him, so it's unnecessary for us.

Everyone has different preferences, so what makes the perfect blowjob for one man will be totally different than someone else's perfect blowjob.
10/27/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
My husband actually prefers that I don't deep throat. It doesn't add any extra sensation for him.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Danneh Danneh
I don't see where deep throating is that amazing- it's nice for mixing things up, but not necessary.
10/27/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Deep throating adds extra sensation, but there are a dozen of different things that you can do that feel just as good. You can give a great blow job without it.
10/27/2012
Contributor: goo goo
You don't need deepthroat for great oral. But I guess it depends on the person. For me, it doesn't look comfortable for the lady.
10/29/2012
Contributor: The Majikat The Majikat
Its not a need. At all. but it can be fun
10/30/2012
Contributor: pyratess pyratess
Not necessary by any means but if you can do it, go for it
10/30/2012
Contributor: zz1aag zz1aag
Quote:
Originally posted by heather-mooney
My boyfriend doesn't really like receiving head, only because I gag a little bit when I can't go as deep as he likes. Do you think going deep is necessary in giving head?
never
11/01/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by heather-mooney
My boyfriend doesn't really like receiving head, only because I gag a little bit when I can't go as deep as he likes. Do you think going deep is necessary in giving head?
Its not necessary but some do prefer it.
11/01/2012
Contributor: DigitalSweety DigitalSweety
I've never had a guy complain. He's usually so happy to have his dick in my mouth that he's not going to complain about the details.
11/01/2012
Contributor: LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Quote:
Originally posted by DigitalSweety
I've never had a guy complain. He's usually so happy to have his dick in my mouth that he's not going to complain about the details.
Haha! Exactly.
11/01/2012
Contributor: <3BF <3BF
Honestly you should only go as deep as you are comfortable with. If he can't necessarily cum from anything but deep throating that shouldn't mean that oral sex is outright rejected, especially if you are putting forth the effort to offer.
11/01/2012